i hate my mom

[Guest]

i have really bad anxiety and i dont know what to do anymore. i get really stressed whenever i have to do chores or when my mom yells at me to do something. just last night my mom got really mad because i was crying and i walked away to calm down (thats what my therapist is telling me to do) and shes been really mean to me lately
she was arguing with my dad and she said she didnt like it when he would keep telling her what to do and get mad when she walked away to calm down and im confused because if she doesnt like something why does she do it to me
i dont want to talk to her anymore
she makes me cry every day and i hate myself because i always hear that i cant do anything right
im scared of her and dont know what to do

[ccsmod13]

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline! First and foremost, we want to commend you on your bravery in coming forward. It takes a lot of courage to seek and ask for help.
We are sorry to hear about the way your mom has been treating you. Home should be a place where you feel safe and loved. You do not deserve to be talked down to or to feel this way. Perhaps, talking with your dad about how your mom has been treating you can be beneficial. Maybe even sitting down with both of your parents to have an open and honest conversation about the way you feel about how your mom treats you can also be of help. Sometimes just talking about what’s going on and your feelings can be really helpful and can make someone feel a lot better. If there is someone else that you feel more comfortable and safe talking about things with, then that also could be helpful, it doesn’t necessarily have to be your parents. If there is a teacher or a counselor or a family member/adult that you trust and feel safe talking to with your mom, which could also be helpful? Additionally, you can always contact us directly at 1-800-786-2929 and we would be more than happy to facilitate a conference call between you and your mom and make sure that it is a safe and open space and that you are supported and can speak freely about how you feel.

Another option, if talking face to face can be a frightful experience, is to write out a letter to your mom explaining how you feel. Sometimes writing everything out can be helpful, that way you can say everything without being interrupted or disrespected.
If you ever feel unsafe in your home and that you are in danger, you can always contact your local police station.

Please know that we are always here for you, if you ever want to just talk or go over your options, over the phone. We are available 24/7 and toll free. You can also chat us or email us if you would prefer to write your thoughts out! Please do not hesitate to reach out to us if you ever need anything. We wish you the best of luck with everything!