I dont want to live with my Mom anymore

I don’t want to live with my mom and dad what do I do?

my mom and dad are divorced now so my mom got a place and I’m living with her keep in mind I’m 13 I was always with my mom I loved her so much and more then my dad. My dad is living in a apartment with my sister my sister is 15 she doesn’t talk to me anymore if she is mad at me she won’t talk to me in months I haven’t talk to her in 10 months and she does not like me at all
i’m afraid if I live with my dad That we’re gonna have fights and she’s gonna argue with me all the time when my parents were not Divorce my sister would still not talk to me and my dad would buy her everything and me nothing My mom in the other hand would buy me stuff but the problem with my mom is that she doesn’t respect me at all And she’s very strict She said wear a longer shirt so people won’t see your ass I am not allowed wearing shorts not allowed wearing jeans i’m not a wearing leggings Basically nothing that shows my ass and I want to wear what I wanna wear I want to wear what I feel comfortable in not what she feels comfortable in if I say it’s my choice she says you’re just like your sister if I do wear stuff that I want to wear she would say pack your bags go with your dad then if I’m not listening and I don’t want to go at my dad. if Something Happens she would say it’s my fault and she’s just rude sometimes she can be nice but other times she can be rude last night she was rude to me and she said it was my fault for Burning the food Because I was talking to her so today I just forget about it and Talk to my pretending nothing happened last night but even today she’s rude she would even make fun of my voice. Keep in mind I have three sisters ThAt one living with my dad that doesn’t talk to me And. I have another sister we have a good relationship shes 22 and she has her own house and another sister that Is 26 and lives at her own house I don’t know what to do but I’m afraid to go somewhere I still want to stay at my mom but I just don’t feel like she likes me many more. I’m think when I’m 16 or 18 I’m gonna move out as soon as possible What should I do?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

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I don’t want to live with my mom anymore because she’s toxic. She’s over critical and I’m not allowed to express negative emotions. For example I can go to the restroom and she asks where I’m going with a tone as if I’m going to do something bad. And when I get upset she tells me to get rid of my expression or she will hit me. I cant even enjoy some French fries because she adds let’s say mustard to them even though I told her I didn’t want some and she annoyingly says you’re gonna eat it like this because I said so. I’m scared of her because every time I think about telling her something I have to think whether she’s gonna end up getting mad at me. So I mostly keep things to myself but I still share some things so that she doesn’t get upset and I’d have to explain myself. It’s gotten to the point where my mood automatically goes to sadness when I’m around her and I would rather avoid talking to her . Don’t get me wrong I love my mom and I know she pint out certain things I do for a good reason but other things are out of my control or she gets mad at me for things that other people did. She gets upset so much in one day. From the way I stand, to the way I hold something, or gets irritated if I don’t understand the first time. To avoid her getting irritated I try to figure out what she said on my own even though she tells me I can always ask for her to explain again. But no I can’t , I know her , I have to hear it well the first time. I have no privacy either. I don’t know how to tell her I don’t want to live with her and I don’t think I ever can. I feel like she’d think I’d betrayed her and I don’t love her and everything she does to keep us living stable. I just don’t know what to do . I feel like my body compensates from her draining behavior by sleeping a lot.

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Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really hard at home because your mom’s husband is an alcoholic and is abusive to you, your family and even your mom. N.one of you deserve to be treated this way. We are very sorry that you are going through this because you don’t deserve it either

If your mom wants to leave and get you all out, she can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1800-7997233, or through their website, www.thehotline.org searching for resources in your city or state.

Because your message is so short, we hope that you get in touch with us again, because the best way for us to help you is if we can talk together. You can either reach us by phone at 1800-786-2929 (1800-runaway) or via live chat at www.1800runaway.org

We really hope to hear from you so that we can talk this over. We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.

Sincerely,
NRS

I don’t wanna live here her husband has lived with us for 1 year then we moved and he bolt a house and we moved in with him and now he’s a alcoholic and he abuses us even my mom

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

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Hi,
I dont want to live with my mother she no longer loves me, she is giving preference to her new boyfriend. She has chosen him rather than me who has stayed in her stomach for 9 months. She has changed a lot of her attitude towards me since my father passed away. He passed away a month before, instead of supporting me she is concerned about someone else.
I dont have anyone in my family except her but our relationship is getting worsen day by day.

I dont know what to do?
Should I sucide or live....
Not able to control my emotions, I am not able to take this anymore.

Pls. Reply and help...

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help. Take care.

I have lived with my mom my whole life but it hasn't been hard ever since I got adopted by her and since I can remember. Everytime I got in trouble she would either put me in the hall way away from everyone or she would lock me up in my room. It's not that I want to not live with her because she's a little bit better then my adoptive dad. But my mom when she got mad at me or whatever she would either pour pop on me, pour syrup on me, or one time she was basically beating me with a hanger and no one did anything about it then she locked me in my room. She kept me locked outside if I went out there after she screamed at me or something because I didn't want anyone seeing me cry. And ever since she got here bf (aka my stepdad) she would act all nice around him and then when she's gone she would only scream at me and not my brother or sister. But if he is here and I don't pick up one thing that 4 people walked by like 50 times and not pick it up shell scream at me. Like today I told her I was going to take a bath and then I told her that there was something in her floor that they been walking by even her bf walked by it and didn't pick it up. But when I say that I go in the bathroom and her bf started talking about me and saying mean stuff. So I cut myself and my finger and told my mom but she said she didn't care and everything else she doesn't even care when my brothers or sister beat up on me. She just makes me lie about what happened. My life is a living hell hole I even cut myself because my family. I don't know what to do

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Thank you so much for reaching out to us and sharing your story. We take what you are going through very seriously and are so sorry you are being abused. And make no mistake that what you are describing definitely counts as abuse: physical abuse, emotional abuse, and neglect. You don't deserve that. It's wrong. No wonder you want to leave home. While it might not be easy, you do have options, however.

One option you have is to file an abuse report on what's going on at home. We know sometimes that is a hard choice to make, but you do have that right. If an abuse report is made it would likely lead to a child protective services investigation. They would likely interview you and your mom and determine what the best course of action is. Sometimes that simply involves talking things through and checking up later to see if things are improving. If things are deemed detrimental to your well being, you could be removed from the home, though this is not always the case immediately. If you want to file an abuse report you can do that through your state's child abuse reporting hotline or through Child Help (www.childhelp.org) at 1-800-422-4453. You can also file through us here at National Runaway Safeline. If you report it's a good idea to be as specific and detailed as possible, including dates and what happened. The incident with the extension cord sounds particularly extreme. If you have marks on your body you may want to take a picture as evidence. But again, whether you decide to file or not is up to you. We honor whatever decision you make and support you either way.

It is probably a good idea to seek out supportive people as much as possible. Your feelings have value and you have the right to be seen and heard. If there is someone in your life that you feel comfortable with and trust, by all means take advantage of talking with them. Perhaps that's a relative, teacher, counselor, religious leader, or anyone you feel safe with. Friends can also support you, but getting an adult involved often may help give you perspective that your peers may lack. Of course, we are here for you whenever you want to talk. You can call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. We are a confidential, safe place to talk about whatever you are going through. We can help you figure out what your best options are and can connect you to resources in our database: shelters, counselors, legal aid, and more. Of course, even if you just need to vent, we are here to listen.

We are concerned that you talked about self-harm in the past. Your safety is important to us and we hope that you will reach out for help if you ever have thoughts of self-harm again. A great resource to consider is the website, www.twloha.org. Of course, we can talk about self-harm or anything else you are considering or going through if you call us. We hope to hear from you soon. Please stay safe. We honor what you have been through and want to help further if we can.

All the best,
NRS

I do not want to live with my mom anymore.. she is toxic and verbally abuses me. She's been abusive in the past, like for example , once I talked back and she started beating me with an extension cord and I had welts on my body for weeks.. she's tried to physically fight me multiple times. She constantly tells me how I'm just like my dad and I'm a disappotiment and when i try to tell her how she's treating me and how I don't like her calling me names when she gets mad she just turns everything on me and tells me its my fault. Ive even self harmed and when she found out she didn't care and told me I was just doing it for attention. She can barley afford to keep a roof over our heads and there's never food. I used to have to steal the lunch food from school because there was never food at home and she wouldn't give me money to buy the lunch food. When she gets mad at me she breaks my things. She has came in my room and threw everything off my vanity and knocked my pictures off the wall, ripped my backpack up, banged my phone on the counter over and over to break it. Ive tried to runaway before but I have no where to go.. the police always end up bringing me home. I can't live with my dad .. he doesn't care for me and I don't have any other family that I can stay with. I dont know what to do. I hate living like this. Any advice?

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Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to write a post on our bulletin. We appreciate the courage it takes to reach out and share a bit about your story. We want you to know that we are here 24/7 to listen and be a support for you as you navigate this challenging situation. It sounds like things at home are incredibly stressful because your mom does not listen to your needs and is not adequately caring for you. Home is supposed to be somewhere safe where you feel cared for and at ease. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel loved and supported.

We are here to listen anytime if you want to talk more about your situation and explore your options. We can better help by phone and chat so that we can more easily support you in brainstorming your next steps. Please do not hesitate to reach out anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help,
NRS

i don’t want to live with my mom , we live with her boyfriend because she couldn’t afford to get her own house . before we lived here we lived with my grandma and my friend started living with me at that time because of her family problems too . When we started staying at his ‘ranch’ we literally had to pick up after all of them and if we didn’t we would get in trouble and yelled at . She always tells us we’re lazy and we never do anything but we clean up after our messes every time we make one. It never used to be this bad when my brothers lived with me and we actually had a apartment we would all clean but it’s like they were her only motivation for getting a house and now it’s like she just doesn’t care about me and she most definitely probably doesn’t care about my friend. She doesn’t have a job she’s home all day and never cleans we would have to do it when we got home from school. She always has to come at us with something like we can’t even be in the room we stay in without her telling us that we’re lazy and that we never do anything and that she does everything. She washes the dishes once and she thinks it gives her the right to tell us w no e never do anything. i want to live with my grandma because she actually cares and asks me how i’m doing and cares for my feelings unlike my mother. When her boyfriend is away at work she stays in her room and expects us to do everything like make our own food and take care of my little sister we never get a break and we don’t even get a simple thank you either. she threatens to always take ‘privileges’ like tv away because we'll be watching it instead of cleaning up after them. She never stays by her word and she’s always lying. I just feel like her maid that never gets a break and i’m tired of not getting the level of respect that i feel i deserve or any respect at all. I always feel uneasy when she comes around because i never can read her i never know what she wants from me. If i would stand up to her i would get beat down and probably have to do more than i already do. She takes my earned money that i get for cleaning up for my grandma without even asking me and she just walks all over me like she’s better than me. I always have to second guess my self if i’m even aloud in the room i sleep in because everything i do is supposedly not right . she makes us stay in the living room because she doesn’t want us on the room yet she’ll leave somewhere with her boyfriend and just leaves us in there . She’s only nice to us when she feels bad for something but i never give in to it and by doing that she just gets in a bad mood and starts yelling orders at us . i feel as if i can’t even take a nap without her telling me that i never do anything right and that i make her get mad at me . even when i want to get away she never lets me go anywhere i feel stuck and she makes me feel like i’m a bad daughter for wanting to do things for myself. i’m never offered a break and if i ever get one it’s because someone sees how she treats me and they suggest i get one. She used to always go out and never come back till the next day and leave me to get my sister ready for school in the morning. She’s irresponsible and acts like she’s 16 and she treats me the same way supposedly her mom treated her. I just feel like i’m getting held back from living a normal life and she’s so impossible to talk to because she tries to save herself by making excuses of why she does what she does as if it’s for us .

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

i dont want to live with my mom anymore

im tired of living with my mom even if im just now 17,
whenever i take care of my brothers and sisters and nothing bad happends or any other day my mother find a way to blame me for everything. Even when im busy doing my own stuff even when shes at the house she blames me for what happends if i have nothing to do with it. I just wanna leave and live with a friend but i cant all my friends usually lives far away. I have no car, i have a bike but needs new wheels. Im tired of being the one in the fault of everything she puts punishments on me for liget something ive never been part of. I dont like her as my mother at all.. Even when i curse her out once she tells my step dad about it and my step dad came up to me and said "say that to her again ill beat the ******** out of you" but in spanish. I understand spanish but cant speak it.. Im tired of living here. Im tired of being the one in the fault for no reason at all here. I wanna live with my friend.. Yet all i can do is sit in the corner thinkin of running away. My mom doesnt even care of how i feel or what shes doing to me. I just hope im out of here soon.. Really soon...