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Hello,
Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you might be going through a tough time trying to work and study at the same time. We understand how difficult this can be.
You might consider calling 2-1-1 to see if there are any resources around you that can help you find a job that will work with your studies. You might also visit local job websites or postings to see if there are any part-time jobs near you. Finally you may consider talking to your school and asking for help finding a job and balancing school with work. Your school may have a career center that can help you out.
If you are in need of housing resources, please visit HUD.gov for more information.
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Guest repliedI am 24 I want to make money but I have to study for exam what should I do ?
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Hi thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you have been struggling to put a roof over yours and your children and are trying to figure out how to best support them and yourself. That is great that your sister has allowed your children to stay with them for the time being. It also sounds like your living situation with your boyfriend and his family is frustrating and not safe and you are wanting to leave. It can be especially hard trying to leave an abusive situation with having nowhere to go. An option is to go to a shelter and even if there is a domestic violence shelter possibly in your area. If you would like help looking for these options, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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Guest repliedI am 35 years old women. Story of my life....I am currently living with my "boyfriend" and his family (Both parents, 2 sisters one is in her late 20's and the other one is around 38 and his 2 minor sons). I want to get a way from here. I lost my father about 2 years ago and my life has been spiraling since then. Within these last 2 years, I've lost my home. I am a single of mother of 3 daughters. I have arranged for them to stay with my sister and her family meanwhile I try and figure things out. I couldn't live with myself to have them go without and be homeless on the streets. I believe children deserve to have a roof over their heads, a bed to sleep on, a comfortable place to shower and food when they're hungry. They don't need to see their mother desperately trying, but failing and homeless or unstable bouncing from house to house..So, fortunately my sister agreed to take them in--Thank GOD.I don't stay there with them because she already had a full house not including my girls, and she took them in. There isn't enough space for me so I decided to have my kids there and I will figure things out and get myself back up on my feet with high hopes of getting a job and an apartment of my own and get my girls back...Well, that is still my plan, but i'm taking a bit longer than I planned too.
So as of now, well the last year I've been staying on and off with my bf and his family. They are hispanic and I am Asain(Cambodian) so there is a language barrier at times between myself and his parents. Since I've step foot into this house I've felt very uncomfortable. Not only do they judge, they talk alot of trash too. I don't like to be lied to or gossiped about. When I'm in their presence solo... like one on one with any one of them, they'll talk to me and act very nice and caring, but as soon as they are around each other... here comes the dirty gossiping about me and the unnecessary judging and criticizing. I feel like a major outcast. My boyfriend says he loves me, but never once has he defended me or corrected his family about anything they'd blame me for. He's hardly even here...He tends to leave at suspicious hours late at night and I won't see him for a few days, sometimes almost a week.. Can't get a hold of him because he doesn't answer my calls or text..When he comes back and I ask him about his where abouts, he always answer in such a defensive tone and gets very upset and before I know it, we're arguing again. Then because of that, he'll use that for an excuse to take off again.. He's not working right now, so it doesn't make any sense as to why i'm sleeping in his bed alone every night. But then when he is here, he treats me bad. I feel like a joke to him and his family. And he takes me for granted. He was gone for a whole week straight. There wasn't any form of contact from him. So One day I decided to go out and get some fresh air. I like to walk plus, I don't have a car anymore.. anyways, he has his neighbors watching me because the moment I left from his house, suddenly he starts texting me and decides to drive by to his house. Notices I'm not there and gets super angry. I Got back around 2a.m He was furious, but still not there. The following day he was texting me all these disrespectful things and threatening me. That following night, late night he comes home.. He gets on top of me while I am sleeping! Sleeping!! Who does that!! I wake up in a panic cause I don't like the feeling of being suffocated. Now I am fully awake and he's yelling at me, accusing me of sleeping with somebody else because I didn't answer his call.. He was so sure..And then he puts his hands on me... For what he was assuming. And he is wrong.. I no longer feel safe here, And he doesn't respect me. He thinks he can tell me what to do And What I'm not allowed to do as he is so openly doing what he's doing as he pleases. I don't want to call the police on him, I have enough problems already. I'm currently unemployed and receiving GR from the Department of Social Services. My benefits period is about to expire soon. So I don't have money. I am capable to work, but I can't do much If I'm living here. He makes it so much harder for me and plus dealing with the treatment here with the rest of the household doesn't help my situation. I'm literally going to go insane if I don't leave. And I want to leave, but i don't have nowhere to go and no money....
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Hi thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are feeling frustrated at home with your parents and are wanting to leave. Just because others might have it “worse” as you say, does not invalidate what you are going through. You mention not really wanting to talk to your parents about this or anyone else for that matter, which is understandable. But without talking about it, there is no chance at things getting better. If you were interested in having a conversation and having someone mediate that conversation, we can do a conference call with them if you were to call into our hotline. If this interests, you or you would like to talk more in general about what’s going on, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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Guest repliedI'm 15 (I'll be 16 in October) and I don't want to live at home anymore but I'm scared to contact someone. I don't trust anyone in the area I live at because everyone is close and I can't ask my parents to leave, they wouldn't let me, it'd turn into a fight, and I'm afraid. I really want out but don't know what to do. I don't want to cause a scene and I'd rather not have to talk a lot to someone or to my family.
Honestly, I'm not physically abused and my family tells me they love but they constantly say things that hurt me and don't respect my privacy or they set a standard I can't reach and then give me an absurd punishment. For example: I really wanted to go to a theater thing with my group because I was new and my mom expected straight A's so I could go, if I didn't get them I couldn't go and would have my stuff taken away from me (phone, tv, etc.).
I just feel so unsafe and don't know how to explain it, I feel like I'm being overdramatic or just dramatic in general. There's people who have it way worse and I'm just complaining it seems.
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Hi, it sounds like you've been dealing with some strong stress for a while. We're here to listen and here to help. Talking with someone from our team on a text chat or on the phone could help, whether it's to discuss a plan or coping techniques. We can be reached by text at 1800runaway.org or phone at 1-800-786-2929.
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Guest repliedI want to runaway from home I frustrated from my life
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Hi there,
Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you're going through a really tough time at home and it's understandable why you're thinking about leaving.
If you are interested, we can help you make a plan to deal with your situation that will maximize your safety and happiness. We can also share important things to keep in mind if you do choose to leave home. No matter what you choose, we support you. The NRS is here 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We hope to hear from you soon!
Good luck!
NRS
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Guest repliedIm 14 i want to run way From home but i have no where to go my parents are verbal abusing me i talk to my home teacher but she don’t know what to do
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Hey there,
Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are glad that you are asking for help. It sounds like life at home is truly horrible for you and very harmful to your mental well-being. You deserve to be unconditionally loved and supported for the beautiful human that you are and we are sorry that you are feeling forced into a life of marriage and experience threats and gaslighting often from your parents. That is not right. We are here to help support you as best we can.
Although we are not legal experts here at NRS, but since you are legally the age of an adult in most states (over the age of 18 years old), you are able to leave your parents’ home without parental permission. That being said, we can offer transitional youth shelters for you in your local area that would be able to get you away from home. If you call us (1-800-RUNAWAY) or reach out via chat at 1800runaway.org (click on the “chat” button), we’d be happy to provide those resources for you.
If a shelter is not an option you would like, then perhaps consider if there is a trusted friend or family member that has your best interest and would allow you to stay with them.
You mentioned dealing with depression is the 988 Suicide & Crisis Hotline, dial 988 on any phone and the Mental Health America Agency that can help you locate a local mental health support group at 703-684-7722 or reach out on their website at : www.mentalhealthamerica.net. We care about your well-being, and you deserve to be supported—if these resources do not help, please reach out and we can provide further support.
If you do decide to leave home in the meantime, perhaps consider bringing along your valuable items if you decide to not return back home to your parents. So, if you are seeking a job once you move out, think about bringing along your ID’s, Birth Certificate, medical records, etc. If you take any medications, you may want to think about making sure you take what you have now and plan on how you will get it in the future. We are sure you already considered this, but just think about vital items you use on the daily that, if you were not to return home, they would be difficult to replace.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon, our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Please be safe,
NRS
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Guest repliedHey, I’m a 19 year old girl who hates but loves my family. They’ve abused me when I was little, I’ve been verbally abused too and still am to this day. I cannot live the life I want. They treat me like I’m a doll and they are in control of me. They threaten me and gas light me. I’m already depressed, I was diagnosed with it for 7+ years and my depression came from schools bullying and from my parents. I hate my life. I understand they think thing’s differently since they lived in a different state but I tried to explain how things changed but they don’t care, they want me to be married soon but I’m not ready. I really wanna run away, but I also don’t wanna leave my mom behind. At this point I’m stuck overthinking.
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We are not able to give people apartments. We can connect people with shelters or other housing programs in their areas. We believe that everyone deserves to live somewhere safe and achieve happiness and freedom, and will always do what is within our power to help people toward that goal.
For specific housing program referrals, we prefer to provide them over our confidential chat service or over the phone, since the information needed to provide them could be used to identify people. For that reason we prefer not to conduct that over our publicly visible forum.
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Guest replied578 I want to know what your help is towards us do you give an apartment or not
I really don't even understand they are only there to tell us that we have to put up with something that we don't want, for example, there are teenagers who cannot live with their parents and the only thing I hear is that they are still minors and what are they living for?and it is the truth
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Guest repliedSo I'm 18 years old. Going to be 19 in March. My stepmom wants me to get a job and I've been really trying. But in my town, no ones really hiring. (My town is small and in the middle of nowhere). My stepmom has been slowly getting really toxic to me (I live with her, her brother, my dad, and my 3 siblings. She's also pregnant). She said something today that makes me think they're going to stop paying for food for me to eat. I can't drive and I don't have a car anyways. I have no where to live (my birth mom has two kids with her and is struggling to find a place of her own so I cannot stay with her.) I need someone to reach out with ideas of what to do. Thank you
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