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    I'm teen, living with my mom is mentally draining, she always brings up my mistakes even though she says she won't bring them up again, and then tells me everything she does for me when in all honestly those are at least the minimum she can do. She says I don't do any work around the house, but I literally do everything dishes, floors, trash, clothes, etc. when she comes home from work she doesn't have to do anything because I've done it already. She always brings up that her and my grandparents do everything and that my dad does nothing, mind you they are divorced and she doesn't even like me talking to him, money-wise he does above and beyond, but he's pretty crappy too, which my mom isn't wrong, but I've had to go to therapy over my dad and the divorce, so she knows bringing him up is a sore topic especially with a recent event that happened I feel like she did that on purpose to hurt. Everyone in my family expects me to be perfect all the time, I'm not allowed any mistakes everyone else in my family my age isn't even held to the same standard mind you my family is in the public eye so I have to watch what I do. Today I was talking past my curfew with my best friend and a guy friend and she flipped out I did apologize and recognized my mistake and I did tell her that I should have at least told her, but it wasn't like that big of a deal how she made it when I was trying to explain to her she kept saying you're being disrespectful and rude, so I couldn't even tell her then she goes on this whole Jesus train we are Christian, but its at the point where I rather get emancipated and figure life out on my own, I've been saving money , but she keeps taking money out of my bank account so I'm lost to be honest yes I live a good life, but if it's going to be like this every day I can't do it, especially since my mental health isn't all that great like I said before. You cant talk to her about how your feeling without her getting defensive now I have restrictions on my phone and she blaming my best friend saying im only like that when im with her, but that isn't the truth she likes my other best friend better, but little does she know that other girl just hies what she does better etc. so im lost and stuck I wish I could talk to her without her getting so defensive, but I have literally have no one anymore, mom, dad etc. I have no one to talk to about this.
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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like you are feeling unwanted and overwhelmed at home. It's understandable you would want and need some space from an environment that feels stressful and not supportive. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here to help as much as possible.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    i'm 15 about to turn 16 in 2 months. my family is so chaotic and i don't wanna live with my parents anymore. all my dad does is yell about everything. if the dishes aren't done he throws them away. he also threatens to send us off every time he gets mad. one day i was gone and he told me and my other siblings not to come home and locked the doors so i couldn't get in because i got in an argument with his girlfriend. he treats her better than his own children and will choose her over us any day. he doesn't want me to live here but every time i bring up wanting to leave he gets mad. i have a bathroom in my room so i could be using the bathroom and he'll bang on my bedroom door cussing until i answer. this stuff happens almost everyday and i just don't wanna deal with it anymore. all i want is peace and quiet but i can't get that. i've tried talking about stuff with him but he just gets mad and starts yelling when we talk about it. also when i wash my clothes he throws them in the floor if i don't take them out of the washer in time.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Thanks for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and we are glad you did. It sounds like you are in a very stressful situation with your Dad. We totally understand that running away is an option and that you have some concerns. We are not legal experts and the details on emancipation are different in every state-but in general most states want you to be closer to 18, have a job and show that you can support yourself while you finish school. A lot of states require parental consent as part of the process. So, while that might not be the best option for you right now, we are happy to explore all of your possible options with you.

    You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation and help you make a report if you decide that's something you want to pursue.

    You can contact us anytime 24:7 on our website for a chat or on our crisis hotline number at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential. We would like to help you develop a plan with immediate steps you can take that will make your situation more manageable and help get you into an overall better situation. We are a non-directive agency so that means we are going to help you explore all your options and help you develop a safe plan that feels right for you. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck!

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    Hello
    My name is kev, and i just turned 15..like on the 4th of January..and umm i been wanting to leave my house and get the ******** away from my dad for the longest..but now i really want to leav and i dont know how to do it..see i have place i can run away to like my friend and even some of my family members that will let me hide..but i been thinking about it and i am 15 and i am still in school and i dont waant to put that at jeaporty, so i was thinking about getting emansipatied..but i am 15 an di dont have a job, insurance, or a place that my own..so i am stuck..i want to leave because my dads a verbally and physically abusive parent. He does not let me have freedom and he treask me like i am his pesonal robot..he tells me that i am a dumb ass and ******** i dont like that..but idc about the verbally abuise..i just need to leave but i want to leave with a smakrt leagl desision so i can take care of my self with out having to ask hime for ********. You know how i can do that by any chance
    -thanks-

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there, Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like things are really challenging at home. It can be difficult for parents to give their children responsibility and trust. You don’t deserve to be yelled at. Maybe you could try talking with them about the best way you communicate with you. If you would like help with that, we offer a conference call service. It could help having a mediator. You can call in at 1-800-786-2929. You mentioned you are scared to be at your house. It could help to come up with a safety plan. For example, when you aren’t feeling safe you could go to a trusted neighbors house. Or if that isn’t available you could go to a room in your house that you can lock to stay safe. Again, we want to thank you for reaching out. That is a brave first step to getting help. If you want to talk about any of the options mentioned or just talk more about your situation we are available 24/7. You can call or chat (1800runaway.org). We are here to listen, here to help. Good Luck!

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    so i wanna run away bc i am scared of my house i cry me self to sleep i barley eat and i can never have privacy my dad never listens to me and when i do try to talk to him he yells at me at this point in life i dont know what to do he takes my phone all they time and i can never go anywhere they blame me for every thing and i cant do nothing without them asking millions of questions they cant trust me for anything even tho i am always in the house bc they wont let me go nowwhere .

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult situation and we want you to know that you are not alone.

    We are not legal experts but if you were to leave without permission it is a possibility that you could be brought back home. If leaving is your best option, you could look into staying in a shelter or a transitional living program. You can give us a call and we can help look for these options in your area.

    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to help you and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    hello um i am 14 and i had have some things with my mom and she is just idk at this but she has done and said a lot of thing that have hurt me and i am just ready to get out and I have a frend that will let me stay but a little lost of how i should rlly leave and like be happy for ones so like ca u help

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time, we want you to know you are not alone.

    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on leaving home without permission. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report, if the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. One option to consider would be to talk to a school counselor about what is making you unhappy. They would be able to provide you with resources and options.

    We hope this information will help you decide what is best in your situation. We can help you explore more options if we knew more about your situation. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Im 15 & i want to leave my house . I’m not happy

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  • ccsmod4
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    With everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned struggling with self- harming. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It’s not your fault that this is happening.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out for help through this link www. twloha.com/ (To Write Love on Her Arms).
    (A non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. The website is geared towards youth and provides information on treatment and recovery services along with a blog and general information on addiction and self-injury.)

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Well I am 15 turning 16 on February 18th. Home is really difficult due to the fact I seem to f*** up my mum's life. She got mad at me because I was not okay and I apparently ruined her chance with this girl she liked (she barley knew her) I don't feel safe at my dad's house due to my autism and he not knowing how to handle me and I cannot have anything to do with the police as I have so much trauma. I don't want to be home anymore because it is just to difficult and I don't know what to do. I have never been physically abused. (apart from bullies) I just have a lot of mental trauma. I don't have any friends to stay with and I am struggling to not self harm.

    I have recently got out of Perth clinic (mental hospital) and I am scared I am going to relapse and go back into a dark depression and have to go back into Perth clinic.

    I just want to pack my stuff and leave. What do I do.....
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello there,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that we are here for you.
    Your family was probably upset that you did not read the book and used Spark notes instead, but they reacted in a poor manner. You do not deserve to be abused and we are sorry you went through that. You do have a right to file an abuse report. There are a few ways you can file a report, one option would be to call Child help at: 1800-422-4453. You can also talk with a school counselor about what is going on and they would be able to help you. You can also reach out to us by phone or chat and we can help with a report.
    We are sorry to hear that your family does not support you wanting to do gaming as a career. They may be wanting you to focus on school, as gaming can become pretty addictive. Being able to save for your own computer and gaming equipment can be great motivation. You can also consider talking to your family about if your grades are good if they would consider helping you with your gaming equipment.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. It is a possibility that if you are found the police could bring you back home. As far as foster care or becoming adopted, that would have to go through child protective services.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to help you and support you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Hello. I am a 15 year old teenage boy who has gotten into some recent trouble. Some information about me before we get to my climax though. I am a smart ass in class and outside of class. I am a gamer all the way through. I have 8 siblings. 1 who wanted to game like me and didn't. 1 who is 26 and has had a kid and is not married. I am the second youngest and would like to live on my own in a new family, be adopted, fostered and just get away from my family for this part of my life.
    The other day after I finals for my homeschool group my day had been going well. When I got home, I bragged on myself about how my Tom Sawyer paper was the best in the class and about how well I did on the paper. My older sister asked if I had actually read the book, she said she wasn't trying to put me on the spot but did. I lied and said I read the book, even though I had done SparkNotes. They found out later after I told them I didn't and my mom wasn't happy. Tom Sawyer is a classic book that people more often than books like Johnny Tremain. Then my mom got smart and said that I probably hadn't read it and instead had been playing games. This is when I got mad, cause I hadn't played for almost 2 weeks and was focused on finals. So I started getting mad cause they had already been teasing me of my gaming habits prior to this. I was about to go upstairs when my mom, dad, and sister all were wanting me to stay downstairs. It was immature for me to go upstairs, but I wasn't gonna here it. My mom said if I went upstairs I would be in trouble and that I could either stay down stairs and sit down, so I sat down. My sister then said that "it doesn't matter what you want to be, but mom and dad are just saying that your brains are smart, but not as smart as you think."
    This is when I got mad, I had already had a conversation like this with my parents about being what I wanted to be for the future. In the past I had said I wanted to be a neurosurgeon, like Ben Carson and they used this on me a lot in simple things. I got furious and blew up. I knew that when I had a conversation about being what I wanted to be, they were control freaks about it. I said what if I wanted to be a police officer, firefighter, or a gamer. They don't like games cause of my older brother and say I'm not good enough in games, and that it's a waste of time. What they don't realize is, is that I'm good enough to do it, if they actually invested in me and gave me a chance. Instead, their control freaks who think it's a race in education and don't let me play games ever. They were gonna put in $1100 for me to take a shooting team but cancelled it, but they don't give a dime or even a penny for me saving up for my computer/ setup. I knew this and that what she said wasn't true. I blew up and said that "no, cause all mom cares about is a race in education against the world, and my stupid education." My dad lost it in those words "stupid education." He got furious, he was beyond pissed, and wasn't happy. I wasn't gonna sit down or get a spanker though b/c I knew the real thing about it. Long story short, I fought my dad, embarrassed him, he ripped my shirt abused me some and tossed me around in my chair I sat in to stand my ground. I wasn't gonna let them just ignore me and spit the facts. They don't want to hear it. I got a spanken and now, I can't drive, have any privilege's, and now their definitely not helping me get a PC. They don't realize that if they put in 700$ just to give me a chance and play what I'm good at I could make a living off of, but they say I need to help people. However, in that conversation when I mentioned the police officer and fire fighter. There wasn't a good enough pay for that. In gaming, I guarantee I would make $100,000 in the first year while doing school, by the beginning of Junior year, I would have savings and a possible career. They just refuse to see this as an option and don't like it at all. The Police officer doesn't have a good enough pay, and video gaming doesn't help people, but a doctor is just right since I said I wanted to be that already. I could be an engineer cause I would make so much more money. They refuse to accept the fact that I'm being controlled and don't realize the seriousness of how much they abuse their parenting and compare it to the days in their generations when they were young saying it was much different and that nobody would hire a video gamer. Even if I don't want to be a gamer and instead wanted to be something else common they don't accept it. They won't let me. I am wanting a new life somewhere. It is possible for me to get adopted, fostered, or just live on my own legally. I know it sounds super disrespectful and not appreciative, but there's more that I didn't mention that I just makes it sounds worse.

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