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  • #76
    Hey there, Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like things are really challenging at home. It can be difficult for parents to give their children responsibility and trust. You don’t deserve to be yelled at. Maybe you could try talking with them about the best way you communicate with you. If you would like help with that, we offer a conference call service. It could help having a mediator. You can call in at 1-800-786-2929. You mentioned you are scared to be at your house. It could help to come up with a safety plan. For example, when you aren’t feeling safe you could go to a trusted neighbors house. Or if that isn’t available you could go to a room in your house that you can lock to stay safe. Again, we want to thank you for reaching out. That is a brave first step to getting help. If you want to talk about any of the options mentioned or just talk more about your situation we are available 24/7. You can call or chat (1800runaway.org). We are here to listen, here to help. Good Luck!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #77
      Hello
      My name is kev, and i just turned 15..like on the 4th of January..and umm i been wanting to leave my house and get the ******** away from my dad for the longest..but now i really want to leav and i dont know how to do it..see i have place i can run away to like my friend and even some of my family members that will let me hide..but i been thinking about it and i am 15 and i am still in school and i dont waant to put that at jeaporty, so i was thinking about getting emansipatied..but i am 15 an di dont have a job, insurance, or a place that my own..so i am stuck..i want to leave because my dads a verbally and physically abusive parent. He does not let me have freedom and he treask me like i am his pesonal robot..he tells me that i am a dumb ass and ******** i dont like that..but idc about the verbally abuise..i just need to leave but i want to leave with a smakrt leagl desision so i can take care of my self with out having to ask hime for ********. You know how i can do that by any chance
      -thanks-

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      • ccsmod13
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        Thanks for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and we are glad you did. It sounds like you are in a very stressful situation with your Dad. We totally understand that running away is an option and that you have some concerns. We are not legal experts and the details on emancipation are different in every state-but in general most states want you to be closer to 18, have a job and show that you can support yourself while you finish school. A lot of states require parental consent as part of the process. So, while that might not be the best option for you right now, we are happy to explore all of your possible options with you.

        You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation and help you make a report if you decide that's something you want to pursue.

        You can contact us anytime 24:7 on our website for a chat or on our crisis hotline number at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential. We would like to help you develop a plan with immediate steps you can take that will make your situation more manageable and help get you into an overall better situation. We are a non-directive agency so that means we are going to help you explore all your options and help you develop a safe plan that feels right for you. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck!

    • #78
      i'm 15 about to turn 16 in 2 months. my family is so chaotic and i don't wanna live with my parents anymore. all my dad does is yell about everything. if the dishes aren't done he throws them away. he also threatens to send us off every time he gets mad. one day i was gone and he told me and my other siblings not to come home and locked the doors so i couldn't get in because i got in an argument with his girlfriend. he treats her better than his own children and will choose her over us any day. he doesn't want me to live here but every time i bring up wanting to leave he gets mad. i have a bathroom in my room so i could be using the bathroom and he'll bang on my bedroom door cussing until i answer. this stuff happens almost everyday and i just don't wanna deal with it anymore. all i want is peace and quiet but i can't get that. i've tried talking about stuff with him but he just gets mad and starts yelling when we talk about it. also when i wash my clothes he throws them in the floor if i don't take them out of the washer in time.

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      • ccsmod13
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you are feeling unwanted and overwhelmed at home. It's understandable you would want and need some space from an environment that feels stressful and not supportive. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here to help as much as possible.

        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #79
      I'm teen, living with my mom is mentally draining, she always brings up my mistakes even though she says she won't bring them up again, and then tells me everything she does for me when in all honestly those are at least the minimum she can do. She says I don't do any work around the house, but I literally do everything dishes, floors, trash, clothes, etc. when she comes home from work she doesn't have to do anything because I've done it already. She always brings up that her and my grandparents do everything and that my dad does nothing, mind you they are divorced and she doesn't even like me talking to him, money-wise he does above and beyond, but he's pretty crappy too, which my mom isn't wrong, but I've had to go to therapy over my dad and the divorce, so she knows bringing him up is a sore topic especially with a recent event that happened I feel like she did that on purpose to hurt. Everyone in my family expects me to be perfect all the time, I'm not allowed any mistakes everyone else in my family my age isn't even held to the same standard mind you my family is in the public eye so I have to watch what I do. Today I was talking past my curfew with my best friend and a guy friend and she flipped out I did apologize and recognized my mistake and I did tell her that I should have at least told her, but it wasn't like that big of a deal how she made it when I was trying to explain to her she kept saying you're being disrespectful and rude, so I couldn't even tell her then she goes on this whole Jesus train we are Christian, but its at the point where I rather get emancipated and figure life out on my own, I've been saving money , but she keeps taking money out of my bank account so I'm lost to be honest yes I live a good life, but if it's going to be like this every day I can't do it, especially since my mental health isn't all that great like I said before. You cant talk to her about how your feeling without her getting defensive now I have restrictions on my phone and she blaming my best friend saying im only like that when im with her, but that isn't the truth she likes my other best friend better, but little does she know that other girl just hies what she does better etc. so im lost and stuck I wish I could talk to her without her getting so defensive, but I have literally have no one anymore, mom, dad etc. I have no one to talk to about this.
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      • ccsmod3
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It is understandable to be frustrated in such a situation. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        You mentioned thinking about emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation.
        In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. You mentioned that it’s difficult to save up do to having an account your mom has access to; you could possibly look into having your pay go into a separate savings account. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18.
        The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. The best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat.
        If you would like to talk more in detail, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe and stay strong,
        NRS

    • #80
      One of the parents is a politician, and I want to know that if I do get emancipated I know the judge Is going to legally decline my offer, it seems like all the offers I thought will fall through the cracks because of my parent position.

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      • ccsmod15
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a tricky situation, and we are here to support you!

        It sounds like you are interested in emancipation.  We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works.  Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents.  It also helps to be in good standing at school.  The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18.  The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat (1-800-RUN-AWAY or 1800runaway.org).

        We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

        Sincerely,
        NRS

    • #81
      I'm 15 and I want to leave but I am scared that I will get caught because the last time I tried my mother threatened to call the police on me then and get me removed. I even asked to live with my grandparents but her answer was no. I have so many reasons to leave and she doesn't see that...She's hurt me in so many ways, even once tried to kill me and has broken me down mentally. She calls me things and when I get trouble she keeps those things over me and tells everyone about it and it makes me look like a horrible person. My step dad is the same and he always says I only do the things I do, like talk about anime or school or something quite simple, for attention and everytime I try to talk and tell them something I am either ignored or interupted. My mothers threatens to run away sometimes, she plays the pity card, as if shes the one being affected and I am sure it has affected her to but it still gives her no right to treat me like ********. She has even started a strict rule about phones and electronics and now I can't even contact my grandparents or if I'm lost I can't get help because my phone is either taken or at the house when I need it. It feels like I have no freedom and I just feel pressured and overwhelmed...I don't know what to because I look at the por's and cons of this and just thinking of leaving makes me happy but she is constantly breathing down my neck and I can only do the things I enjoy when she is gone at work. And at this point, just because I kept my phone for a entire night, she doesn't trust me anymore and no longer gives me a say in things.

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      • ccsmod15
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        Hello,

        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot going on right now with your mother and stepdad and you are considering leaving. We are so sorry that things have been so tough. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to share information that might help.

        It sounds like you, your mom and stepdad have clashed several times. It sounds like you have you’re your best to try to empathize with your parents, but it has been tough to communicate with them and that has been pretty tough on you. If you would like support for yourself, one option would be to explore whether there is a school psychologist or social worker that might be able to speak with you. They can help you identify ways that you can cope with the situation at home, and possibly help you figure out different ways to approach them to help you feel heard. In your message, you discuss wanting to leave, but having concerns about what might happen if you do. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore options near you, including local non-emergency and legal aid, we are here for you.

        Whatever you decide, please know that we are here to support you. Although we cannot tell you what to do, we will do our best to help you explore options to keep you safe as you decide your next steps. If you would like to talk more in detail, please reach out to us. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or via chat by visiting www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. We are here to listen, here to help.

        Stay safe,
        NRS

    • #82
      I am 16 and i want to run away because my parents want so much that I can't do and all I think about is killing them and feeling great

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      • ccsmod2
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        Hi thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. Im sorry that you are going through all of this. These days parents put so much pressure on you. Just know you aren't alone. If you feel comfortable maybe the more appropriate way to go about this is sitting down and calmly talking to your parents. Im sure it can be frustrating but if you are ok with it, it might not be such a bad idea. If that doesn't work for you if you are comfortable talking to another trusted adult, friend, relative, or school counselor that also might not be a bad idea.
        If you would like to talk more or explore more options please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
        NRS

    • #83
      im 15 years old in a mentally abusive toxic home. my mother makes me do everything around the house and sets off over the smallest things. she verbally abuses me and makes me feel bad for being around her. she never lets me do anything and I have no freedom or friends. i have an online long-distance relationship that I've been in for a year and she found out about him. she slaps me in the face and thrown me around like a ragdoll. she is keeping me from my boyfriend. changed the wifi. took my phone and the house phone. she lied to me and told me she had breast cancer and refused treatment just to make me feel bad for telling her that I didn't wanna live with her anymore. keep in mind my grandmother was my best friend who died of breast cancer. and then she makes up a lie like that. i need to get out if this house there's a camera outside and in every room of the house. she keeps me from doing my school because I have to clean the house. I have to wake up every morning to get my little sister on school because my moms too lazy to get up and be a mom. i cook, clean, and do everything my mom is supposed to do. I need help. I DONT FEEL SAFE IN THIS HOUSE ANYMORE

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      • ccsmod9
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        Thank you for contacting NRS,
        We appreciate your bravery for reaching out to us today. We are sorry to read that your mom has been really hard on you to the point that you do not feel safe or cared for in anyway. She has tried manipulate the situation as you spoke about her not having cancer and that can be very serious things going on at home. We are sorry you are going through all that abuse. Some things we want to address are that if you do not feel safe at the current moment you are welcome to call the cops (911) at any point as you do not feel safe. Secondly please know that we here at NRS would love to help report any abuse going on as you mentioned. We typically report alongside youth so that they have people to lean on during a difficult thing like reporting abuse. Once we report that with you a caseworker would come out a couple days later and check to see how you are doing and determine if you should be removed from your home. Another organization that helps with reporting abuse is called Child Help (www.childhelp.org or by phone: 800-422-4453) they can also assist you with any reports you might want to do.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #84
      I'm 16 I'm from Philippines. I wanna leave home so bad I saved extra money but I don't think it's enough. I lived all of my life with my grandparents and now my parents are in conflict with them so they took me away. They won't even allow me to come back to my grandparents, all of my life are with them. They can't just take it away from me! I am so devastated, I am failing in my studies. I really wanna die.

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      • ccsmod15
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        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
        We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the circumstances that affect youth in your country.
        NRS

    • #85
      I'm 17 and for the past year of my life I had no freedom at all. I went to a party few times with my friends and drank some alcohol and had a few cigarettes, nothing that isn't normal amongst teenagers. All of my friends parents grounded them for a week or two, but my mom doesn't let me see my friends anymore. She constantly checks my messages and I have to delete them all the time because she would go crazy if she found out I have texted someone with whom I went to parties. I have a friend that is like a brother to me, and I am afraid that our friendship will end if I stay at home and can't have any contact with him. On top of that, she constantly looks at me like she is ashamed that I'm her son, and doesn't let me see my grandma because she knew what I was doing. I thought I'd be grounded for some weeks, but it will be whole year since I didn't have contact with human beings and I HATE IT AT HOME. I am very social person and I like spending time in nature with friends. It is just too hard living with my parents when they always make me feel like I ain't supposed to be their son. I wanted to go from home for a long time now, but I am too afraid I would end up homeless. There is a friend offering me his place to stay at, but I am kind of ashamed to let his parents take care of me until I am 18. What should I do?

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      • ccsmod9
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        Thank you for reaching out to NRS and telling us about what you are going through and what is happening. We know it takes a lot of courage to do so and reaching out is a great step to find resources that may help you.



        It sounds like you have been having some challenges with your parents and they are not allowing you to have contact with your friends or Grandma. We know this can be very difficult and understand you’re feeling of wanting to leave home and in need of some options to help support you. There are a few options we can provide, the first and easiest option if you are looking to leave home is to get your parent’s permission to do so, and your friend’s parent’s permission if staying at his home is possible. If there is any matter of concern of safety, you can contact Child Protective Services at childhelp.org or calling 1-800-422-4453. The third option is emancipation and this is often a lengthy and difficult process. Most states require a youth to demonstrate they can support themselves financially. If you are interested in this option you can contact your local court house to find out more information, or NRS can search for legal aid resources so you can obtain advice from a lawyer.



        If you would like to explore these options further, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us through 1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and here to listen and support you anyway we can.



        Thank you, NRS

    • #86
      I'm 15 and I want to get away from my family

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      • ccsmod2
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        Hello There,

        Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

        We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report, if the police were to find you it is a possibility that you could be brought back home.

        If you would like to talk more about your situation or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!

        NRS
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