My mom just beat me.

i'm failing in school because i'm occupied with my phone a lot. they think i have it so easy but i really wish i was dead. my mom thinks because i'm black i don't have feelings, pain, pressure. she thinks i should just be the greatest kid in the world and not have any problems. my eyes are swoolen from crying every night. my friends feel more like a family than my actual family. all they do is yell. please help me feel more loved, i don't deserve this anymore. i have scars because of her. so what i say to my friends is i cut..

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home where you are expected to do so much. It’s apparent that you are intelligent and hardworking and you should take pride in your accomplishments and achievements.

You mentioned that some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. We want you to know that we believe you. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report by conducting a conference call with your local child protective services agency or we can file a report for you. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

I am 13 years old and I have your typical chinese tiger parents, but I spend about 5 hours a day doing homework and studying, and they still are not happy with my grades, all A's with one B+. They expect me to take AP calculus in my FRESHMAN year and another AP class as an elective??? I don't think I can make it past high school; I really need help. I get bullied for having better grades than everyone else and I think I'm not okay. I have photos of red weals, holes, and lots of cuts and scratched from before on my hands, face, back, and neck. She throws anything she can get at me, and breaks my possessions as well. I have two sets of bows and arrows to protect myself, but always end up giving up, curling into a ball, and accepting the abuse. No one at school, even my teachers, believes me. I'm hoping someone eventually will do believe me

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Hello There!

Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway. Taking this step often takes much courage, which shows how strong of a person you in doing so. You are so strong for having gone through so much already with your parents as well as standing up for your siblings.

It sounds like you are considering your options because you are unsafe a home. We are sorry to hear that. No one should be made to feel this way. Home should be a place of love, support, comfort, and safety. We want you to know that tt is never legally ok for anyone (parent or not) to physically harm a child. Notifying cps does not always mean that you will be taken away You mentioned being worried about being taken away and your siblings being left behind, if they are being abuse, the case worker would need to take that into consideration. Sometimes it could also be a way to get required anger management help for your mother or step father. There is not much anyone, including yourself that could control your mother’s behavior.

Your well-being and safety is a great concern. By all means, if you do fear for your safety in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the police or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Do you have any mentioned having friends, family or school counselors that you talk to? Sometimes having them on your side can help create a sense of comfort or support that will keep you safe.

You are not alone. We can discuss your options with you if you’d like, as well as answer other questions you may have. We’re confidential and anonymous. We’re also here just to listen, if that’s what you need. If you want more information about cps reporting, what that means, or what that can look like for you, we are here to help guide you throughout that process and report with you, or can also call Child Help at 1800-422-4453 that would be able to connect you to your states reporting agency if that is something that you are comfortable doing.


Best Wishes,
NRS

(age 13) My mom yells at me, calls me stupid, and beats me with a belt. I have very bad marks on my hip and I somehow got a bruise in between my legs, I'm scared to stand up to her because she will just call me rude and or dumb. It's the same thing with my "stepdad" (he hasn't even adopted me yet so I'm pretty sure legally he can't yell at me or hit me). Please help me, she also said that if I tell CPS, they will take me away, not her. I have two little brothers that I care for and when they get hit, I yell for them to stop and then they move on to me. I don't know what to do, I was thinking about running away, but I love my little brothers.

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Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you went through a really scary and traumatic experience, and it’s understandable that you’d be looking for a way to get some distance from your mom.

The behavior that you’re describing is physical abuse, and it is never okay. No one deserves to be treated like that. Please know that you have the right to report this abuse to the authorities at any time. You can call the police, tell a teacher at school (they are required to report child abuse), or contact your state or county child abuse reporting hotline. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a confidential 24/7 hotline focused on child abuse that can help answer any questions you have about reporting and connect you with the right resources.

You also deserve care and help to deal with your suicidal thoughts. You are not alone. If you feel like you’re in danger of acting on those thoughts, please call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. We at NRS are also happy to help you find free or low-cost counseling resources in your area. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and we’re 24/7.

As far as being able to go live with your grandparents, in most states, you need your parent or guardian’s permission to leave home until you turn 18. If you left home without your parents’ permission and they reported you as a runaway, it just means the police could bring you home. There could potentially be legal consequences for your grandparents as well, for “harboring a runaway.” These are just potential risks to keep in mind if you decide to leave.

It shows a lot of strength and courage that you are reaching out for help and researching all your options. We at NRS are here for you 24/7 if you’d like to talk more.

I’m a 14 year old girl, this morning I woke up I’d say it was like 8am or so and I made breakfast and was relaxing. I went to check on my mom she usually goes to work around 9 or 10am so I told her she should get ready. She told me to ask my dad if we’re going to NY, I was confused I remember her saying something like that before but I didn’t know it was gonna be this weekend, so I went to my dad and asked if we were going he said, yes. Now I was waiting for them to get ready so I was just hanging around in the living room, I didn’t really want to go cause it was a Sunday and I was tired from hanging with my 3 cousins and family the day before. So when they said let’s go to NY to me I said no, I wasn’t being rude or anything I just said no, go without me if you want. I’m used to being home alone anyways after school so it doesn’t bother me. Unfortunately my mom wasn’t having it. She tried forcing me to come by giving me some clothes and shoes. She also gave me a choice to go to ny or go to my grandparents. Honestly I wanted to go somewhere where she wasn’t so I wanted to go to my grandparents. My dad tried convincing me too but I just didn’t want to go plus I wanted to stay home and finish an essay I had to write for English. After my dad was talking to me for a while my mother came back and said “get dressed now” I told her that I want to stay home, I didn’t want to go. My mom took away my phone when she came back. Eventually she had enough and began grabbing my arms, her nails dig into my wrists. My dog went crazy and bit my whole upper left arm, I was in pain. She started grabbing me by my hair and I screamed loudly at her to let go while tears ran down my face. But she didn’t and grabbed more of my hair she then dragged me through the living room, then kitchen, all the way out to the draft way/porch area while hitting me in my face during the process. When she threw me in there my mind was blank I couldn’t think straight I hit my head multiple times on the wall trying to comprehend what had just happened. I was crying, I had a hard time breathing. She came back and placed my shoes next to me. Once again she yelled at me to get dressed. She started to grab me and hit me again when I refused. I was crying and saying I want to die, kill me, I was scared to die but I couldn’t think straight and that’s just what came out. But eventually I got dressed. And I went to the car through the snow and sat down. I had put my coat on and started crying again. We were all in the car and driving towards my grandparents house but my heart began to fall when we passed it and we ended up going to NY. Here I am in the car writing this once I got my phone back.... I don’t want to be near my mom I want to be with my grandma. What do I do...

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Hi,
Thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to share what’s been going on. You never deserve to be abused in any way! You have the right to notify child protective services to let them know about the situation. For more info. on that process, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can also call your local police or talk with an adult at school, like a teacher or guidance counselor. You are not alone and there is support out there. You deserve to feel loved and supported. A great resource to reach out to is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network): 1-800-656-4673. And we here at the National Runaway Safeline are always here to listen and help in any way we can, whether that’s providing resources, helping you find emergency housing, helping you think through your options, or just being a listening ear. You are not alone. We wish you the very best and please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. Stay strong!
Sincerely,
NRS

My mom raped me

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Hi. Thanks for reaching out and sharing part of your story with us. It sounds like you’re going through a very difficult time at home. It must be heartbreaking to have experienced what you described. This is considered abuse and you don’t deserve to be treated that way at all. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. If you are feeling unsafe you do have the option to contact the police or report the abuse to child protective services. It may also be helpful to document the abuse. You can also tell a trusted adult, teacher or family member about what is happening as well. I have provided a support line contact that may be able to help support you during this difficult time. Child Help can be reached at 1800-422-4453. In addition, please do not hesitate to give us a call at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We wish the very best. Stay safe. All the best, NRS.

my mom says I am a stupid failure who can't even get a job at fast food. after she said that, she hit me with a bat

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Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We can understand that you might be going through a lot. Please know that you can always reach out to us. You can reach us at (1-800-786-2929) or online at www.1800runaway.org through our chat option.
Thanks again and please feel free to reach out to us anytime.

I’m the same

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Hi,
Thank you for your post. It’s absolutely not okay for your mom to beat you or to hurt you emotionally. To be clear, you are NOT the reason the world is a bad place; the world is better for your being in it. Your compassion and your courage to speak out is clear from your post. You are stronger than you may think. You mention that your mom only starts to care when you are in public or when you say that you want to kill yourself. Your safety is our top priority here at NRS. If you ever feel like you are in danger of being hurt or in danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 for support. You are not alone, even if it may feel that way at times.
Regarding your mom’s leaving bruises all over you and hurting you in other ways, this could be considered abuse. Abuse is never okay and should not be tolerated. We encourage you to reach out to an adult that you trust, like a teacher, guidance counselor, coach, or perhaps a friend’s parent. These adults can help you get the support you need and help you in notifying child protective services about the situation. If you’re uncertain of what might happen if you file an abuse report, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.
Please feel free to call us any time, day or night. We are here to listen, help you think through your options, and figure out appropriate resources. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and we hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely,
NRS

My mom beats me, and I've had bruises all over my legs and arms. It hurts me a lot, and she also hurts me emotionally and physically. She says I'm the reason the world is a bad place, and she only starts to care when we are in public, or when I say "I wanna kill my self." I don't know what to do and I don't feel safe. What should I do???