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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi and thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like there is a lot going on in your life and we are glad you found us for help. We want you to know that we are non-directive, meaning we do not give out advice or tell anyone what to do (only you know what’s best for you situation!). However, we are here to help come up with a plan together for you to feel supported and stay safe.

    You mentioned that your mom hit you, although she doesn’t abuse you. We want you to know that no one has a right to hurt you, whether that’s physically, mentally, or emotionally. If your mom continues to slap you, or the slapping gets worse, we are here to support you (and can offer reporting info if you’re interested). You could also contact Child Help, the national child abuse hotline, at 1-800-422-4455 if you would like to speak to someone about it as well.

    Have you told your mom how fighting with her is affecting you and your mental health? We could discuss your situation and come up with options to make home a better place to be for you, like getting Grandma involved as a “mediator” or writing your mom a note expressing your side of things.

    Emancipation is a lengthy process, and could involve quite a few people. In some places, your legal guardian might even need to agree to the emancipation for it to be considered. You would go before a juvenile judge and prove that you are mentally, emotionally, and financially mature enough to be your own adult before 18 – this means you have to prove you are able to financially support yourself. If you call in, we could provide you with some referrals to answer more detailed questions about emancipation in your area.

    Thank you again for reaching out to us. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and encourage you to call in if you are comfortable.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    I’m really in a bad place in my life right now and I feel like I’m running out of options. I’m only 16. I went out with my boyfriend yesterday and I drank a little bit. When I got home, my mom noticed I was drinking and she slapped me in the face. My mom isn’t abusive, she’s a good mom and she tries really hard to support my brother and sister and I. Although her punishments are really harsh and uncalled for. I don’t usually drink and I never do drugs. I have a job and I feel responsible for someone my age. Every time something like this happens, (me getting into trouble with my mom) I always get really depressed and anxious. I feel like I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression since I was 12 but I never did anything about it because I don’t feel as if it’s that severe. When she slapped me, a while later I told my boyfriend to pick me up. We went to his house and my grandma called his mom and his mom brought me back home. My grandma is very understandind. She didn’t punish me. She just talked to me. My mom transferred all the money in my bank account to hers, I called off of work 2 days in a row, my manager is upset with me, my mom doesn’t have anything to say to me. I feel so disappointed in myself. I wish my mom had better parenting skills but I feel like I can’t blame this on her. My boyfriends mom offered me to go live at their house and I really want to. I want to get emancipated but I feel like that won’t work because it’s not entirely up to me and my mom. I know emancipation comes with a lot of responsibility but I feel like I can handle that. I don’t want to stay here. I love my family and I will always put them first but I need distance. I feel like if I were to tell my mom or the rest of my family that I want to live with my boyfriend then they’ll feel as if I’m stupid and I’m just saying that because I’m in love. I know what it seems like, but I just want to stay there for as long as I can save up for a place of my own. I’m still gonna go to school and I’m still gonna keep working no matter what. I don’t want to leave because I want to do whatever I want. I want to leave because I feel like I’ll be mentally happier. Please let me know if this is a good idea. If so, how should I convince my family? Also please let me know if emancipation for me is an option considering the fact that my mom is stable enough to take care of me and provide for me.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hello,

    It sounds like you are going through a lot. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and we’re glad you did. You do not deserve to be treated that way. You have options, let’s look at some of them.

    It sounds like your parents might not be providing all the necessities needed for living which might be neglect. If you want to find out what it would look like to report this and talk more about potential verbal abuse and neglect would look like, you can call Child Help (1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org). They would be able to answer specific questions around improving your home life.

    You mentioned it might not be an option to live with another relative for a while. This is usually helpful when there needs to be a change and folks don’t want to get the courts or other officials involved. If you want support in talking to your parents about exploring this option, call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can conference with them to discuss these options.

    You also mentioned wanting to sleep through the days. There are low or no fee counselors in your area we can explore. Counselors can help with stressful situations or when we are not feeling 100% due to life situations. Give us a call or chat us and we can find resources in your area.

    Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. Contact us anytime. We’re here to listen, here to help.

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    I want to leave my house so badly, I hate it here, my parents are constantly telling me off for things that they even do themselves and it’s making me stressed. At my house my parents aren’t very organised with food and there isnt anything to eat until they go to the shop for dinner, most of the stuff in our cupboards is out of date, ive mentioned this to my parents before but that causes a screaming match which doesn’t help. My sister is also one of the main reasons why I want to leave she is always there annoying me any chance she’s gets. I’m only 15 and still in school doing GCSE work so I have nowhere to go and I doubt if I said to my parents that I want to leave to a relatives house they’d let me, they’d probably tell me to wise up, also I don’t think anyone in my family would actually want me to stay at their house for longer than a week. I hate living here it makes me feel sad and stressed but I have no other option so i tend to just sleep through the days and choose to ignore my family as much as possible. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey,
    Thanks so much for writing in. It sounds like your relationship with your mom has been really difficult for you, and it sounds like you’ve been through a lot. We want you to know first that you are not alone in this. It can be so hard to feel emotionally drained, so thank you for having the courage to share your story. We’re not sure of the situation, but if you feel that your mother is abusing you, you have the right to file an abuse report to let child protective services know what’s going on. If you’re unsure about what that process would look like or what might happen if you do file a report, you can always call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Their website is childhelp.org.
    You mention that you want to leave your house, which is valid considering what’s going on with your mom. It might be helpful for you to know some general information about runaway laws. Though we are by no means legal experts, we can say that you need parental consent to leave home until you are a legal adult (in most states, this is 1. If you leave before then, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police find you they may return you home. An alternate route you might consider is asking your parents for permission to stay with a friend or a family member instead. That being said, if you believe that leaving home is the right decision for you right now, you might want to consider the following: where you’ll go, how you’ll get there, how long you’ll stay, where you’ll get food or money, and if you have clothing appropriate for extreme weather. It can be dangerous to leave home without resources or a plan, so we want to make sure that you keep your safety in mind.
    You wrote that “mentally, I’m broken.” That’s a really hard place to be in emotionally. One thing you might consider is talking to someone about how you’ve been feeling. It can sometimes be helpful to process your feeling with someone, and you definitely deserve to feel safe and supported. Even if you’re not getting that support from your family, we encourage to seek that support from other people you trust: your friends, maybe your dad or other family members, a guidance counselor, or a therapist. If you need help locating a mental health resource in your area, you can call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration referral line, and they can look for free or affordable resources in your area: 1-877-726-4727.
    Thanks again for reaching out. If you ever need someone to listen, connect you with resources, or help in any other way, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16 and I want to leave my house not because of my dad but my mom she has put me through hell not physically but mentally I'm broken what do I do

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We’re so sorry to hear that you are dealing with a stressful situation at home. Abuse of any kind is not ok. It’s very brave of you to reach out to us for help. It can be really difficult to open up about family issues.

    Living with someone who’s suffering from depression is really hard. Of course there’s not a whole lot you can do to change your mom’s moods and behavior so focusing on ways that you can try to keep a positive outlook might be the best way to deal with the situation. You might want to consider sharing your feelings with an adult you trust who knows your mom and understands your home situation like a grandparent, aunt, or uncle. They may have some good insights for you.

    I’ve also included information on a couple of organizations that provide emotional support for kids. It might be helpful to contact them to find help in your local area:

    Teen Line
    https://teenlineonline.org, (310) 855-4673 (available from 6pm-10pm Pacific Time every night),
    TEXT: 839863 (available from 6pm-10pm Pacific Time every night)
    Child Help
    www.childhelp.org, (800) 422-4453
    Running away might seem like a good option in these circumstances but in most states, you are not considered to be an adult until you turn 18 so if you leave home before then, your mom could file a runaway with the police. We are not legal experts at NRS but generally, once a report is filed, the police will search for you and take you back home if they find you. The most important thing for you to consider before attempting to leave home is that you have a safe place to stay and that you have enough money to pay for living expenses. Life on the streets as a kid can be really dangerous.

    We take calls 24 hours a day/7 days a week and we’d be glad to speak to you to learn more about your situation and determine how else we might be able help you.

    Take care.

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    How can I leave my house legally at 15?
    My mom is verbally abusive and she gets set off by the smallest things. She always talks about how her kids are why shes so depressed and then when we talk about what we are going to do when we move out, she says "I dont wanna live after i lose my relationship with my kids"
    I get its hard for parents, but this is a daily thing for her?
    She threatens us a lot too and always says how we are lucky she doesnt beat the ******** out of us. I love my mom but i just cant view her as my family?

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  • ccsmod14
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    Re: Im 15 and I want to leave my house

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad you reached out to us for help.

    It sounds like you are having a hard time at home. You have to do a lot of work around the house. Your parents have taken away all of your freedom since you told them about having sex. It sounds like you are concerned about your sister, since they are also not treating her well. You are being a good sister and should feel good about that.

    When you tried talking to your dad about things you want to do, he was not supportive. He does not want you to join school activities or get a job. It sounds like it may be scary the way he is threatening you, and that you aren’t able to just have conversation with him. If your mom would have a different reaction, talking with her could be an option. If you have other family members or friends you can talk to, that may help you cope with your feelings. It sounds like your parents aren’t letting you hang out with your boyfriend, but if they are letting you see or speak with your friends, they may be able to give you support.

    It sounds like your parents would not give you permission to stay with your friend. If you decide to leave home without your parent’s permission, they would be able to file a runaway report with the police. A runaway report is considered a status offense, and that means that you won’t be arrested. It is the equivalent of being caught smoking by the police when you are underage. But what the police do if your parents file the runaway report may be different. We are not legal experts and cannot give legal advice, but we can share some general information. In some areas, the police will take a runaway report, but will not do anything more than that. Sometimes, they will actively go out and look for the youth. Whoever you are staying with could get into trouble for harboring a runaway. This may be something you would want to discuss with your friend.

    If you want to get a break from your parents, thinking about other family members or friends that they may give you permission to stay with for even a day or two may help you get a break and make it easier to handle how you are being treated.

    Whether or not you decide that to leave home, we are here to discuss your situation and talk through your options. If you would like to give us a call, we can try to help you manage what is happening at home and make a plan if you leave. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    We hope you and your sister stay safe. Thanks again for reaching out to us. It takes courage to ask for help, and we wish you the best of luck with such a difficult situation.

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    Im 15 and I want to leave my house

    So my problem is i barely have any freedom and recently my parents gave me some freedom and let me hang out with my boyfriend. Me and my bf had sex and i had to tell my parents cause i was scared of possibly being pregnant, after i told them they began to treat me badly im not aloud to go anywhere or see anyone which is kinda understandable but today when i told my dad im joing a sport and a club and that im getting a job in highschool he began to threaten me saying if i do dumb things he'll do things that i cant imagine he could do and that i wont be successful if i get a "********ty" job. They also treat me like a slave and make me do alot in the house...my 20 year old close friend offered me a place to stay and i want to bring my 10 yer old sister with me cause they're treating her badly too but i want to leave my house legally and with out my parents doing anything about it
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