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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us, we hope to help as best we can. If your thinking of leaving home while being under 18, its important you know some key info. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

    If you're not sure where to go we can try and help you find some local shelter and resources in your area. Please reach out soon so that we may offer you our support! . Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Okay so I have nowhere to go and I don't know what to do

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey,
    Thank you for contacting NRS. What you’re going through sounds really difficult. You deserved to be loved and cared for by your family. At NRS we are not legal counsel so we cannot give you specific legal advice but generally, leaving home as a minor without paperwork is very difficult to do. However, if you want to chat us or call us at our NRS website we can provide more specific advice about shelters near you. We are here to help you find a safe place to stay. You mentioned staying with your friend as a possible option, but we do want to alert you that if you leave without parental consent your mom could file a runaway report and if you are found you could be returned home and your friend could be charged with harboring. In regards to your situation with your mom, if you would like to file an an abuse report you can do that by calling or chatting us at the NRS website we are available 24/7 and are here to help. Another possible option could be reaching out to any adults that you feel comfortable bringing this issue up with. We can also role play some conversations if you want to discuss the specifics about opening up to someone in your life. You deserve to be fed and respected in your household. If you would like to discuss the specifics of your plan and have more specific questions about your area please give us a chat or a call. We are here to help you. Thank you again for reaching out. Our website is: https://www.1800runaway.org/ and our number is
    1-800-786-2929 and we are 24/7

    Wishing you the best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 15 and live in South Carolina and wanted to know if there is any way that I could leave home. My mom told me that if I can find a legal way without paper work to leave then I can. I plan on going home with one of my friends. Also if there any way I can get her parental right taken away she doesn't feed me and when she does it is not like she should. She is emotionally and mentally abusive. She also confines me to my room all day without light. Since she said that I can leave then can I just go.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My brother is 11 years old and he is regularly causes extreme pain and complications with my family... he constantly threatens me and his own life, finding any excuse to scream and cry. Even the simplest things such as telling him to do the dishes will send him into an intense tantrum that is extremely mentally draining. Multiple times he has tried to harm me physically and hit me. I know he is young but I think there is something very wrong with him. I don’t know what to do and I feel like if this situation is ignored, as he is so young, later on will become much much harder.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us, we hope to help as best we can. It sounds like things have been a bit frustrating at home, you deserve to feel supported. Here is some information that may be helpful, 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parent/legal guardians permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 14 and I want to leave this toxic place. I live with both of my parents and they are no support all all. I try to get a job to buy stuff for myself. They reject my decision. I want to live with someone who understands my emotions.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    We are glad you reached out to us for help. It is so difficult to be put in the middle all the time by your Mom. It makes sense you feel hopeless and you don’t want to take it anymore.

    You deserve a stable and emotionally stable home environment. We have resources to help you cope with depression and to support you with options. We want to make sure you know it is understandable to have suicidal thoughts dealing with this kind of stress and you have all the support you need to work through that.

    You can reach out to us to talk more about your situation through a chat on our website or on our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and completely confidential. We would like to go through your options and help you come up with a plan. We can also conference call to the agencies and support programs so we can make sure you have the help you need to support your plan.

    We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My mom has the most toxic relationship and is always trying to put me in the middle of it. She has anger issues and always complains about how hard having me as a child is. She always says the rudest comments especially when shes mad. Im only 15 but i dont want to take it anymore. Her actions are making me depressed and sucidal.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there, and thank you for reaching out. We are sorry for what you are going through right now. It sounds like you are suffering through a lot of pain, anguish and isolation, with your parents expressing such hurtful and judgmental things about your sexuality, and you being without your friend and cousin to be there to talk and support you. We can certainly understand how hard it would be to stay there and have to continue to put up with those circumstances – at any age.

    You may be right about being ready, but not of age. Leaving the house could be more dangerous than staying. We will try to offer you some suggestions about where you may go for help, but before that, we'd like to discuss the more immediate concern you are raising about suicide. The fact that you have decided that that is not the only way out very encouraging. If you do sink to the point where you feel the need to take your life again, I would urge you to reach out to us again, or to a local hotline, using your computer ( if you don’t have a phone) where you can get direct assistance. The national suicide hotline number is 800-273-8255 or Hopeline, which has phone or text https://www.hopeline-nc.org/. And should you find yourself needing immediate assistance, please contact your local police for support.

    If you'd like to talk about other options that might be available to you as far as safe places you might be able to go, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 15 and want to leave the house, i feel as if i am ready but i am just not of age. my parents stress me out and they dont appreciate that i am bisexual. earlier today i got called a "**********", "whore", "faggot", "demon", and more and all because i was not feeling good today, my parents dont drink nor do drugs so they are fully aware of what they are calling me. They are also believed to be religious (very religious) and say that i will go to hell for being "gay", again i am not gay i am bisexual, but even if i do go to hell its my fault not theirs, so i dont know if i am as bad as they are when i say that they need to let me be me. I have been brain washed by the church as well as them, they tell me that it will get better and they are praying for me and that gave me hope to keep living life as best i can, but then talk behind my back and call me every name in the book, not what Christians are supposed to do last i checked. I currently have not phone so i cant contact or call anybody with out them knowing, and i dont have the support i have been getting from the guy i have been talking to nor my cousin that has been helping me get through everything i have been through the last few months, i have nobody trustworthy to talk to. The reason i am seeking help the most tho is because i have tried committing suicide 3 times the past two weeks, and i am tired of feeling like the only way out of this is to just kill myself. please i need all the help i can get. please tell me how i can leave here and still have the shelter, food, water, and comfort needed to live.

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi!

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It takes guts to talk about things that are happening to us. It sounds like your mom is speaking to you in a way that upsets you. You deserve to feel heard and supported.

    If you would like to reach out in the future please do. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Im 15 years old, and my mom yells at me for no reason.this is recent she called me mental.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS
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