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    I am only 13 and I have a sister (were both the same age) I have no where to go and my mom wants us out,non of my family members will take us in and I want to stay with my friends but I don't know how to tell them,and I don't think there parents would want to take me and my sister in cause they have kids of there own,on top of that I don't want to get them in trouble.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I’m 13 and I want to leave home, but if I runaway I would have no money no resources I wouldn’t make it out on the streets. Along with that I would constantly have to be on the move since I would technically be declared as missing. I just really wish I could find a way out this house. My sister is 17 and plans to leave the night of her 18th birthday, as soon as she can leave without any police report. I just don’t know what to do I can’t wait 5 whole years on this house, I am barely making it through the days. How am I going to last 5 whole years, and also without my only sibling?

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can.

    Now we aren't legal experts here and you might have already read on this forum thread about what could happen if you were to leave home before the age of majority. So we won’t get into that since you can find it fairly easily.

    It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us, look for some safe places nearby, or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. You can chat with us by going to our website (www.1800runaway.org) and clicking on "chat".

    We certainly want to help you.

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    Hello. I am 15 years old, I live in California, where it is not a crime for minors to runaway from home. I am sure a runaway report could still be filed on me to have me found and returned home. Legally, at the age of 14 and higher minors can get emancipated(in California). Emancipation is definitely something I'm looking into, but it would be very hard for me to be granted it and I believe part of the requirements are to prove your parents are okay with you moving out, which mine would definitely not be.

    My family life is bad, the relationships I have with my family members are so detrimental to my mental health that I need to do something about it. My mother especially. My parents have never physically abused me and are not alcoholics, but the emotional abuse is there. I feel like I am never enough for them and they make me feel like I am a horrible person. My mom constantly yells at me. Most days, the times she yells at me are the only verbal contact we have with each other. She yells at me from reasons including(but not limited to): school work, grades, chores, my choice of clothing, and comments I make. She also yells at me for no reason other than to take her anger out. She gets very angry. My father and I have a fairly decent relationship most of the time, but sometimes he just starts to yell at me about how awful I am to my sister(which I'm not) and how 'terrible he feels for my friends', 'if this is how I treat people I care about'. My mom has always been very restrictive over everything in my life, my friends, what shows/movies I watch, what websites I go on, the amount of time I'm online. Like, I mean, VERY restrictive. For example, I wasn't allowed to watch really any shows on Disney channel until I was 12. As for clothes, I can wear something that shows barely any skin(like maybe a half inch of my stomach) and she will tell me to change. I was going out with a friend once and my mom called me a wh*re to my face(and in front of my friend) for what I was wearing. Other than these few details, I would like to share one other huge piece. My parents have been blaming me for everything that happens in our family, so much so that even my relatives will get mad at me.

    All of this hurts me so much and the yelling triggers me and sends me into a panic(basically I will completely shut down, cry hysterically, dissociate, want to die, possibly even hyperventilate). There are even more reasons than what is listed here, but I don't want my response to be huge so.... Anyway, it has made me feels so frustrated and hopeless because I just can't live this way anymore. I can't live where I am afraid to go home, where my friend's mom praises me more than my own, where my friend's mom makes me feel more loved than my own, where I can't sleep or eat because of how sick I feel at home. I just want to run away. To live anywhere but here. I've made plans to leave before, but the timing was all wrong. I want to go now, I have money saved up, I know people who would probably take me in, but I feel like I would be doing them a disservice because it is possible they could get charged for harboring a runaway and I feel that my parents would find me too easily if I stayed with those people. I don't know where to go, honestly I would rather be homeless than live in my own house, but I don't know if I could survive living on the streets. I wouldn't be able to work, since I do not have a permit(I need to get one still). I am also female, which would most likely make things even more dangerous if I lived on the streets. Please, I'm begging you to give me some advice.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like you're in a pretty tough spot right now, and we're sorry to hear that things have been so difficult. You mentioned being physically and mentally abused at home, as well as not having the proper clothes to wear outside. While we understand that sometimes having access to basic essential needs (such as weather appropriate clothing) can be a challenge for families, we do not condone abuse in any fashion. You do not deserve to be constantly abused, whether mentally or physically. If you are feeling unsafe at home and/or are in imminent danger, please contact your local police department for support.

    If you're comfortable in doing so, you can also file an abuse report with your local Child Protective Services agency. You can locate their information by doing a quick Google search and including your state. If you disclose the abuse you're experiencing to a teacher or a doctor, they can also make this report for you. And if neither of the above are routes you'd like to go, you can reach out to us here at NRS and we can chat with you in more detail about what filing an abuse report looks like. We can also file it with you or for you. But generally speaking, when an abuse report is filed, an investigation begins. A caseworker may investigate the allegations of abuse, visit the home, meet with you and your family, and try to determine the best course of action to ensure your safety.

    If you'd like to chat more about your specific situation, discuss some of your options through, or move forward with filing a report, please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    I need to leave and get out of the situation i'm in but I have no friends, no family and no money or tranportation to get around. I have a dog I love more than anything in the world who I don't want to leave behind but I need to leave this situation i'm in as soon as possible but have no idea where to start. It's winter and it's cold, I have no proper clothes to wear outside so i'm always freezing but if I stay home I am constantly abused mentally and physically. I need help please I just don't know where to go anymore for it and I feel so lost and alone and I just don't wanna feel that way anymore, please help me.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear things have been so tough at home.
    It definitely sounds like you are enduring some emotional abuse at home, and this is never okay. It is important you know that you do not deserve to be abused in any way, and that you should get to feel safe and comfortable at home. Of course, if you are ever in immediate danger, we recommend calling the police at 911.
    It sounds like you want to leave your current living situation but do not know where to go. If before you are able to secure a job with steady income you find yourself in need of housing, you can reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can look into adult shelters in your area. Much of our resources are geared towards youth in crises, but we do have some resources for adults as well. You can always look for homeless shelters yourself by going to homelessshelterdirectory.org.
    We hope that some of this information has been helpful. If you need something more, we encourage you to reach out to us at any time.
    Stay safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 29 and I need to leave home. My mother has metastatic cancer and has completely lost touch with reality and it’s become abusive lately. I need to get out like yesterday. I’ve been kicked out three times and had the cops called on me twice. By my mother. For ********ing nothing. I have no other home, no family, and an income of $50 weekly from tutoring. I know I can secure a good job, but it’s impossible to feel like I am worth anything when all I’ve known is abuse. I don’t know what to do or where to go. I have Crohn’s disease and that makes it super complicated. I have to get out though. I’m not safe here.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS

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    Hi I’m 12 and I have been having suicidal thoughts... I live in Memphis, Tennessee and I have a friend that lives in Michigan City, Mississippi and I think he might let me stay... I only got like 100$ to get there and I have no transportation. ( my bike broke ) I’m always getting in fights with my grandparents and at one point my grandma even said that she don’t want me over at her house... I need help...

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  • ccsmod15
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    Since you are over 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    NRS

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    hi I am 19 I have no good relationship with family. I need to get out of here by the Friday!

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Another option may be to talk with someone like your father about the situation. It would probably feel good to have him be supportive and provide some level of safety and comfort. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. NRS is here to listen and here to help. It is also important to practice self- care. Hurting yourself does not have to be an option. There are other positive ways to explore how to cope.
    One avenue you might explore is this self-help link we are listing. www.twloha.com
    To Write Love on Her Arms is a nonprofit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire, and invest directly into treatment and recovery.
    You did a great job reaching out to NRS.
    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hi, I’m 15 years old and live in Los Angles. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I live with my parents, and I have an ok relationship with my dad, but my mom is always yelling at me, calling me names, invading my privacy, and she has slapped me a couple of times. I feel trapped and depressed and angry. I don’t have a lot of money, I have nowhere to go, and I wouldn’t be able to survive on the streets. I’ve also started cutting myself and thinking I’ll just be better off dead. I feel so scared and unhappy, I don't know what to do.

    Last edited by ccsmod4; 10-08-2020, 01:55 AM.

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