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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety. For situations with split up parents, where you live is usually determined by the guardian with custody at the time. So leaving for the other parent’s house might also be considered running away.

    If you want to talk more specifically or in depth about your situation, please give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

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    I'm 17 i was told if your parents are split up and you live with and if you leave while underage you have to move with the other but i don't want to move with the other i want to move with a friend or someone else in my family what do i do ?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Best of luck!

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    I’m 15 and I do t know what to do. My dad causes stress on my entire family with his aggressive behaviour. It’s like no one talks any more in my house. We yell than stomp off to cool down. We come back just to yell again. I want a break even for a few weeks but I don’t want to make my mom upset. I love her but my dad can be awful. We all just scream until we can’t. I’m afraid to ask my friends to stay with them because it’s embarrassing and my family judges me. I don’t even think my mom would let me stay with someone else because the fact that our family is falling apart embarrasses her. She hates that she married my dad but she’ll never leave him.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

    If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hello l am 12 years old and l want to leave home because l feel like l am all alone and no one wants to hang out with me or be with me.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,

    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things have been very difficult and stressful for you. Your family not wanting you to be around, and contemplating suicide sounds scary. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and we know that you have been very brave to reach out to us and ask for help; that takes a lot of courage.

    We hope that you will reach out to us again through our live services, because we address each person and their unique situation with personal service and to focus on options that are specific to you. We can search for shelters for you and listen to you and believe you.

    The best way for us to help you is by talking with you through our confidential services, and we are here for you 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
    We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I have no money my family doesn't want me around. My friends don't. I have nowhere to go. I feel trapped and I don't even know if I want to be alive. Soon I'll literally have nowhere to go. I've contemplated suicide but I don't want to hurt my mother. I need a refresh but have no money

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out during this difficult time. It sounds like you are feeling trapped at home and are lacking resources. Although you are not thrilled about the job your mom is approving of, it might be a good idea to take what you can in order to save up money so you can move out and pay for transportation and housing. There are housing groups in Chicago, IL that might be able to help you get on your feet. You can check out the National Homeless Shelter Directory at https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ to find other shelters in your area. You can also reach out to your local United Way by dialing 211 to see if they have any specific LGBTQ+ youth shelters in their database.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi. My name is James. I am 19 years old. I’m a transgender youth from Orland Park Illinois. I cannot stand living with the lack of support in my life, but I am broke and unable to leave the house to get the job I want due to the recent pandemic. My mother would only allow me to have one job she’s approved of and it is not up my alley. I am a college dropout and I suffer from a lot of anxiety and depression. I have autism and was recently hospitalized for suicidal ideation. The doctors told me to get out of this environment as soon as possible, within a few months, if I could. It has been too long since then. I need out. My parents are starting to forget to use my pronouns again and get annoyed when I correct them. A lot of what they and my brother do trigger my PTSD and other issues. It is not good for my health. But, yet again, I am broke, and have no money to pay for transportation, medication, housing, or even a phone bill on my own. Every time I tell them I’m leaving they talk me out of it due to these reasons and the fact that no one would ever take me in. What should I do? I’m starting to lose hope.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

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    Guest replied
    im an 18 year old girl from zimbabwe. l am really fed up with life. l am always being shouted at for stuff l didn't do. My guardian has a lot of mood swings. all my relatives appease her as if she was som e goddess so none of them fully understand me. l really want to run away from home because l can't deal with it anymore. my grades are really good

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. Unfortunately we are based in the United States. Because we are based in USA our knowledge or resources in other countries are limited.
    We are sorry to hear about what you are going through that sounds awful. You may want to consider calling your local police. We want you to know that you are valuable and worth living. In India the Suicide Prevention Line is +918376804102. Best of luck
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am a girl of 19 i live in india kerala.. i m horribly depressed and tortured by my parents. i want to leave my home immediately or i will commit suicide by today itself. where should i go?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS
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