Im 15 and I want to leave my house

[Guest]

I’m 15 turning 16 life at home is very hard and has been getting to me a lot recently. My mum wants full control over me, I am determined to move out but I have no money and no place to live. I’m scared to be at home most of the time because it has become a very aggressive relationship. She has hit me and we arhue like every day although I do a lot round the house I clean everyday take my brother to school I Cook dinner pretty much do everything for her and it’s still not good enough!!! I’m stay at a mates house right now but I really don’t wanna go back home I’ve had enough of life to be honest. My brother is the golden child he can never do anything wrong but I always do. Can you suggest anything I can do to get out of home with out my brother having to move out to ?

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Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. We are glad that you did. It sounds like your home is a very stressful situation. Being scared at home and your mom hitting you and being very aggressive is a hard thing to deal with. It sounds like you do a lot of the work at home and your mom doesn’t think that that’s good enough. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and we are here to listen and here to help.
We are glad that you are staying at your mate’s house – that you have a supportive friend that is there when you need them. It is understandable that you don’t want to go back home and we want to help you figure out what your options are. Reporting to your state’s child protective services may be one of your options, but your brother would be included in the investigation. You can talk it over with Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 without giving any identifying information. Their website is childhelp.org
We hear you when you say that you’ve had enough of life, but please hear this: your life is not always going to be this way. You will have control of your own life, and dreams, and will have the ability to make your own decisions.
You can also reach out to us via our phone hotline at 1-800-runaway (1-800-786-2929) or our live chat service available at 1800runaway.org By talking and listening to you, we can help you identify the options you have.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely, NRS

[Guest]

My sister is 15 and she wants to live wirh me i am 16. Mom left ky sister with my dad and she doesnt want to live with either of them but she wants to live with me. How could i get her to live with me with or without dads permission

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like your sister is going through a difficult time right now. We are not legal experts but do have general knowledge of the laws. If your sister does leave without permission her legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find her they most likely would bring her back home. Also there is a thing called harboring a runaway, which you can get in trouble if you do not return your sister home or attempt to return her home.
One option you could consider is to talk with your dad and get his permission. If you get your dad’s permission then it most likely would be okay for your sister to live with you. If you could not get your dad’s permission you could consider emancipation. Emancipation would grant your sister adult rights before turning 18. To find out more about the emancipation process you can contact your local court house or you could call us and we can provide you with legal resources.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I am 15 and once my mom got married to her boyfriend 3 years ago she changed she treats me like crap she literally doesn't trust me with anything I have no freedom she doesn't trust me to go out with my friends or she don't trust me to go to my boyfriends house. its so annoying she use to trust me and never asked questions to make me look bad but now she does. She always kisses his ass and it really get me so mad. He makes me look bad in front of my mom all the time it and it gets to me, she doesn't act like my mom any more she always wants to fight and argue with me she always tries to find a reason to be mad at me like what. I'm so tired of this I want to move in with my uncle which is my moms brother but I do not think she would let me. Is it possible to move out without her permission?

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now. It is hard when your parent marries someone new and you feel like they change everything. One option you could consider is to try and talk to your mother alone about how you feel and what is going on. Another option could be to talk with a trusted adult or therapist about what is going on.
You mentioned wanting to live with your uncle. We are not legal experts but do have general information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your mother could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. You could consider emancipation which would grant you adult rights before turning 18. To learn more about the emancipation process you can call your local court house and ask them about the process. You can also call us at any time and we can provide you with legal resources.
If you have any other questions or would like to explore options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Im only 15, but I need out of my house. Im miserable and being here makes me even more depressed than before, there are many things that go on but if I stay here I may actually do something stupid or dangerous. How can I leave?

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Hi, and thanks for reaching out to NRS, we’re here to listen and to help.

It sounds like you’re in a tough situation and that you no longer feel like home is the right environment for your well-being. We’re sorry to hear that, everyone should be able to have a place where they can feel supported and at ease.

If you’re age 15, that’s under the legal age of majority for any state out there, but there may still be some options available to you, that a legal expert could help you to explore. We’re not legal experts, but we can help you get in touch with one in your area who could help you know your legal rights as a minor.

If you do decide to leave, it can definitely be helpful to plan ahead so you can stay safe once you leave. For example, having a plan of where you can go, and ideas of how you might support your basic needs – at a relative’s house, or a friend’s house, or even a youth homeless shelter – we can put you in touch with resources in your area. You can also have this number handy, as well as National Safe Place at https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/ With the latter, you can use their TXT 4 HELP by texting the world “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357) for immediate help to find a safe place to stay in a crisis.

You mentioned feeling even more depressed than before – that must be hard. We hope that you are have been able to get help or talk to a medical professional about how you’re feeling. If not, we may be able to connect you with someone to talk to about how you’re feeling, or you could contact someplace like the National Alliance on Mental Illiness (NAMI) if you feel like it’s more than just feeling down.

Those are a few options that may be available to you. If you’d like to explore more options together, please don’t hesitate to contact us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or on our chatline at 1800runaway.org and we’d be happy to discuss further.

We hope this information has been helpful to you. Best of luck to you and we hope to hear back from you soon.

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I just dont feel like my entire family in the house loves me and consider me one of their own. I just feel like a complete stranger at all times. They won't let me talk to my friends that I've had since I was in preschool. I get hit all the time. My mum keeps cussing me out for no reason. My little sister does a lot of things that in the end I get blamed for. In my eyes that isn't fair. They've put me in a school that I hate with a passion. I've tried talking with them about it multiple times and they just don't seem to give a ********. My friend told me to stay over at his place. And I've tried to leave without them knowing resulting in a failure. I've had suicidal thoughts because of them. I don't want this life. I'm done.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello I'm 15 and my dad is doing drugs and his gf and him get in argument all the time. I want to leave and a friend of the family is wanting to take us away from him I love my dad to death but I cant do it anymore. How can the friend take me away hes over 20 wjats the legal way to do so

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It must be hard to live in such a toxic environment like that. It can be very confusing to love your parent but not like their behavior. It seems like you are ready to leave but just want to make sure you are doing it legally.
Since you are 15, there is a chance if you runaway and your father files a runaway report they could try and return you to your dad because he is your legal guardian. Also if the police find where you at your friend’s place he could be charged for harboring a runaway.
Another option could be contacting Child Protective Services and talking to them about your father’s substance abuse usage especially if you it’s unsafe being in the household or that he is neglecting his responsibilities. Child Protective Services would then intervene and you could mention other living options.
If you have any more questions or want to discuss more options please feel free to contact us via email, or chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

[Guest]

I’m 15 im unhappy where I am at my dads I left my mams house I want to live with my auntie and I want to know where I stand

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are so unhappy at your dad’s house that you feel like you have to leave. If you haven’t already, you might want to reach out to your aunt and talk to her about the possibility of living with her. Unfortunately, as a 15 year old, your guardian has the legal authority to decide where you are allowed to live so you may need their permission to move out. We would be happy to talk more about what is going on in your situation and what other options you might have. Please call us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey I am 15 and I am ready to leave my parents because they continue to blame their crap on me and they get mad because I spend too much time out when I hardly spend any time with anybody. I don’t understand how my stepmom which isn’t even related to me continues to make the rules for some reason and she acts like she can boss me around I am sick of it and I want to leave.

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Umm I am 15 I’m adopted but recently my adopted parents are being really harsh like one time my adopted dad tried to suffocate me and told me I would be better off dead then alive but then my mom is calling me cuss words and one Time my mom told me to leave and never come back and when I went to leave my dad tackled me and slapped me I don’t feel safe in the house and I feel like I will hurt someone or my self if I stayed and I was thinking about at 16 I would leave and go to live with my friends house that they are willing to let me live there but I can’t stay here anymore I don’t know what to do

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time right now.
What you are describing sounds like emotional and physical abuse. You do not deserve to be treated that way, any type of abuse is unacceptable. You can always file an abuse report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. If you ever feel unsafe please call 911 and an officer would be able to help you asap. Your safety is the top priority.
If you need a Safeplace to go you can always call us and we can help you look for shelters. You can also contact National Safe place by texting the word “safe” along with your zip code and they would be able to send you a list of safe places. National Safe Place: 44257.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support.
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 15, I know that seems young and it is but it’s an age I have to live with. My parents hurt me, they leave bruises and have caused me to cut myself. I was blind to the reason before but I recently figured out why I was cutting, it was because of them. I was so blind for so long, I couldn’t see the manipulation. I always thought “every parent does this” or “It’s just how they grew up” to cover up for the fact that they would physically abuse me. This isn’t the first time I’m running away, I’ve done it before but even then it was only for a day. I never had the guts to go on for longer, as much as I know my parents hurt me I still love them, and I’m aware I love them because of my mother’s manipulative tactics or my father’s controlling behavior. He would cover up punching me in my bed with “I woke so hard to raise you some money” and I’m sad to say it always worked. But enough it enough, I know what a human deserves and it’s not this. My father took everything from me, I’m now living in a third world country from a first world because of him, I’ve lost all my companions, I’ve lost my home, and he took away my only family from me... My friend and I were planning on buying me a plane ticket and getting back to my old country. He’s given me a place to live and a new opportunity. The only issue now is finding where all my important documents are kept in my mother’s home and finding out a way to get to the airport safely, these roads that I live in now in this third world country are not safe....

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I’m 15, I know that seems young

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

From everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed and also harming yourself. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to seek emergency assistance immediately.

Again you do not deserve to be abused physically, emotionally etc.
It is not your fault that this is happening. You cannot control hat others choose to do.
Seeking help is an option available to you.

To report any abusive treatment there is Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you are not in the U.S. you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.



Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We are limited as to how we can help in this type of forum.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m sick of all the shouting it’s always arguing screaming and crying I’m so fed up of it no one listens to each other’s I’ve had suicidal thoughts and the school told my mum but nothing has been done where can I go

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It can be frustrating to constantly hear shouting and arguments and does not seem like a good environment for your mental health.
We want you to know that your life is important and you are valuable. There is always someone willing to listen and willing to help. If you are ever feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to you can always contact The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at: 1800-273-8255. And it is great that you have reached out to your school you could try speaking to them again and let them know nothing has changed. Also another option to consider is to see if you could get permission to stay with a family member or friend away from the shouting.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Im 15 and I live with my mom on the week and go to my dads most weekends. But when I’m at my mom all I feel is depressed. My moms great and she tries hard but her punishments are harsh (not physically) and I get no freedom. She took away football and wrestling and I live wrestling so much and she knows that. My stepdad is and has always been emotionally abusive and used to be physically really bad but not anymore. I’m not dumb enough to up and run away but I need to get out of this house longer than a weekend. I can’t deal with it anymore. Like I said I love my mom with all my heart and I appreciate so much she tries her best but I can’t deal with it here. My stepdad hasn’t had a job in years he just sits there all day all week doing hardly anything even when my mom lost her job. He shouldn’t be with him for so many reasons but she doesn’t understand. My mom understands my depression we only talked about it once and she used to be like that too. But I can’t talk to her about things. We don’t have a good relationship like we used to. I just want out. My depression is getting worse. I can’t deal with all this

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Im 15 and I live with my mom


Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. Sometimes talking about a situation might help to bring about options to help bring about change. It sounds like your mom was receptive to you when told about your depression. Perhaps you might consider having more communication with her and your dad where you can express how you are feeling to them. Another way to do this might be by considering counseling. You never deserve to be abused and please note that it is not your fault for how your stepfather beaves towards you. You are very brave for reaching out today. We understand that things are becoming quite challenging for you emotionally. If you are feeling depressed or at risk contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org


NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 15 years old and my mom is physically abusive and we’ve been staying with my grandma for the past three or four months or so and My mom wants to move to the house a little ways down the road. She been making me stay with my grandma while she’s been moving stuff and when she comes to get me tomorrow I do not want to go. Am I legally allowed to stay with my grandma?

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS. Abuse of any kind is never okay, and your mom should not be physically harming you. You deserve to live somewhere safe, so it is great to hear you have grandma so close by.

Generally speaking, if you are under the age of 18 then your mom can decide where you live. Your mom could report you as a runaway, but this would only mean that police would return you to her. You would not get into any legal trouble.

You mentioned that your mom is physically abusive and you do have the right to report this. Reporting would get a social worker involved and it might mean that you would get to stay with your grandma. This can be a scary decision to make and you do not have to go through this alone. You can contact the national child abuse at 800-422-4453 or go to www.childhelphotline for more support and help with this.

We truly want to be a support for you while you navigate this difficult situation. Do not hesitate to reach out anytime by phone (800-786-2929) or use our online chat services.

Take care,
NRS