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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I don't know exactly how to out this cause I know atleast every kid has thought about running away and I just want to get away from my parents but I have no where to go. I just want to get away and I know this might not seem like a lot but it's to me. My mom kept her smoking a secret from my dad and I lashed out and I told him. Besides you shouldn't have secrets in a marriage anyways I recently went with my parents to see my grandparents every year and long story short my dad did some type of snorting drug right in front of me. Like what type of parenting is that. It makes me mad because atleast last year he had to be drunk to do it. I recently just got my learner's and my dad didn't even think I could pass my exam. My mom lies about everything and I just don't want to be in their environment anymore. All they do is aruge and I share a room with my 13 yr old brother because my dad refuses to buy a house. Instead he uses his money on car parts. And I can't talk or go over to my guy friends houses because if I did my mom thinks I'm just like her and will become pregnant at 16. I just want my home to feel like a home.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent/guardian permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, they may file you as a runaway and if picked up by the police you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, contact the local non-emergency number to the police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    im 15 and my parnets divorced when i was 4 and ive moved 15 times and i have had probloms with drugs in the past but i dont have a phone im on a school chromebook my parents dont want me and treat me as a responsibility and dont want me and when i want to leave i already know that they will stop me best of there ability im not on the verge of suicide but when im around them they trigger a lot of suicidal thoughts and ive been to court had a whole attourny and mediator and no one helped my dads rich so he paid off all them all but my attourny and we had no fighting chance at the time i wanted to live with my mom my dads emotionally minipulative and mentally abusive and put me through hell my family is rich but ive been homless before same familly i have never been so sure about leaving till now i have a friend to live with and her family is okay with it and everything i have 10 siblings and they all hate me and i dont say that out of how i feel they tried getting me sent to military school and everything and all hate me and dont let me in there lives whatsoever i want a fresh start and everything but idk what to do and i cant call anyone i can litterly email my friend if i want to leave and shell pick me up shes a 5 min drive 20 min walk and i know her family (not my gf or crush whatsoever shes been very supportive and been a great friend a long time) i just want to know if i can go there without telling my parents and legally. but my parents know that i want to run away to her house a month or 2 go i only have 9 more days to decide before i have to send my chromebook back help please i need to leave.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Everyone deserves a safe and supportive environment to grow up in. It seems like you feel like your mom is not providing that. Generally she can’t just give you up to DHS for no reason. DHS usually has to get involved because of an abuse report or a petition for a Minor In Need of Supervision.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 I want to LEAVE my house because, I get mistreated mentally. I get told everyday that I'm not good enough and I will never be good enough for anyone. I'm so tired of always being a disappoinment to my mother. She told me she was going to give me to DHS because she doesn't want me anymore. She calls me lazy she called me a ********** all the time. She treats me like a rug that's been walked on for thousands of years. And she just makes me feel not important and she makes me think about suicide all the time.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are experiencing frustration from the actions and words of your mother and stepfather. We understand how this could be upsetting to you. You don’t deserve to be labeled or ridiculed. You feelings matter and you deserve to be treated fairly. It sounds like you feel you have the emotional support from your father. That’s good having someone to talk with is one way of getting your emotions out.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more and discuss strategies or options that might help you to cope with your situation, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You did a good thing by reaching out today. Remembering to take care of yourself is important.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    My mom is always putting me down about my school work and how I could've finished sooner or have gotten more things done. usually i'll get stressed over her talking to me like that and her yelling about how low or how much i could've improved my grades when im already happy with what I have, i know "She just acting like a mom" But the things she's says to me just put me in the wrong state of mind.


    She tells me things like "you're the problem" "You're never gonna pass school" ``You're gonna stay back because you can never do any of your work'' and things like that. She's always telling me to treat her with respect when she doesn't even respect me and my wishes to be alone or let me cool off so I don't blow up on her. My step dad always takes her side even if she's in the wrong and I can't talk to him because he'll tell everything I said to her.


    I feel like this isn't verbal abuse but is it?


    I just can't handle the things she's says to me and it hurts because I can't tell her how I feel without her shutting me down and telling me "Your wasting time" "I don't care" etc. I have a little sister that's 13 and they treat her perfectly fine but when it comes to me i'm the "Problem" child. She threatens me telling me I can't get things that I'll obviously need in the future and it makes me somewhat scared. I'm not scared of my mom because we fight so much though.


    I want to move in with my birth dad even though he's in a rough place because I know I'll be there to support him, money wise and I know he'll have my back in school without invading my personal space and spitting me nasty things at me. I feel like running away sometimes to escape my mother.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need a safe place to stay.

    You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 44357. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and my parents keep on Harlingen me about my bad friends I’ve came in bad crowd and was seen with them earlier today and my mum and dad both aren’t letting me leave the house and they only just let me out today I really hate it here and need to leave the house it’s making me really angry and stressed just being here is there any chance I can emergency housing or even child’s home? I just need to leave really badly I feel as if I’m trapped
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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It is not your fault that she hs been doing such terrible things to you. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You were very brave to reach out to NRS.
    If you would like to talk more about your situation, please call our crisis line at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.
    If you feel depressed or are having suicidal thoughts we encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I am going to be honest. I used to lie and steal. I stopped lying in 8th grade and stopped stealing in the 6th. I'm also adopted. The person who adopted me is in the military. Here is the real problem I’m afraid to report her. A few things she has done to me are when I was in the third grade she left me outside in my pj's and a coat she said “the woman from the agency is coming to get you". This happened while a foster kid was sleeping in my room. The woman never came so I ended up sleeping on the couch. When I was in the third or fourth grade she threw commit in my face it got in my mouth and a little in my eyes. Two weeks ago I had bad grades. While she was lecturing and yelling at me she looked me up and down in disgust and I looked on the floor and then back at her. She said “Are you mocking me"? I said "no ma'am" she said " I don't believe you'. I said I didn't do it. She said " you are gonna end up on the floor head first". I didn't say anything. One time she thought that I lost her keys and swung her purse she close so I used my hand to block it and it hit my hand and I ended up with a bump on my hand. Once she hit me on my shoulder 3 timed with a metal spoon and it turned red and then by the end of the day it was purple. That's only a few things she has done. Her mom and my friends all said I should report her. I don't because she says that if she went to jail because of me whenever she got if she saw me or if I saw her would not be pretty. When I was depressed she told people that it was because she was depressed her older brother to her to chill out when he lived with us for 3 months and she did but once he left she went back to her old ways. Once I didn't get the dogs poop up on the house and she stepped on it with her shoes but it managed to get on her socks and she made me clean of her shoes and socks with my bare hands. Her uncle knows that I have tried to runaway but he said to go live with her parents in south west so I don't get trafficked. When she found out about my boyfriend and how smart he was she said if he is so smart why is he dating a girl like you? That broke me. She also told me that I would most likely sell my mind or my body for my money and that boys would most likely run a train on me. I don't know what to do and this pandemic has only made it worse. I remember once I accidentally kicked one of my shoes and kept walking since it didn't move much and she said do you want to fix that or do I have to push down the stairs for you to fix it. I don't have my phone so I can't talk to my boyfriend about what she does so I came her. hi I’m Haley that's not my real name but I can’t say my real name I’m adopted and will be 15 on July 30. I'm adopted and she is in the military she is verbally and physically abusive and I have tried to runway 3 times but I have friends and I can't just leave my boyfriend since we have been together since the 4th grad I can't really go into detail as she is down stairs right know. I have tried to kill myself though and she cares about is when I am 18 and she won’t have to see me anymore I just can't take her mom said I should report her but I am afraid honestly sometimes I have vision and nightmares of her stabbing me or killing me and I know she is capable of doing so I just need to get away from this place I want out but I’m just to afraid.
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    It can seem like the punishments your parents are putting in place are a bit harsh, they may be expressing their anger in an unhealthy way. It does show maturity that you have taken responsibility for your actions and have acknowledged what you have done. One option to consider is telling your parents what you have told us and seeing if you guys can come to a compromise with your punishment.
    Also we know you mentioned being emotionally abused and having your hair pulled, you do not deserve that. If you ever did want to file an abuse report you can and there are a few ways you can do that. One option would be to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. You can also chat with us or give us a call and we would be happy to file a report for you. If you are ever in immediate danger please call 911, and an officer will be able to help.
    We know you mentioned wanting a job, which is great that you want to be financially stable and shows independence. We are not experts but in most states they require you to be at least 15 years old and usually you would need to obtain a workers permit. Also if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    I'm 14 and these past months I haven't been on my best behavior, bringing marijuana in the house, leaving in the middle of the night. I know what I had done was wrong and I should be punished but my parents are taking everything away from me until I turn 18. All of my friends, my phone, any freedom, he won't let me leave the house ever without him being there(my dad) until I am of legal age and even then he will be controlling me. I am trapped in my home and I need a way out. It has been mentally and emotionally difficult for me. He has dragged me by the hair once when I asked him to hang out with one of my friends in the past and has verbally abused me as well. I want to get financially stable to leave but I don't think he will ever let me get a job. I will never be able to talk to anyone I used to be in contact with because he doesn't trust any of them. I need to be able to leave but I don't know how to start getting money. Please help me. The only person who would help me is my mom and she doesn't know much English and can't work. I need a way out.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey Cameron,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We want you to know that we fully accept and respect you and your gender identity. You are not alone in this and the LGBT National Youth Talkline is a great resource that offers support for young people in similar situations to your own. The hotline is run by those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community.

    You mentioned some things about "being taken away" and that there is some abuse going on at home (at some point). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    You noted in your post that you've been having some issues in addition to your already diagnosed Asperger's and ADHD. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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