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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 12 and I have been having suicidal thoughts... I live in Memphis, Tennessee and I have a friend that lives in Michigan City, Mississippi and I think he might let me stay... I only got like 100$ to get there and I have no transportation. ( my bike broke ) I’m always getting in fights with my grandparents and at one point my grandma even said that she don’t want me over at her house... I need help...

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Since you are over 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi I am 19 I have no good relationship with family. I need to get out of here by the Friday!

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Another option may be to talk with someone like your father about the situation. It would probably feel good to have him be supportive and provide some level of safety and comfort. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. NRS is here to listen and here to help. It is also important to practice self- care. Hurting yourself does not have to be an option. There are other positive ways to explore how to cope.
    One avenue you might explore is this self-help link we are listing. www.twloha.com
    To Write Love on Her Arms is a nonprofit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire, and invest directly into treatment and recovery.
    You did a great job reaching out to NRS.
    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I’m 15 years old and live in Los Angles. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I live with my parents, and I have an ok relationship with my dad, but my mom is always yelling at me, calling me names, invading my privacy, and she has slapped me a couple of times. I feel trapped and depressed and angry. I don’t have a lot of money, I have nowhere to go, and I wouldn’t be able to survive on the streets. I’ve also started cutting myself and thinking I’ll just be better off dead. I feel so scared and unhappy, I don't know what to do.

    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-08-2020, 01:55 AM.

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety. For situations with split up parents, where you live is usually determined by the guardian with custody at the time. So leaving for the other parent’s house might also be considered running away.

    If you want to talk more specifically or in depth about your situation, please give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 17 i was told if your parents are split up and you live with and if you leave while underage you have to move with the other but i don't want to move with the other i want to move with a friend or someone else in my family what do i do ?

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  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Best of luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 15 and I do t know what to do. My dad causes stress on my entire family with his aggressive behaviour. It’s like no one talks any more in my house. We yell than stomp off to cool down. We come back just to yell again. I want a break even for a few weeks but I don’t want to make my mom upset. I love her but my dad can be awful. We all just scream until we can’t. I’m afraid to ask my friends to stay with them because it’s embarrassing and my family judges me. I don’t even think my mom would let me stay with someone else because the fact that our family is falling apart embarrasses her. She hates that she married my dad but she’ll never leave him.

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

    If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hello l am 12 years old and l want to leave home because l feel like l am all alone and no one wants to hang out with me or be with me.

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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,

    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things have been very difficult and stressful for you. Your family not wanting you to be around, and contemplating suicide sounds scary. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and we know that you have been very brave to reach out to us and ask for help; that takes a lot of courage.

    We hope that you will reach out to us again through our live services, because we address each person and their unique situation with personal service and to focus on options that are specific to you. We can search for shelters for you and listen to you and believe you.

    The best way for us to help you is by talking with you through our confidential services, and we are here for you 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
    We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I have no money my family doesn't want me around. My friends don't. I have nowhere to go. I feel trapped and I don't even know if I want to be alive. Soon I'll literally have nowhere to go. I've contemplated suicide but I don't want to hurt my mother. I need a refresh but have no money

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  • ccsmod15
    replied
    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out during this difficult time. It sounds like you are feeling trapped at home and are lacking resources. Although you are not thrilled about the job your mom is approving of, it might be a good idea to take what you can in order to save up money so you can move out and pay for transportation and housing. There are housing groups in Chicago, IL that might be able to help you get on your feet. You can check out the National Homeless Shelter Directory at https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ to find other shelters in your area. You can also reach out to your local United Way by dialing 211 to see if they have any specific LGBTQ+ youth shelters in their database.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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