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  • #46
    Hi my name is Marie and I live with my mom and older sister who is 20.The reason why I want to run away is because of my mom.She is mentally abusing me and my sister and I can’t take it no more.Everyday she body shames me and talks about how I’m ugly. Every time I step up to her she laughs at me and makes it seem like I’m disrespectful when in reality I’m just expressing how I feel.A few year ago my older sister attempted suicide and she had to be placed in a hospital.My mom yelled at her and said “you make spend all this money on the hospital bill” she also continued to make mean comments towards her about how she dumb and disabled. My mother always had been bitter for no reason every time I get in trouble she tells me “I don’t care if you die” and “I wish you was never born” even when I cry she shows no emotion.Recently my mom asked for my phone and I didn’t wanna give it to her because I had things I did want her to like pictures of me and my friends, social media and text messages cause my mom doesn’t allow me to have those. So when I said no to her she came towards me like she was gonna beat so I ran. When I came back towards the house she snatched my phone away and started saying mean things to me .And I don’t think I can do this anymore all me life she has been evil and cold hearted and when ever I tell somebody about it she always play the victim .I want to run away but I have nowhere to go but neither can I stay in this house any longer.

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing a little bit of your story with us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      You do not deserve to be treated like that especially by your mother, and we are sorry you are having to deal with that. It sounds like it could be emotional abuse which you do have the right to report it. You can call Child help at: 1800-422-4453 and they would be able to help you with making a report. You can also call or chat with us and we would be happy to assist you in making an abuse report. Your mother shaming you about your looks has nothing to with you but it is her own insecurities.
      We are sorry to hear about your sister’s prior suicide attempt, and we are happy that she is safe. Having suicidal thoughts can be scary, but there is always someone willing to listen and provide support. If you or your sister are feeling suicidal please call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 1800-273-8255.
      We know you mentioned that you cannot stay in the house any longer, one option to consider is seeing if you could stay with a family member or a friend. We know a lot of schools are closed right now but school counselors are still meeting with students virtually.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #47
    my problem is i made a lot of bad choices in the past few months and i can see that it upsets my mom but everyday it seems like she thinks i dont have feelings too. like i dont need to hear from her that im a disappointment and a ***** all the time when most of the time shes the one that triggers me. ive had depression for 4 years and i didnt start making poor choices like smoking or having sex until like 3 months ago. i just have no more freedom. ive been to my aunts house and other families' houses and they know everything i did and they treat me way better than she ever did. i love my mom and i appreciate everything she does for me but sometimes the only thing i want from her is some support or respect because even though i am a bad kid im so sensitive and i handle things differently then most teens would. i just want to leave my house legally, but i have no where to go and no contact with anyone.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #48
    i just want to leave i feel like a prisoner with no privileges or anything please help b4 i do something bad to myselfff please

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    • ccsmod15
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      Thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear things are difficult at home and you feel you aren't being given the privileges you deserve. That must be very frustrating. Please know we take your situation seriously and want to help as best we can.

      We are pretty concerned when you talk about "doing something bad" to yourself. That sounds pretty serious. If you ever feel suicidal, please reach out for the help you deserve. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is staffed by people trained to talk about suicide, so they are a great resource. You can reach them at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call 1-800-273-8255. You can also reach out to us anytime to talk about suicide or anything else on your mind. Another great website you may want to look at is www.twloha.com. We want you to be safe. Things can get better and you have many options besides hurting yourself.

      We'd like to help out further but need a little more information from you to see how to assist and help you figure out what your options are. The best way to do that would be if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!
      Last edited by ccsmod15; 04-25-2020, 12:41 PM.

  • #49
    I hate my family. My brother is the only good part of it. I'm a trans man, at least I want to be, but I haven't told my parents. I know they'll get mad. My dad didn't like that I had a girlfriend, my mom understood because she's bisexual, which confuses me because my dad doesn't like those kinds of relationships. He grew up with a religious Grandma and his dad wasn't around. Most his family is dead now except for his Uncle. Which I guess you could say its an "excuse" of how he acts, but I don't care, he's a bad father and I don't want to call him that. I don't care what my mom says, she just wants me to pity him so I'll care, but I don't. Now I have this problem, I want to be a male yet, I know my parents will get mad at me, my dad didn't approve of my sexuality and I know they both won't approve of how I feel about my gender. My mom has said that I can't get a "boys" haircut throughout my life and I never knew how annoying and rude that was until I realized how I felt about myself. I actually yelled at her about it when I was going to get a haircut and she got really mad and kept reminding me that I'm her DAUGHTER and I have to get a GIRL'S haircut. It made me so mad, but I said nothing, I just silently cried to myself the rest of the way to the hair salon. Another thing that annoyed me was that she told the hairdresser that I wanted a BOY'S haircut and I can't tell how badly I wanted to punch her at that moment. Anyways, my hair is short now and I like it, but my mom wasn't so happy about it. I thought it'd be obvious, especially up to now, about how I feel about myself. I guess not. I really want to tell my brother about it, but right now might not be at all the right time. I don't know if I can ever tell them. One more thing, just a few hours ago I was trying to defend my brother because my mom is getting mad at him for not having school work done and I was trying to tell her that it's not fair how he's treating him compared to me and she gets angry and says "So, do you want me to tell at you too?" I was like "No." But, she's always been like this. After a while I try to tell her that maybe she should help him or do something if it's really a problem, but she's just ignores that and says "Well, it's not really your ********ing business." And that's when I left and said nothing else, I wanted to say "Yeah, it is because it's my brother and I care about him you fat jerk!" My mom is fat. Anyway, I went back to my school work and latter I gave it to her, yes I got more work done than my brother, but I don't think my brother needs a reminder of how much he's behind. Which is exactly what she does! She showed him how much work I got done while he was still working on something else. I wanted to tell her off so bad for that, but I knew I would have been yelled at or hit. I just can't take this family anymore. I hate them. I hate all of them. I wish I could help my brother. And help myself. I just wish I could have a better family.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hey there,
      Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you have been through a lot and so has your sibling. It makes sense to be upset when your parents just yell at you for anything rather than try to approach the situation with understanding and empathy.
      It seems like you are mainly upset and concerned about how your family would accept your identity as transgender, unfortunately that is something a lot of people like you have been through as well. There is a national talk line for LGBT youth that you can reach at 1-800-246-7743. There is also an online resource at glbthotline.org if you want to see what others in your situation have done to cope and get through it.
      Another option you might consider looking into would be a family counselor, or mediator. Your school counselor may have some options to present you if you explain the situation or we could search our database to see what we have in your area.
      We hope those resource may be able to help, it seems like you have every reason to feel the way you do, and we want you to know that we are here to support you however we can. If you have more questions or need to vent you can always call our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online.

  • #50
    I'm 15 and my "real name" is Cheyenne, but call me Cameron. I am a trans male, at least as much as I can be. That's the problem, especially now. My family sucks i hate them. I just wish I could leave them behind. I don't want anything to do with them anymore. If it's not me that's gonna get hurt it might end up being them. The only good part of my family is my brother. Even though, it seems like he's starting to act like me when I was his age. Being sarcastic and not finding a lot of things funny anymore like silly faces or jokes. Let me tell you something I have Asperger's and ADHD, While my brother only has ADHD, and it was more obvious when he was younger, he was really hyper and off the walls to be honest. But nowadays it's just more of him not being able to focus on anything in school. I have that problem too, only I'm not as energetic, and me having Asperger's too doesn't help. It also doesn't change how my family treats us. They still treat is like we're stupid and aren't very good at everything. We know that I go to a certain school because of it. While my brother goes to a "regular" school. Anyway, it hard to live with my parents. They are both terrible people. They don't "abuse" us to the point of we should be removed from the home, but there's different types of abuse. Yet, it seems like my parents don't know that. They make me feel bad for them, but when it comes to me feel sad they just say "You're old enough. You can handle it." Umm...No. Just because I'm older doesn't mean I can handle everything. When my mom doesn't understand my depression she's gets sad and starts crying saying that I could be taken away from them, which I didn't really want then. Now I do! I want to be taken away! I hate this family! I wish my brother would be taken with me! I don't know he gets by. Now with all this coronavirus pandemic, I don't think it's going to happen. I wish I could call or tell someone about everything they've done and how they treat me and my brother, but it would take to long to type and read. I really hope when this is over I can leave my family for good and never talk to any of them again.

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      Hey Cameron,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We want you to know that we fully accept and respect you and your gender identity. You are not alone in this and the LGBT National Youth Talkline is a great resource that offers support for young people in similar situations to your own. The hotline is run by those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community.

      You mentioned some things about "being taken away" and that there is some abuse going on at home (at some point). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      You noted in your post that you've been having some issues in addition to your already diagnosed Asperger's and ADHD. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #51
    I'm 14 and these past months I haven't been on my best behavior, bringing marijuana in the house, leaving in the middle of the night. I know what I had done was wrong and I should be punished but my parents are taking everything away from me until I turn 18. All of my friends, my phone, any freedom, he won't let me leave the house ever without him being there(my dad) until I am of legal age and even then he will be controlling me. I am trapped in my home and I need a way out. It has been mentally and emotionally difficult for me. He has dragged me by the hair once when I asked him to hang out with one of my friends in the past and has verbally abused me as well. I want to get financially stable to leave but I don't think he will ever let me get a job. I will never be able to talk to anyone I used to be in contact with because he doesn't trust any of them. I need to be able to leave but I don't know how to start getting money. Please help me. The only person who would help me is my mom and she doesn't know much English and can't work. I need a way out.

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      It can seem like the punishments your parents are putting in place are a bit harsh, they may be expressing their anger in an unhealthy way. It does show maturity that you have taken responsibility for your actions and have acknowledged what you have done. One option to consider is telling your parents what you have told us and seeing if you guys can come to a compromise with your punishment.
      Also we know you mentioned being emotionally abused and having your hair pulled, you do not deserve that. If you ever did want to file an abuse report you can and there are a few ways you can do that. One option would be to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. You can also chat with us or give us a call and we would be happy to file a report for you. If you are ever in immediate danger please call 911, and an officer will be able to help.
      We know you mentioned wanting a job, which is great that you want to be financially stable and shows independence. We are not experts but in most states they require you to be at least 15 years old and usually you would need to obtain a workers permit. Also if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • #52
    I am going to be honest. I used to lie and steal. I stopped lying in 8th grade and stopped stealing in the 6th. I'm also adopted. The person who adopted me is in the military. Here is the real problem I’m afraid to report her. A few things she has done to me are when I was in the third grade she left me outside in my pj's and a coat she said “the woman from the agency is coming to get you". This happened while a foster kid was sleeping in my room. The woman never came so I ended up sleeping on the couch. When I was in the third or fourth grade she threw commit in my face it got in my mouth and a little in my eyes. Two weeks ago I had bad grades. While she was lecturing and yelling at me she looked me up and down in disgust and I looked on the floor and then back at her. She said “Are you mocking me"? I said "no ma'am" she said " I don't believe you'. I said I didn't do it. She said " you are gonna end up on the floor head first". I didn't say anything. One time she thought that I lost her keys and swung her purse she close so I used my hand to block it and it hit my hand and I ended up with a bump on my hand. Once she hit me on my shoulder 3 timed with a metal spoon and it turned red and then by the end of the day it was purple. That's only a few things she has done. Her mom and my friends all said I should report her. I don't because she says that if she went to jail because of me whenever she got if she saw me or if I saw her would not be pretty. When I was depressed she told people that it was because she was depressed her older brother to her to chill out when he lived with us for 3 months and she did but once he left she went back to her old ways. Once I didn't get the dogs poop up on the house and she stepped on it with her shoes but it managed to get on her socks and she made me clean of her shoes and socks with my bare hands. Her uncle knows that I have tried to runaway but he said to go live with her parents in south west so I don't get trafficked. When she found out about my boyfriend and how smart he was she said if he is so smart why is he dating a girl like you? That broke me. She also told me that I would most likely sell my mind or my body for my money and that boys would most likely run a train on me. I don't know what to do and this pandemic has only made it worse. I remember once I accidentally kicked one of my shoes and kept walking since it didn't move much and she said do you want to fix that or do I have to push down the stairs for you to fix it. I don't have my phone so I can't talk to my boyfriend about what she does so I came her. hi I’m Haley that's not my real name but I can’t say my real name I’m adopted and will be 15 on July 30. I'm adopted and she is in the military she is verbally and physically abusive and I have tried to runway 3 times but I have friends and I can't just leave my boyfriend since we have been together since the 4th grad I can't really go into detail as she is down stairs right know. I have tried to kill myself though and she cares about is when I am 18 and she won’t have to see me anymore I just can't take her mom said I should report her but I am afraid honestly sometimes I have vision and nightmares of her stabbing me or killing me and I know she is capable of doing so I just need to get away from this place I want out but I’m just to afraid.
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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It is not your fault that she hs been doing such terrible things to you. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You were very brave to reach out to NRS.
      If you would like to talk more about your situation, please call our crisis line at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.
      If you feel depressed or are having suicidal thoughts we encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #53
    I'm 15 and my parents keep on Harlingen me about my bad friends I’ve came in bad crowd and was seen with them earlier today and my mum and dad both aren’t letting me leave the house and they only just let me out today I really hate it here and need to leave the house it’s making me really angry and stressed just being here is there any chance I can emergency housing or even child’s home? I just need to leave really badly I feel as if I’m trapped
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 05-19-2020, 12:53 AM.

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    • ccsmod4
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      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need a safe place to stay.

      You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 44357. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #54


    My mom is always putting me down about my school work and how I could've finished sooner or have gotten more things done. usually i'll get stressed over her talking to me like that and her yelling about how low or how much i could've improved my grades when im already happy with what I have, i know "She just acting like a mom" But the things she's says to me just put me in the wrong state of mind.


    She tells me things like "you're the problem" "You're never gonna pass school" ``You're gonna stay back because you can never do any of your work'' and things like that. She's always telling me to treat her with respect when she doesn't even respect me and my wishes to be alone or let me cool off so I don't blow up on her. My step dad always takes her side even if she's in the wrong and I can't talk to him because he'll tell everything I said to her.


    I feel like this isn't verbal abuse but is it?


    I just can't handle the things she's says to me and it hurts because I can't tell her how I feel without her shutting me down and telling me "Your wasting time" "I don't care" etc. I have a little sister that's 13 and they treat her perfectly fine but when it comes to me i'm the "Problem" child. She threatens me telling me I can't get things that I'll obviously need in the future and it makes me somewhat scared. I'm not scared of my mom because we fight so much though.


    I want to move in with my birth dad even though he's in a rough place because I know I'll be there to support him, money wise and I know he'll have my back in school without invading my personal space and spitting me nasty things at me. I feel like running away sometimes to escape my mother.

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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are experiencing frustration from the actions and words of your mother and stepfather. We understand how this could be upsetting to you. You don’t deserve to be labeled or ridiculed. You feelings matter and you deserve to be treated fairly. It sounds like you feel you have the emotional support from your father. That’s good having someone to talk with is one way of getting your emotions out.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more and discuss strategies or options that might help you to cope with your situation, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      You did a good thing by reaching out today. Remembering to take care of yourself is important.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #55
    I'm 15 I want to LEAVE my house because, I get mistreated mentally. I get told everyday that I'm not good enough and I will never be good enough for anyone. I'm so tired of always being a disappoinment to my mother. She told me she was going to give me to DHS because she doesn't want me anymore. She calls me lazy she called me a ********** all the time. She treats me like a rug that's been walked on for thousands of years. And she just makes me feel not important and she makes me think about suicide all the time.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Everyone deserves a safe and supportive environment to grow up in. It seems like you feel like your mom is not providing that. Generally she can’t just give you up to DHS for no reason. DHS usually has to get involved because of an abuse report or a petition for a Minor In Need of Supervision.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • #56
    im 15 and my parnets divorced when i was 4 and ive moved 15 times and i have had probloms with drugs in the past but i dont have a phone im on a school chromebook my parents dont want me and treat me as a responsibility and dont want me and when i want to leave i already know that they will stop me best of there ability im not on the verge of suicide but when im around them they trigger a lot of suicidal thoughts and ive been to court had a whole attourny and mediator and no one helped my dads rich so he paid off all them all but my attourny and we had no fighting chance at the time i wanted to live with my mom my dads emotionally minipulative and mentally abusive and put me through hell my family is rich but ive been homless before same familly i have never been so sure about leaving till now i have a friend to live with and her family is okay with it and everything i have 10 siblings and they all hate me and i dont say that out of how i feel they tried getting me sent to military school and everything and all hate me and dont let me in there lives whatsoever i want a fresh start and everything but idk what to do and i cant call anyone i can litterly email my friend if i want to leave and shell pick me up shes a 5 min drive 20 min walk and i know her family (not my gf or crush whatsoever shes been very supportive and been a great friend a long time) i just want to know if i can go there without telling my parents and legally. but my parents know that i want to run away to her house a month or 2 go i only have 9 more days to decide before i have to send my chromebook back help please i need to leave.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent/guardian permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, they may file you as a runaway and if picked up by the police you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, contact the local non-emergency number to the police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #57
    Hi I don't know exactly how to out this cause I know atleast every kid has thought about running away and I just want to get away from my parents but I have no where to go. I just want to get away and I know this might not seem like a lot but it's to me. My mom kept her smoking a secret from my dad and I lashed out and I told him. Besides you shouldn't have secrets in a marriage anyways I recently went with my parents to see my grandparents every year and long story short my dad did some type of snorting drug right in front of me. Like what type of parenting is that. It makes me mad because atleast last year he had to be drunk to do it. I recently just got my learner's and my dad didn't even think I could pass my exam. My mom lies about everything and I just don't want to be in their environment anymore. All they do is aruge and I share a room with my 13 yr old brother because my dad refuses to buy a house. Instead he uses his money on car parts. And I can't talk or go over to my guy friends houses because if I did my mom thinks I'm just like her and will become pregnant at 16. I just want my home to feel like a home.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

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  • #58
    My parents won’t let me have freedom at all. I only have went to my boyfriends house once and i asked if i can go again and my mom totally freaks on me about it and won’t let me go and my mom is just stuck in this faze where she thinks i am going to get kidnapped and honestly i’m very safe of where i go and i do check my surroundings at all times and the thing is i am a Muslim girl who doesn’t have any freedom and i really can feel suicidal about it and i don’t know what to do like i want my mom to really trust me and i know she doesn’t when i have proved to her multiple many times that i can be trusted. please help me i am on the verge of running away.

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      Hey there thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS),
      It seems like you are feeling oppressed and frustrated at home right now since your mom isn’t allowing you to go out and see friends. It is understandable to feel that way when you have only positive intentions and feel you can be safe in the process. It seems like your mom is so worried about your safety it is causing you to lose any sense of freedom. It’s a tough position to be in and it seems hard to feel untrusted.
      It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      As for proving to your mom that you are trustworthy t does seem possible that it isn’t you she doesn’t trust it is other strangers she doesn’t trust. That isn’t to downplay how you are feeling though, your feelings are valid and it’s OK to feel upset and want to feel listened to rather than ordered around. If it is you she doesn’t trust to be able to protect yourself, you might consider asking her what steps you would need to take to earn that trust and chance to see your friend. If does turn out that she’s inconsolable and unwilling to trust strangers to not try to kidnap you, you might suggest that your friends come over to your home instead, or that your mom comes along to keep you safe. It isn’t a perfect solution, but getting that first step might help her to trust you, and your friend/their family to be safe in the long run.
      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #59
    im 15 and my mom is verbally abusive... its crazy because shes also an author and social worker... she takes all her life long anger and built up emotions on me and my 2 younger siblings. My school called my mom and told her about how i was feeling suicidal and she screamed and yelled and made a big deal about it. and offered me ways to help kill myself... i cant stay there anymore i need to leave ASAP. i have places to go but i dont want to be considered a run away... in any situation the police always takes my mothers side and never ask for my side as to why i would leave home... i live in baltimore maryland..... i just cant deal with it anymore... i need to go...

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      You mentioned that the school got involved before because you were feeling suicidal. It was absolutely not OK for your mom to encourage those kind of thoughts. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

      It must be really frustrating that your mom is being so hypocritical when it comes to her professional and personal actions and it makes sense that you would want to get away from that. One local organization that may be helpful to you is called Loving Arms, Inc as they offer shelter for runaway and homeless youth. Even if you decide to stay at home they may be able to assist with things like family counseling or other services. You can reach them by calling (410) 367-2369 or you can go to their website at www.lovingarmsinc.com.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #60
    I’m 15, my dads got anger issues, I can’t deal with him anymore I get grounded every 2 weeks for no reason for a month, he always used to hit me when I was a kid to a point where I used to always move when he gets even a little close to me, he always wants to be right now matter what even when he knows he’s wrong, I’m a buff guy bigger then him I can take him on but I m too scared to, I live in an Arab country and I got friends that would’ve mind me living with them, I don’t know what to do anymore I wanna leave this house.

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      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. You certainly don't deserve to be abused and we are sorry you went through that when you were younger. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country:

      https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country. Please stay safe.

      All the best,
      NRS
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