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I am 16 and I need to leave my family desperately. Need Advice on what to do...
I am 16 and I need to leave my family. I tried everything and I can't take it anymore...
I am currently living with my emotionally abusive parents and my older brother. My parents constantly blame me or my peers for family problems or any problem they have with me, their choices, for their actions when they hurt me. They blame everyone, but themselves because they don't think they did anything wrong and they refuse to reflect their actions at all. Moreover, they are constantly critical about how I look and how I act, I'm not allowed to be angry or be myself around them they also have high, unrealistic expectations. This damaged my self-esteem for 6 years and I feel they are embarrassed of me and don't love the real me, but an ideology they created in their head. They also value my achievements and looks more than who I am, but they always claim I'm trying to be someone I'm not. Furthermore, they manipulate me that their right and I'm wrong, no one would like me, without them I have no one and convince me to not get professional help because the government will watch me or I'll lose educational opportunities. They also make me feel guilty, force me to do things I refuse to do and micromanage me or not let me do simple things because they don't believe I can do anything. This caused me to be dependent on others which caused problems in a lot of relationships. Lastly, they manipulate me into thinking that my friends aren't real causing me to become paranoid and anxious which strained my relationships with other people. They tried to separate me from my peers for months and they criticize them. They have threatened to cut off my relationships, do something to me or send me away somewhere. I have tried everything. I tried talking to them and explaining myself, but they see that as rude or talking back. They don't listen to me. My boyfriend who is helping has tried to find anyone he knows who is willing to let me stay for a while. I have tried to get help from shelters, care centers, services and more, social services tried to help me express how I felt, how they were hurting me and what they were doing wrong. They still do the same things and nothing has changed. Whenever I tried to get the help they encouraged me to talk it out and fix the relationship, but I honestly don't want to have a relationship with them anymore because It feels like a chore. I'm tired of feeling obligated to fix the relationship, of feeling guilty, of talking to them, of looking at them, listening to their hurtful words, of being pressured to do things I don't do by them and others, of questioning myself and my judgment, of being manipulated, of having unnecessary restrictions or limitations and more and I just can't handle it anymore.
I am currently living with my emotionally abusive parents and my older brother. My parents constantly blame me or my peers for family problems or any problem they have with me, their choices, for their actions when they hurt me. They blame everyone, but themselves because they don't think they did anything wrong and they refuse to reflect their actions at all. Moreover, they are constantly critical about how I look and how I act, I'm not allowed to be angry or be myself around them they also have high, unrealistic expectations. This damaged my self-esteem for 6 years and I feel they are embarrassed of me and don't love the real me, but an ideology they created in their head. They also value my achievements and looks more than who I am, but they always claim I'm trying to be someone I'm not. Furthermore, they manipulate me that their right and I'm wrong, no one would like me, without them I have no one and convince me to not get professional help because the government will watch me or I'll lose educational opportunities. They also make me feel guilty, force me to do things I refuse to do and micromanage me or not let me do simple things because they don't believe I can do anything. This caused me to be dependent on others which caused problems in a lot of relationships. Lastly, they manipulate me into thinking that my friends aren't real causing me to become paranoid and anxious which strained my relationships with other people. They tried to separate me from my peers for months and they criticize them. They have threatened to cut off my relationships, do something to me or send me away somewhere. I have tried everything. I tried talking to them and explaining myself, but they see that as rude or talking back. They don't listen to me. My boyfriend who is helping has tried to find anyone he knows who is willing to let me stay for a while. I have tried to get help from shelters, care centers, services and more, social services tried to help me express how I felt, how they were hurting me and what they were doing wrong. They still do the same things and nothing has changed. Whenever I tried to get the help they encouraged me to talk it out and fix the relationship, but I honestly don't want to have a relationship with them anymore because It feels like a chore. I'm tired of feeling obligated to fix the relationship, of feeling guilty, of talking to them, of looking at them, listening to their hurtful words, of being pressured to do things I don't do by them and others, of questioning myself and my judgment, of being manipulated, of having unnecessary restrictions or limitations and more and I just can't handle it anymore.
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