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    I’m 15 and my parents are really rude to me I wanna run away but I’m scared that the cops will make me come back and my parents will hit me after

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you are a minor and leave home without permission your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you do decide to leave home and need a safe place to go please give us a call and we can help you find a safe place.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    im 15 and want to leave my house i don't have a bad life i just feel like im always doing something wrong and then feel bad about it i don't want to get emancipated i just want to leave help me please

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here and NRS and sharing a bit about your friend's situation. It sounds like you truly care about her and you do not want to see her be hurt by this person. It can certainly be frustrating to watch someone you love make a decision you do not agree with. While it can be very frustrating, sometimes supporting a loved one can mean letting them make their own decisions while still being a safe space for them to vent their feelings. This can be a challenging situation for you emotionally as well. There is an organization called Love is Respect, https://www.loveisrespect.org/ which might be a helpful resource for you during this time. There is more information about how you can help a friend in an unhealthy dating situation and you can chat with a trained counselor.

    Additionally, we are available 24/7 to listen and help you and your friend as much as possible. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services if you or your friend would like to talk more about your situation.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    Today I found out that the girl I love and want to protect decides to go off and date the worst man alive he has dated so many girls and let’s them all down. (My friend) has told me that (the girl) told him that she did not want to get played. And that he doesn’t even like her.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I’m 15, 8 mother has passed away my fathers away working and goes behind my back, i live with my grandparents and they are so horrible. I have no other family to go to and I have tried, please get me away.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello there, thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear about the passing away of your father. It sounds like you have gone through some pretty hard times, you are so brave. You don’t deserve to be treated in such a way by your mom, it is unfair that she has left you for a week and that you are running low on food. You also do not deserve to be mentally or physically abused, you are a valuable human being. We are sorry that your mom wants to send you away to live with your uncle so far away, it is understandable that you want to run away.

    To begin, we would like to address the mental and physical abuse you go through. The first reference we would like to offer is the National Child Abuse Hotline known as Child Help, this hotline is free, confidential and available 24-7 and their number is 1-800-422-4453. We also offer help when it comes to abuse by providing the option to file an abuse report, so you may give us a call as well if you so choose at 1-800-786-2929. We would also like to offer NAMI as another option to have someone to talk to about what you are going through and their number is 1-800-950-6264. If you ever find yourself in the position where you have no place to go then we would like to mention https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ as a resource to find homeless shelters in your area.

    Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We are also free, confidential and available 24-7 and we are here for not only resources but guidance as well. We’re here to listen, here to help.

    -NRS

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    I'm 15 and I'm thinking of running away my mom hasent came home in a week and I'm runing out of food my mom wants to send me away to Florida with my uncle and I live in California can I get some help please I'm in a centuachin school and I get mentally and physically abused I'm just looking for guidance in life my dad passed away two years ago and he was who I chould go to for help but I'm rining out of options.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.


    It sounds like you are in a tough situation with your parent’s not letting you see your boyfriend and being abusive towards you. You don’t deserve to face any abuse. It’s not your fault that she does this.
    Since their decision it sounds like you may be looking for some options to help cope with being separated.

    We understand how difficult it must be for you. It sounds like the two of you are support for one another.

    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

    We are here to help and here to listen. Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    My parents are divorced and I live in two separate homes, one with my single mother and one with my father and step mother. My mother is mentally/verbally abusive and I have recently tried getting out of her house but due to legal situations it is not working. My father recently found out that my "best friend" is my boyfriend and we have been with each other a lot, and have been showing affection to each other and my father did not like that I didn’t tell him. He and my psycho mother have always been very controlling over my friends and my social life. My boyfriend is all I have right now because my mother mentally drained my friends, to the point where they didn’t want to me friends with me anymore, and everyone left me. I talked to my dad about giving me freedom if I started being open with him about me and my boyfriend’s relationship, or just my life and we came to terms that we would be more easy going. A day later I asked him if I could go see my boyfriend, and he said no and is not giving me any freedom whatsoever. I haven’t seen my boyfriend in a week and now our relationship is becoming more and more distant because of my controlling parents. My mother is currently not letting me talk to him at all because she doesn't want me to have a boyfriend. I don’t know what to do. I have tried talking to my dad calmly about how I feel about my boyfriend and giving me at least some freedom with everything I have going on in my life, and he never listens and only does what he wants. It is to the point where I am being affected not only at school by my mom and dad, but it is affecting my social life/grades and mental health with my mom being mentally draining and my dad being controlling. I don’t know what to do at all and there is no one in my life I can trust to talk about this stuff with. I am wanting to leave my house because I feel that being independent and on my own would be way better than the situation I have going on now. I have thought about this for around a year now but now it is getting to the point where I can’t take it anymore. This is the second time my parents have broken up a meaningful relationship to me (the last one lasting two years) for absolutely no reason. I also am very close with my boyfriend and his mother and I talk to her about my situations that I would never feel comfortable talking to my parents about, because she is on the more understanding side while my parents are not. I want to continue seeing my boyfriend, and with his mom knowing about my situation, she has always been open to me coming and staying at their place. I have thought about running away/leaving for a long while but I am worried my crazy parents will involve the police and I really do not want to get them involved with that stuff, being such great people. Please help me out. I just want to be left alone.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 02-05-2020, 01:40 AM.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your dad is treating you in such a hurtful manner. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect and you are no exception. It makes sense why you might feel so negatively towards them and why you want to leave. It might be a good idea to consider filing an abuse report to CPS or DCFS. If you want to learn more about what that means and what could happen, please contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. If you are thinking about running away, we would be happy to go over what options you have and how to go about making a plan that is both effective and safe. If you are interested in having that conversation, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I feel terrible. Being at my house my dads mentally abusive. I spend month my time in my room because I never want to go and face them. Every time someone puts there hand up by me I get scared and think I’m going to get hit I hate it here and I want to leave

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and it can be tough to cope with on your own. Abuse of any kind is never okay and not your fault. Doing your own research while thinking about the decision to leave is really responsible and resourceful!

    Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18. This means they can decide where you live. If you do choose to leave without permission, your mom can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your mom knows where you are staying then she can have the police return you home.

    The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your mom's permission. In this case, she would be allowing you to live somewhere else where you are safe and being cared for. A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your mom. Perhaps an adult family member or a friend's parent can talk to your mom with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving. The other option you mentioned was emancipation. Emancipation can be a lengthy and difficult process, and in some states you have to be 16 before you can start the process. To be emancipated and gain the rights and responsibilities of being a legal adult (renting an apartment, enrolling yourself in school, working full time, etc) you need to show a judge that you are already living separately from your guardian, you are able to financially support yourself, and that emancipation is in your best interest. Emancipation does often require the full participation and cooperation of your parent. If you would like to talk more about starting this process and the criteria, we can connect you with legal aid in your area. You can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services and we would be happy to find resources for you.

    Child Help is an organization that advocates for young people in abusive and unhealthy situations. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelphotline.org to talk more about strategies for coping with the emotional abuse at home and options for having a trusted adult intervene to help. They an also be another resource to add to your support system while you navigate this challenging time.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 01-17-2020, 09:23 PM.

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    I'm 15 and my mother is verbally abusive towards me and it effects me mentally I want to leave home but have nowhere to go I've researched about whether minors can buy there own homes and live without consent from there parents but it only comes up with emancipation and I know that my mum is really deceiving and will pretend to be supportive what should I do??

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