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I serious help. I’m in a bad situation. My mom is a narcissist and has been extremely abusive to me all of my life and I’ve been staying with my boyfriend but he’s expecting me to go back soon, but I can’t. I’m so scared. I don’t know where else I can go. I have family but they’re all out of town and refuse to acknowledge any of the abuse I have been through and enable it and every time i stay with them I end up getting dragged back home. I’m finally a legal adult so I don’t HAVE to go back, but I’m not left with many choices. I’m desperate and need help I can’t go back. I cant leave town, I need to keep my job so I can save up money. This is so hard
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Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are sorry to hear about your situation with your mom. It sounds very difficult and stressful. You do not deserve to be treated that way.
Since you are a legal adult, you do not need to go home. You are legally allowed to stay with someone else. You mentioned not having many other options. If you are interested, we can help you find resources in your area. There are emergency shelters and transitional living communities (this is a temporary, stable living environment with support to eventually live on your own).
It is important that you take care of yourself. Talking with someone you trust can be super helpful along with other coping mechanisms such as journaling, drawing, music, or doing a hobby you enjoy.
We are here to support you 24/7. If you would like to talk in more detail, please contact NRS either by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chatting online through 1800runaway.org. We care about your safety, so if you are ever in an emergency, please call 911.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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Hi I’m 12 my mom calls me the b word everyday I be. Called that for 12 years of my life I get a abused 24/7 and I’m so tired
Of it and I don’t want to be around her anymoreComment
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(If you feel you are in immediate danger for any reason, please call the police or go to your local emergency room.)
Hi,
Thanks so much for reaching out. First of all, we’re so sorry to hear about how your mom treats you at home. You deserve to feel safe and accepted.
It sounds like you might be being abused at home. If you would like to, you can file an abuse report yourself against your mom and an investigation can be launched. This report would be completely anonymous. Feel free to do some research on your own if you’re interested in learning more, or we would love to chat with you here at NRS to walk you through the process.
If you feel safe to do so, we would encourage you to talk to your mom about how you’re feeling and tell her how they way she is treating you is affecting your happiness. You may be able to get a better understanding of where she is coming from.
It also sounds like you might be thinking about leaving home. This is a very difficult and personal decision and we support you no matter what you choose, but your safety is very important to us. If you do choose to leave, we ask that you reach out to us via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-880-9860) to get personalized and confidential help. Thanks again for reaching out and best of luck!
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So I'm 18 years old. Going to be 19 in March. My stepmom wants me to get a job and I've been really trying. But in my town, no ones really hiring. (My town is small and in the middle of nowhere). My stepmom has been slowly getting really toxic to me (I live with her, her brother, my dad, and my 3 siblings. She's also pregnant). She said something today that makes me think they're going to stop paying for food for me to eat. I can't drive and I don't have a car anyways. I have no where to live (my birth mom has two kids with her and is struggling to find a place of her own so I cannot stay with her.) I need someone to reach out with ideas of what to do. Thank youComment
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578 I want to know what your help is towards us do you give an apartment or not
I really don't even understand they are only there to tell us that we have to put up with something that we don't want, for example, there are teenagers who cannot live with their parents and the only thing I hear is that they are still minors and what are they living for?and it is the truth
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We are not able to give people apartments. We can connect people with shelters or other housing programs in their areas. We believe that everyone deserves to live somewhere safe and achieve happiness and freedom, and will always do what is within our power to help people toward that goal.
For specific housing program referrals, we prefer to provide them over our confidential chat service or over the phone, since the information needed to provide them could be used to identify people. For that reason we prefer not to conduct that over our publicly visible forum.
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Hey, I’m a 19 year old girl who hates but loves my family. They’ve abused me when I was little, I’ve been verbally abused too and still am to this day. I cannot live the life I want. They treat me like I’m a doll and they are in control of me. They threaten me and gas light me. I’m already depressed, I was diagnosed with it for 7+ years and my depression came from schools bullying and from my parents. I hate my life. I understand they think thing’s differently since they lived in a different state but I tried to explain how things changed but they don’t care, they want me to be married soon but I’m not ready. I really wanna run away, but I also don’t wanna leave my mom behind. At this point I’m stuck overthinking.Comment
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Hey there,
Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are glad that you are asking for help. It sounds like life at home is truly horrible for you and very harmful to your mental well-being. You deserve to be unconditionally loved and supported for the beautiful human that you are and we are sorry that you are feeling forced into a life of marriage and experience threats and gaslighting often from your parents. That is not right. We are here to help support you as best we can.
Although we are not legal experts here at NRS, but since you are legally the age of an adult in most states (over the age of 18 years old), you are able to leave your parents’ home without parental permission. That being said, we can offer transitional youth shelters for you in your local area that would be able to get you away from home. If you call us (1-800-RUNAWAY) or reach out via chat at 1800runaway.org (click on the “chat” button), we’d be happy to provide those resources for you.
If a shelter is not an option you would like, then perhaps consider if there is a trusted friend or family member that has your best interest and would allow you to stay with them.
You mentioned dealing with depression is the 988 Suicide & Crisis Hotline, dial 988 on any phone and the Mental Health America Agency that can help you locate a local mental health support group at 703-684-7722 or reach out on their website at : www.mentalhealthamerica.net. We care about your well-being, and you deserve to be supported—if these resources do not help, please reach out and we can provide further support.
If you do decide to leave home in the meantime, perhaps consider bringing along your valuable items if you decide to not return back home to your parents. So, if you are seeking a job once you move out, think about bringing along your ID’s, Birth Certificate, medical records, etc. If you take any medications, you may want to think about making sure you take what you have now and plan on how you will get it in the future. We are sure you already considered this, but just think about vital items you use on the daily that, if you were not to return home, they would be difficult to replace.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon, our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Please be safe,
NRS
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