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  • #61
    I have no privacy.. Im 15 about to turn 16.. I would have gotten a room this yeaar.. but since a a friend came.. i have been living with in same room with my parents.. no offense but my dad wouldn't even let me out of the room.. like where are you going? I am like i just went to kitchen.. Where did u come from? I just came back from kitchen and not to mention he is always agitated when im outside the house.. its not like im going somewhere.. im just taking a breather ;-; it has been annoying me for a while.. oh and when i dont go out.. he is like why arent u going out?????

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you could be feeling very frustrated with your current lack of space.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. We would be glad to offer support, explore options, and connect you with local resources if there are any available in your area. We are happy to help in any way that we can. You can contact us further by giving us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chatting with us through our website, https://www.1800runaway.org/. We hope to hear from you soon!

      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • #62
    I am 15 I have been depressed for about 4 years now and my parents don’t seem to care I’m mentally abused by everyone I want a new family and feel loved and like I’m safe.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. You deserve to feel loved and supported instead of afraid.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #63
    Im 15 and my mom is very controlling I have no contact to the outside world the computer i'm using now is my school computer which still doesn't give me contact to the outside.I am very su**dal and I have been thinking about running away these are my only options of ways out.I wanted to get emancipated but she won't even let me get a job (says i'm to young) when all of my friends my age have jobs already and are even getting ready to drive.I'm losing hope fast and don't even tell me to try and talk to her because that never worked and never will i'm dying please help.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • #64
    Am I being verbally or emotionally abused?

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #65
    hi, so um i'd like advice on my current situation? i am currently 14 years old. i am a minor, and i turn 15 in around three months. i deal with depression and anxiety due to issues at home, and have diagnosed social anxiety, which is irrelevant to my mental illness, but I am aware that I have social anxiety issues because of trauma from the social dynamic at home. i have a four year plan, so i can move out as soon as I'm 18, to ensure that I'll be able to get away as soon as i can. im a freshmen, and i plan on getting my license asap so i can drive to get a job, and save money. i also planned on doing duel enrollment so i could get some college classes done for free, and im glad my school offers that. i then move out once legally an adult and live with any relative that will have me, i cook, clean, and am generally a responsible person and i have no doubt that any one would be happy to have me live with them, as i am considerate of my living space. but my immediate family is not. i clean out and organize the fridge because if i dont, nobody cares about food getting moldy or things being all over the place. i used to clean most of the house even tho i have three siblings, because they didnt care about the mess and neither did my parents. this was a stressful experience and i eventually learned to just stick within my own environment and id be happier, so i stay in my room where i can control my space, but my parents dont like this. distancing myself from them helps me maintain my mental health, because they are a direct cause. im a very psychological person and i am self aware, and i understand that most of my mental illness roots from my parents and their lack of parenting skills. this has caused me long term emotional trauma, because my siblings have no consideration for each other and are constantly arguing, but because my parents cant correctly parent, the situation becomes worse and it leads to my parents yelling and adding to the problem. there is a lot of verbal argument that turns into psychological trauma, and i can tell that my two brothers have eating disorders and my sister struggles with her weight bc she uses eating as a coping mechanism. my family doesnt show affection and i have no connection to any of them. i have empathy for my siblings tho. i am grateful that i dont deal with physical abuse, but its still difficult at home, and my trauma is still valid. i am aware that i can move in with a relative and be filed as a runaway, but the only person i can even come close to staying with is my grandma. i know my legal mother would tell everyone that im being an impossible teenager and that shes being reasonable, but without acknowledging that she is the reason that i need therapy in the first place. it is very lonely, and all i ever wanted was a functioning family. my friends are my family to me, and i believe that family is not by blood, it is by heart. and my friends are there for me in a way that my blood family never has, so they are my family. every day gets just a little bit harder, and although my four year plan is a long term goal, i dont know how much longer i can keep going. it is difficult to heal in the environment that hurt you. im not sure if i can endure another three years here. my dad is not responsible in parenting, and piggybacks off everything my mom says. his form of discipline is yelling and taking things away, while my mom has to do all the parenting, its too stressful for her on her own and causes her to do the same thing. this is a vicious cycle, for it causes my siblings to argue with each other and look at each other as a source of negative feelings, rather than someone they should try to understand where theyre coming from. due to my depression, i find it hard to be productive, but ive noticed that whenever im able to be home alone, that drastically changes. when the toxic environment is gone, my anxiety is almost non existent and i feel myself again. so i take advantage of this, by cleaning the house, doing homework, and enjoying the space of the living room and kitchen before going back to my room when they get home. these are just some details from my situation, and is kind of hard for me to talk about. i can never stop thinking about it, im not sure if its ptsd but i can never fully focus on something bc the things that have traumatized me are constantly in the back of my mind, and are the things i cant get out of my head. it hurts. every day. i cry until i am just too numb for tears to come out. it is hard, but i try to look on the bright side of things. i am looking for advice on what my next move should be. i dont know anyone who is legally an adult that would be willing to take me in, but i am honestly desperate and confident that they would be comfortable to have me in their home. all of my aunts and uncles arent in a suitable place to take me in, and the only one close is my grandma, bc i know she has a spare room. i know all of my aunts and uncles would help me in a second, bc i am pretty close with them. but they are also close to my mom. so i feel like they would believe her over me. what do you think would be the best approach? thank you for taking the time to read my lengthy post, i really do appreciate it. i admire the NRS and i am thankful that it is a thing. i appreciate everyone working for the NRS and i hope you know you are helpful and many of us in need of support and guidance are grateful that it exists.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out, as we know it can be difficult to talk about what you are going through at home. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #66
    Hi I’m 15 my. Mom and Dad Treat me like s*** They made me do everything in house and I Have 3 brothers they don’t do nothing at all they have favorite child They don’t care about me and I want to leave but I want it be a legal To leave and stay somewhere else what do I do

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that the situation at home with your mom and dad has been so tough on you. It sounds like their behavior really makes you feel uncared for at home, and you are interested in exploring the possibility of living somewhere else.

      We are not legal experts, but from what we understand, if you are considered a minor in your state, legally living outside of the care of your parents or legal guardians would require one of two situations: having consent from your parents or becoming emancipated. For the first option, it may help for you to reach out to an adult that may be willing and able to take you in and be legally responsible for you. Depending on the laws in your state, this could mean having your parents give consent for the adult you would like to live with to act as a legal guardian, or for this adult to petition for custody. Pursuing emancipation would also involve the legal system in your state, and may have other requirements. In all cases, your local department of family services may be able to provide more details. If you would rather pursue a legal resource, organizations like Legal Aid have offices in most states. We can help you identify the office nearest to you, and are also here for you if you need someone to talk to, so please feel free to reach out to us.

      Whatever you decide, please know that we are here to support you. We cannot tell you what to do, but we can do our best to help you explore your option. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929), or via our chat service by visiting our website at https://www.1800runaway.org . We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!
      -NRS

  • #67
    I am 15 years old I live in the state of Michigan I do not like it at home I hear about this thing called emancipated how old do I have to be to file for that and how would I go about doing that one other thing I think I'm pregnant would it be harder for me to get emancipated if I have a baby or would my mother try to keep her I really hope not cuz she is on pills and sleeps and don't know how to take care of her kids I have to watch my brother and sister cuz she sleeps

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      It sounds like you are interested in emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents.
      It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court.
      As for if you are pregnant and bring the child with that will likely be a separate legal issue to emancipation and dependent upon your plan for independence. It might be that you can file for full custody at 18 or once you are settled and on your feet, while the child stays in foster care until you can get them back.
      We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

  • #68
    Hello,


    I am a 15 year old female who is in serious need of a break from the current family that I am in. I have been in foster care for 11 years, and have been adopted for 4. Recently I have been feeling depressed, tired, and overwhelmed. I feel like I am ruining the family that I am in. Every time I try to make it better, it just gets worst. How do I make things better with my adoptive family? Or, how do I leave, so that I don't cause any more chaos than there already is?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline – we are here to help and to listen.
      We’re sorry to hear that you have been feeling depressed and feeling like you are a burden to your family.
      One of our 24/7 hotline (1-800-786-2929) and chat line workers would be more than happy to speak with you about some of the options you can access for your mental health and to improve communication with your family.

      We also wanted to leave you with a few resources that may be helpful. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is another resource you can access for support and mental health resources. Text "connect" to 741741 to speak with a crisis counselor. Another resource is the Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255, this number is also 24/7.

      Another helpful option could be to access a school counselor or mental health professional in your area, sometimes it is helpful to have difficult conversations with family when there is a third person involved.

      What ever option you decide to go with, please know that you are not alone.

      Best of luck,
      National Runaway Safeline

  • #69
    I’m 15 and I feel like I want to runaway,I want to leave because I feel like I will be better off by myself...but the reasons why I want to leave is because of my parents they make my life hard..I feel like there so much pressure on me..I get straight As in school,I try my best to be a good child to them...but I feel like a servant to them..I slip up once and they ridicule me and if I cry they always call me sensitive,stupid,or sometimes my dad would slap me....My parents are immigrants so they want the best for me and I completely understand that but sometimes I have a limit and I need someone to talk to about things that I’m feeling and to feel like I’m talking to a brick wall because they don’t believe that I’m depressed...I once told my dad that I felt depressed and he told me that I had nothing to be depressed about...but for a month straight I had cried myself to sleep...ever since I started high school I never really felt happy..it was just short moments with my friends would make my day...but then I come home and the happiness fades away....I know they work a lot for me but sometimes I need someone to talk to and not be called names, or get yelled at..I just need someone to actually care about my well-being and mental health..I feel like my dad in physical abusive and my mom is verbally abusive..but recently my dad hasn’t put him hands on me tho which i guess is the bright side of it..Bit just need some advice on what to do because I just want to leave

    P.S sorry if there’s typos I’m typing this while crying on my bed

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are sorry to hear that you are feeling alone and are having feelings of being depressed. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling hurt and overwhelmed about some of the emotions you are feeling when it comes to your parents. It must be confusing when your parents want the best for you and also do things that are hurtful. It is not okay for anyone to put their hands on you or not take your feelings of being depressed seriously. You might want to visit Child Help Line where you can read about ways to process all of the tough emotions when dealing with your family. If you are interested in learning more, you can visit https://kidshelpline.com.au/teens and click on the “family” page and choose what you need help with. This page helps youth understand how having experiences like these can be confusing to the brain. Additionally, it might be helpful if you reach out to your school social worker to ask them for support when you are having feelings of depression and you feel as if no one is listening to you.

      We are sorry to hear you are still having a hard time at times with your parents sometimes. It is never okay to be harmed by anyone. If you need support discussing what is happening at home or are interested in making an abuse report you can call Child Help 1-800-422-4453. An advocate can work with you and call the reporting line with you and provide support through your challenging time. If you need any additional resources or support or have any questions, please do not hesitate to call NRS directly at 1-800-786-2929 or visit https://www.1800runaway.org/#. We are here 24/7 to take calls and chats. We can better support you with resources and referrals if we know where you are located.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS
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