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    My family do not treat me right I want to run away but I have no were to go and I want to still finish school but I can’t on my own and I don’t have money and I don’t know what to do

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hey there,

    18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to leave because of my siblings but have nowhere to go and my mom doesn't want me to leave but I want to what do I do

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello, thank you so much for reaching out to us. We are deeply sorry to hear about the situation that you are in. We want you to know that all of your feelings are completely valid and understandable. You truly do not deserve to be in a household that causes you so much pain. It sounds like you have reached out to your mom in such a mature and gentle way, we are so sorry to hear that she continued to stay distant after you wrote such a beautiful letter. It can be very scary to open up your heart to someone and it was so brave of you to do so. Writing a letter to her filled with your true emotions was very big of you, it is not fair that you got nothing in return. We are so sorry to hear about not only the emotional torment you receive but the physical abuse as well. You really do not deserve to be treated in such a way by your parents and it is so terrible that they plot against you and how your mom has changed so much over time. It is completely understandable that you are considering running away or taking your life and we are so proud of you for bringing up these concerns to us.
    To begin, we would like to offer the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline as a resource that is available 24-7, free and confidential. Their number is 1-800-273-8255. We would also like to say that if you ever find your life in immediate danger, we urge you to dial 9-1-1 for support. Along with these numbers we would like to offer the number of Child Help which is the National Child Abuse Hotline and their number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever find yourself in need of a place to stay then the Homeless Shelter Directory is a resource you may be interested in to find somewhere safe to be. You can find the website at https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ . Along with this, we ourselves also offer to find resources or information. If you are ever in need of support, guidance or need to make a plan, find shelters, come up with some ideas for next steps or just have someone to talk to then please feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929.
    Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. You are so brave and we are proud of you. You are a valuable human being and your life is worth so much. We are always here for you, free, confidential and available 24-7 if you want to call or chat with us. We’re here to listen, here to help.

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    Hi... I’m turning 16 next month, and I have had enough of my family. I feel trapped and helpless. I need to get out of here because I fear that I might actually hurt myself. I have tried reasoning with my family, but that doesn’t help at all. My dad is abusive emotionally and physically. He has a mental disorder, and it has really taken a toll on the whole family. He’s been mistreating me ever since my sister was born, when I was three. My mom used to stand up for me, and used to comfort me. She was the “trusted adult” that I would turn to. But now, she seems to have grown tired of everything​​​​​​. She is very depressed, as am I. Unfortunately, she has been taking out her stress on my sister and I. She’s no longer the mother I knew before. She’s constantly yelling at me and going off on me. The littlest things will upset her, like if my sister and I get into a small disagreement. She loses her head all the time. Lately, she’s been very distant. She’s constantly pushing me away, and the only time she speaks to me is when she’s upset. I can’t even remember the last time she told me she loves me. I can’t even remember the last time she’s shown me any kind of affection. One time, she was so angry with me that she wrapped her hand around my next and had me pinned against the wall. I’ve had beatings before when I was younger, but that was most recent and very different. She’s never shown so much aggression towards anyone before. It scared and hurt me. She used to be my savior, and now she’s my biggest reminder of how messed up my life is. I’ve tried to talking to them, but it never works. I haven’t spoken to my dad in 2 months because of his last physical altercation with me. When I was trying to defend myself and get him off of me, he tried to get me arrested. So since then, I haven’t spoken a word to him. My mother and I seem to always argue, and I really miss my old mom. I even wrote her the most emotional letter I have ever written, and she failed to show any emotion other than anger and disappointment. It didn’t feel like a stab to the heart. It felt like she was slowly slicing my heart open. My heart literally hurt. I am completely destroyed. I never seen my life getting this out of hand. I’ve considered removing myself from this world so many times, which made me feel so much worse. They are constantly plotting against me when they think I’m in my room. I literally hear them discussing what they’re gonna do next to punish me. I have absolutely no control and no idea why on what to do. It seems to come down to two options. Leave home or leave this world. I don’t have anywhere to go though. I live in Florida and I’m only turning 16 in a month. That leaves me with little to no options. What am I gonna do?? Please help

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a tough spot and you want to move out of your home. If you are interested in shelter resources while you you find a more permanent housing option, you can go to www.homelessshelterdirectory.org or you can contact United Way(2-1-1) which is an information and referral line for resources/services. The Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD.gov; 202-708-1112) can provide you with your state's affordable housing programs as well as other supportive housing services.

    From what you shared, your current living situation is placing you under quite a bit of stress. You deserve to get the support that you need while you take your next steps. If you are interested in counseling services you can contact the National Alliance on Mental Health at 1-800-950-NAMI or use their crisis text line to speak with a counselor immediately by texting "NAMI" to 741741.

    We hope this information is helpful.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    I'm 27 with a job that pays next to nothing, a husband who is as done with me as I am with him and little family or friends. I need to get out of here a.s.a.p but have no where to go and don't know what to do.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are dealing with a difficult situation at home. Home should be a supportive place, and you and your family do not deserve your father’s poor treatment. Sharing your story is a good first step.

    It sounds like your stepmother is a good support for you. Will you be able to keep in touch with her when she leaves? Are you able to start making a plan to move in with her once you reach the legal age of adulthood? Is there something you can do in the meantime? Reach out to friends, spend less time at home, etc.?

    We are not legal experts here. Your safety is very important. If you ever feel in danger, 112 is the emergency number in Brazil for immediate assistance. For general inquiries to the police, call 197. They might be able to answer some of your questions about leaving home.

    Child Help is the National Child Abuse Hotline in the United States. They provide information and resources about abuse. Their website is childhelp.org. They offer live chat services available 24/7.

    Again, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. If you would like to discuss your situation in further detail, we have a 24/7 chat option available. Go to 1800runaway.org , go to the chat icon, and click chat now. We are here to listen and to help.

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    Sigh, hello, I'm from Brazil, I live in Ceará - Caucaia, and I am pleading for help.
    My mother died, and my father moved us to my stepmother's home which was in Fortaleza. Years later we moved to Caucaia, as we couldn't pay rents anymore.
    We built a small 4x4 home in an indian community, because my father found out my grandpa was indian. Well, we successfully managed to move, but the debts that came crashing down on them made us financially poor and limited.
    I was an innocent child, I had no idea my father was involved with so many bad things about relationships. My stepmother is a great, sane person, I am proud to call her my mother.
    But my father devalues her, he doesn't assume his mistakes, he always made my real mother cry, if I remember. He thinks we can't live without him, that without him we'd be dead in the future. And I'm angry at his assumptions, because HE LEFT HIS JOB, AND HES DEPENDING ON MY LOVELY STEPMOTHER FOR EVERYTHING WHILE STILL HUMILIATING HER. I HATE THIS. HE THINKS JUST BECAUSE I AM HIS DAUGHTER I HAVE TO AGREE WITH HIM, EVEN WHEN WRONG! NO! I WON'T! He always mentions that in the Bible you have to always obey your parents, forcing me to do it, but the fact is, I don't believe any bible, I follow what's right and what's wrong for humanity, but I am no atheist, I believe in God's existance.
    Also, he always tries to expose our "mistakes", saying we're evil beings, when in fact, we're just being rational beings and recognizing what we can and can't do.
    I am hopeless about him, he never changes, I waited THE YEARS OF MY LIFE'S STABLE CONSCIENCE for him to change, he doesn't.
    My stepmother is planning to leave with my lovely, autist stepbrothers who I promised to my stepmother, my two stepsiblings and myself to take care of them for the rest of my life.
    My point is, I don't want to suffer with his god darn irresponsibility and have a bad future with this man who I am genetically connected to. So I want to leave, but I have no idea where to go, and I don't think he'll ever let me live with my aunts, he's really possessive with us, and if I start opposing him further than I already am, I am sure he will beat me up.
    He had many relationships, had many kids, betrayed so many times, and I think he only sees my true mother in me because I look exactly like her, but he never learns I am different from her, and different from him.
    I can't tell anyone about this because they will speak directly to my father and he might tell I'm being crazy lying around and then punish me at home. That doesn't happen because my stepmother always steps up to defend me. Without her, I don't know what I'll become. If there is any way, I want her to adopt me, and she said she would do it gladly if it was possible, she even says that I can live with her once I turn into an adult, be independent enough to live in a home without my... "father".

    I am 16, turning 17 in December 29th, an intelligent being who puts her effort in a high school, in the 10th grade, now grading to the 11th. I am hoping to have an independent life with my sweat.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hi. I am 20 years old. I live in Arizona. I feel right now that I am stuck between a rock and a hard place...I live in my boyfriends house with his family. I appreciate the space, and show my gratitude, but there is a lot of emotional abuse directed at me and threats by his dad. I can not confide in anyone, although at one point I did and it was like a knife was stabbed in my back, figuratively speaking. His dad has mental instability, takes pictures of us without us knowing and posts them online. This man doesn’t live with us, but it is really scary and anxiety inducing, especially knowing this guy posted pictures of his own daughter to porno sites.
    I don’t know what to do...I have lived in my car before, but my car broke down. I am terrified of being on the streets. I feel I’m stuck and suffering. Please help me.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home where you feel like you aren't being treated fairly. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be hard to determine what you want to do. It makes a lot of sense that you would have some trepidation about a faith-based organization that is traditionally that faith has not been welcoming to the LGBTQ+ community. Sometimes organizations that are affiliated with specific faith communities may not hold the same prejudices that others in that denomination so it may be beneficial to call them directly to see if they are LGBTQ+ friendly. You can check out the National Homeless Shelter Directory at https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ to find other shelters in your area. You can also reach out to your local United Way by dialing 211 to see if they have any specific LGBTQ+ youth shelters in their database.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    i'm 21 and i feel like i'm not good enough for my family and feel like they favor my 16 year old sister more than me..Its been like this for awhile now and i want to leave this house because of tired of it and im scared i might do something that might regret later..I have no job no money and no where to go...I don't feel safe going to religion ran homeless shelters because of my gender identification and sexuality.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a painful time. That seems exhausting and hurtful to not feel understood. That sounds stressful to have all these things going on and to feel that you don’t have many options. We want you to know that you are worth it, there is hope for you, and that we are here to support you and help you in any way we can.

    If you ever feel that you are in danger of hurting or killing yourself, you could call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255; suicidepreventionlifeline.org) or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online. If you ever feel that you are in danger, you could also call 911 for immediate help. It sounds like you have been struggling with these thoughts. If you want further information about mental health resources, you could check out the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA); 1-877-726-4727; samhsa.gov; findtreatment.samhsa.gov/.

    If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. You could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling or having another trusted adult help you talk with them. Just so you’re aware, we have a conference calling service here where we could help mediate a conversation between you and your parents.

    There are also many resources that could help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

    Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

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    I'm 18 and I'm from South Carolina. If I had another choice then I wouldn't be picking leaving. I still live with my mom and step dad and I can't talk them without my step dad miss understanding. I feel trapped and sad and angry. I have no money, no job, and no where to go. I'm also suicidal and feel like I only have two options, runaway or kill myself. I'm so unhappy, I don't know what to do!

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