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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    I’m 15 and I have to get out of here.
    my parents are not supporting me in my transition. and continuing to dead Name me. It’s really hurting me. I’ve been told that I’m accepted but then I get deadnamed and they use the wrong pronouns on purpose. but Not only that but I’m constantly being told that I’m lazy and don’t try hard enough to have good grades. I get in trouble for everything and my parents are always mad at me.
    I JUST NOW GOT A TEXT FROM MY PARENTS SAYING “you can’t post memes with curse words in it” no problem I took it down but then they said that I was “really trying hard to lose my phone” and saying that I did it on purpose.
    they threaten to take away my door every time I lock it, but I only lock it cuz they come in when I’m changing without knocking. They have accused me of being in a gang after they found out that I was self harming at the time (I’m not anymore)
    They isolate me from my friends when I don’t have good grades. I’ve been sent away for the entire summer after having a bad panic attack and self harming because of it. I’ve been told that my panic attacks are for attention and that my self harming was a phase. And on top of that. My dad is a well known influencer in the area and people are gonna know if I’m gone. Which is the worst of it. I also live very close to my school and I can’t continue to go if I leave. Help?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

    We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report, if the police were to find you it is a possibility that you could be brought back home.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!

    NRS

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    I'm 15 and I want to get away from my family

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and telling us about what you are going through and what is happening. We know it takes a lot of courage to do so and reaching out is a great step to find resources that may help you.



    It sounds like you have been having some challenges with your parents and they are not allowing you to have contact with your friends or Grandma. We know this can be very difficult and understand you’re feeling of wanting to leave home and in need of some options to help support you. There are a few options we can provide, the first and easiest option if you are looking to leave home is to get your parent’s permission to do so, and your friend’s parent’s permission if staying at his home is possible. If there is any matter of concern of safety, you can contact Child Protective Services at childhelp.org or calling 1-800-422-4453. The third option is emancipation and this is often a lengthy and difficult process. Most states require a youth to demonstrate they can support themselves financially. If you are interested in this option you can contact your local court house to find out more information, or NRS can search for legal aid resources so you can obtain advice from a lawyer.



    If you would like to explore these options further, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us through 1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and here to listen and support you anyway we can.



    Thank you, NRS

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    I'm 17 and for the past year of my life I had no freedom at all. I went to a party few times with my friends and drank some alcohol and had a few cigarettes, nothing that isn't normal amongst teenagers. All of my friends parents grounded them for a week or two, but my mom doesn't let me see my friends anymore. She constantly checks my messages and I have to delete them all the time because she would go crazy if she found out I have texted someone with whom I went to parties. I have a friend that is like a brother to me, and I am afraid that our friendship will end if I stay at home and can't have any contact with him. On top of that, she constantly looks at me like she is ashamed that I'm her son, and doesn't let me see my grandma because she knew what I was doing. I thought I'd be grounded for some weeks, but it will be whole year since I didn't have contact with human beings and I HATE IT AT HOME. I am very social person and I like spending time in nature with friends. It is just too hard living with my parents when they always make me feel like I ain't supposed to be their son. I wanted to go from home for a long time now, but I am too afraid I would end up homeless. There is a friend offering me his place to stay at, but I am kind of ashamed to let his parents take care of me until I am 18. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the circumstances that affect youth in your country.
    NRS

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    I'm 16 I'm from Philippines. I wanna leave home so bad I saved extra money but I don't think it's enough. I lived all of my life with my grandparents and now my parents are in conflict with them so they took me away. They won't even allow me to come back to my grandparents, all of my life are with them. They can't just take it away from me! I am so devastated, I am failing in my studies. I really wanna die.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thank you for contacting NRS,
    We appreciate your bravery for reaching out to us today. We are sorry to read that your mom has been really hard on you to the point that you do not feel safe or cared for in anyway. She has tried manipulate the situation as you spoke about her not having cancer and that can be very serious things going on at home. We are sorry you are going through all that abuse. Some things we want to address are that if you do not feel safe at the current moment you are welcome to call the cops (911) at any point as you do not feel safe. Secondly please know that we here at NRS would love to help report any abuse going on as you mentioned. We typically report alongside youth so that they have people to lean on during a difficult thing like reporting abuse. Once we report that with you a caseworker would come out a couple days later and check to see how you are doing and determine if you should be removed from your home. Another organization that helps with reporting abuse is called Child Help (www.childhelp.org or by phone: 800-422-4453) they can also assist you with any reports you might want to do.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    im 15 years old in a mentally abusive toxic home. my mother makes me do everything around the house and sets off over the smallest things. she verbally abuses me and makes me feel bad for being around her. she never lets me do anything and I have no freedom or friends. i have an online long-distance relationship that I've been in for a year and she found out about him. she slaps me in the face and thrown me around like a ragdoll. she is keeping me from my boyfriend. changed the wifi. took my phone and the house phone. she lied to me and told me she had breast cancer and refused treatment just to make me feel bad for telling her that I didn't wanna live with her anymore. keep in mind my grandmother was my best friend who died of breast cancer. and then she makes up a lie like that. i need to get out if this house there's a camera outside and in every room of the house. she keeps me from doing my school because I have to clean the house. I have to wake up every morning to get my little sister on school because my moms too lazy to get up and be a mom. i cook, clean, and do everything my mom is supposed to do. I need help. I DONT FEEL SAFE IN THIS HOUSE ANYMORE

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. Im sorry that you are going through all of this. These days parents put so much pressure on you. Just know you aren't alone. If you feel comfortable maybe the more appropriate way to go about this is sitting down and calmly talking to your parents. Im sure it can be frustrating but if you are ok with it, it might not be such a bad idea. If that doesn't work for you if you are comfortable talking to another trusted adult, friend, relative, or school counselor that also might not be a bad idea.
    If you would like to talk more or explore more options please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I am 16 and i want to run away because my parents want so much that I can't do and all I think about is killing them and feeling great

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot going on right now with your mother and stepdad and you are considering leaving. We are so sorry that things have been so tough. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to share information that might help.

    It sounds like you, your mom and stepdad have clashed several times. It sounds like you have you’re your best to try to empathize with your parents, but it has been tough to communicate with them and that has been pretty tough on you. If you would like support for yourself, one option would be to explore whether there is a school psychologist or social worker that might be able to speak with you. They can help you identify ways that you can cope with the situation at home, and possibly help you figure out different ways to approach them to help you feel heard. In your message, you discuss wanting to leave, but having concerns about what might happen if you do. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore options near you, including local non-emergency and legal aid, we are here for you.

    Whatever you decide, please know that we are here to support you. Although we cannot tell you what to do, we will do our best to help you explore options to keep you safe as you decide your next steps. If you would like to talk more in detail, please reach out to us. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or via chat by visiting www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. We are here to listen, here to help.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and I want to leave but I am scared that I will get caught because the last time I tried my mother threatened to call the police on me then and get me removed. I even asked to live with my grandparents but her answer was no. I have so many reasons to leave and she doesn't see that...She's hurt me in so many ways, even once tried to kill me and has broken me down mentally. She calls me things and when I get trouble she keeps those things over me and tells everyone about it and it makes me look like a horrible person. My step dad is the same and he always says I only do the things I do, like talk about anime or school or something quite simple, for attention and everytime I try to talk and tell them something I am either ignored or interupted. My mothers threatens to run away sometimes, she plays the pity card, as if shes the one being affected and I am sure it has affected her to but it still gives her no right to treat me like ********. She has even started a strict rule about phones and electronics and now I can't even contact my grandparents or if I'm lost I can't get help because my phone is either taken or at the house when I need it. It feels like I have no freedom and I just feel pressured and overwhelmed...I don't know what to because I look at the por's and cons of this and just thinking of leaving makes me happy but she is constantly breathing down my neck and I can only do the things I enjoy when she is gone at work. And at this point, just because I kept my phone for a entire night, she doesn't trust me anymore and no longer gives me a say in things.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a tricky situation, and we are here to support you!

    It sounds like you are interested in emancipation.  We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works.  Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents.  It also helps to be in good standing at school.  The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18.  The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat (1-800-RUN-AWAY or 1800runaway.org).

    We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

    Sincerely,
    NRS
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