I dont want to live with my Mom anymore

[Guest]

I wanna go away. My mom is crazy. She's always slutting around and ********ing random dudes all night and wakes up in the morning shaking with her back hurting and her lips super dry.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know you are not alone.
It sounds like things have been rough with your mom, and seems that maybe it is an uncomfortable environment. If you feel like you are being neglected, you do have a right to make a report. You can make a report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453.
We know that you mentioned wanting to go away, we are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you still feel like leaving is your only option you can call us and we can help you look for shelters.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I don’t want to live with my mom anymore. She scares me anytime she walks or talks. I’m always afraid she’s going to lecture me. When she gets angry or anxious she doesnt hide it so I have to be the strong one and stay calm, I’m an adolescent. She also engraved her beliefs into anyone who doesn’t believe the same as her. My step-dad jokes and teases a lot, but sometimes it hurts my feelings and when I go tell my mom she says it’s just because of his past and doesn’t even bother telling him. And I’m to scared to tell him because I’m afraid he’ll make fun of me. If I tell my mother about my feelings she’ll say I either made it up or got it offline. I realize how stupid the reason is to not want to live with my mother but it’s a reason.

[ccsmod3]

Hey there. Thanks for contacting us here at NRS. We know it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you did. We're sorry to hear that things have been tough at home and in dealing with your mom and step-dad. It must be pretty frustrating to feel uncomfortable in your own home. If you no longer want to live at home with your mom, it might be a good idea to start thinking of some other places where you might be able to go if you leave, like a friend or family member. If these aren't options for you, a youth shelter or transitional living program (depending on your age), might be alternatives. If you'd like to learn more about these options in your area, you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can go over them together.

If staying home is an option for you, it might be helpful to try and have a conversation with your mom or step-dad about how you're feeling. We know that's easier said than done, but communication is really important, especially when folks live together. If it's too intimidating to talk to your mom, is there anyone you can loop into the conversation to help, like a family member or a family friend? They might be able to help mediate the conversation, which could make it more productive. This is also something that we can do at NRS.

If you have any questions or want to chat in more detail, please feel free to give us a call or chat with us through our website: www.1800runaway.org. We're available by phone and chat, 24/7.

Take care.

NRS

[Guest]

i dont want 2 live with my mom any more if she finds out i am on the app i am really going 2 be in he hospital like i was last time . i cant take this any longer like i need help 2 get out of here . i will run away and kill myself if i dont get away.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Iwanttodie

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.

We want you to know you are valuable and you are worth living. You do not have to deal with your situation alone, there is help out there. If you are feeling suicidal or need someone to talk to please reach out to The National Suicide Prevention Line. They can be reached at 1800-273-8255. You can also reach out to us, we are available to you 24/7.

We wish you the best of luck and please reach out if you need someone to talk to or have any questions.

Stay Strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m a 17 year old that lives with my mom and two little siblings. I have only 1 semester left of high school until I leave for university. The thing is, I can’t stay here any longer.. ever since she separated with my stepdad, she’s changed a lot. A lot of the times she’s stressed out, but then she throws the stress on me. She complains on how I don’t help her at all, which is false because when I do help out she says “I’m fine”. Being a senior in high school is pretty challenging, but living with my mom is even worse. She always asks me to help her at the wrong times ESPECIALLY last minute. (Mainly when I’m doing school work). It mainly happens over stupid situations that literally don’t even need to happen. For example, she would cram a bunch of stuff into her schedule and then complain about how she has no time, and then take it out on me. Her problem is she is very bad with time management, and that interferes with my schoolwork.. my mom would put herself in stressful situations and then complain about being stressed, I don’t understand. It’s pretty frustrating, I literally only have a few more months and I don’t have to deal with this anymore, but I can’t wait any longer. If I stay anymore I feel like I’m literally going to lose my sanity. I just don’t understand that woman.

advice please???

[ccsmod15]

Hey there, thanks for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). Thank you for sharing some of what’s going on. It’s sounds like you’re working hard at school for your senior year of high school while also going through a challenging time.

We offer a Conference Call service if you want help talking to your mom. This might be a way to open up the lines of communication when you feel stuck. We can also look up Family Counselor options in your local area if you use our Chat or Hotline services to contact us if you’d like to try that avenue of communication with your mom.

You might also try writing your mom a letter to share what you’re feeling and what you think might improve the stress at home. Sometimes trying to putting things down on paper can help us think through what we want to say as well as be an avenue for someone to try to hear us better.

It sounds like you might be looking for advice, and unfortunately we cannot give advice as we are non-directive. If you’d like further contact to explore options or receive emotional support, please contact us via our ONLINE CHAT SERVICE at www.1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button) or our HOTLINE at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We are here for you and wish you all the best, NRS.

[Guest]

Hi I’m in Florida and my mother is very toxic she says things and it makes me wanna kill my self she treats me like a kid even though I’m 15 and have been through hell I’m more Mature then she is she made me take meds that were messing me up till she knew they were messing me up even though I told her multiple times they weren’t right I’m scared it’s to the point where I wanna end it I’ve thought about running away a lot and I’ve been doing it for a while so please help me

[ccsmod16]

Thank you for contacting us. Reaching out for help takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you have a very difficult situation at home. We totally understand that it may feel hopeless for you and you can’t see a way for all this to get better. There are options for you and we would like to discuss those further with you. You can reach out to us for a chat through our website or call our crisis hotline at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential and available anytime 24/7. We understand that you might not think there are options for you because your Mom is not helping you, but there are services we can find in your area to get help for you. We are a non-directive agency-that means we will help you figure out a plan to work with the services in your area that feels right for you and is safe. While you can always call us for help with suicidal thoughts and feelings, you can also reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline as well. They are at 1 (800) 273 8255. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

[Guest]

Same thing with me. I'm 11 and I'm honestly tired of living with my mom. Every day things get worse and I suggested family counseling but she just said we don't need it. My mom has also taken away mvu mall of my devices and the only reason I'm able to write this is because I had to break into her room while she was sleeping and it's currently 1:03 AM. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to talk to anyone about what's happening because the only person I can tell is my best friend and I have very limited time to communicate with her, I'm not even sure how much longer I can communicate with her. My household doesn't hold a family anymore. It holds people who don't want to be under the same roof. I want to do something about this because, I forgot to mention, my mom has also been verbally and emotionally abusing me. There hasn't really been any physical abuse, but I'm scared it will come to that. She has threatened me multiple times saying that shell will harm me. I have no privacy, my door knob is removed, and I really don't want to live her anymore but I don't want to leave my only and best friend, I don't want to move to ******* with my dad, my dad speaks spanish and

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Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out, it sounds like things have been quite overwhelming at home. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).
You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.
You mentioned not wanting to go with your dad due to him living in another state. We believe your safety is priority, if you need any help with legal resources to get to him we can help find aid in your state.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

i dont wanna live with my momma no more she always calls me dumb, stupid, and ugly. Ive been venting to friends about this problem with my mommma they think i should live with my father but, my mom doesnt let me i always asked why and she doesnt reply. one time she said why god had to give her a child like me and she said she doesnt want me anymore im always getting blamed for stuff that my little brother do if he does something like waste a drink she say i wasted the drink when i didnt.. my mom is the reason why im depressed ever since i was 12 she been like this i never told her about the stuff she does to me im 14 now. but i think my mom really doesnt like me because of mysexuality my mom found out i wasnt straight and she started calling me a d*ke and a fag.. my dad understands me more than my mother does my mom always say im the reason shes stressed but im more stressed than her. one time she took my phone because i downloaded a app like a therapist app and she got mad and took my phone i was in a relationship i have no way to talk to the person i date now because of her and she doesnt care. this isnt the first time she ruined one of my relationships she did it like four times. me and my mom always argue because of my little brother she says i dont watch him enough and she blames me for everything he does.. i did try to run away once to my father but she told me to come back home.. when my momma gets mad at something she comes in my room and starts yelling at me for nothing and takes my phone.. she broke one of my phones before when she was mad my momma calls me a pathological liar and says im manipulative and stuff like that.. im just tired of living with her.. its always about my mom and what she wants i could never have freedom i cant go out nowhere without her or nothing. i just think my mother doesnt love me cause all the stuff she says she called me a h*e,sl*t and stuff like that i can barely do school work because of her i always have to do stuff for her and my brother i never have time for myself.. and its always been like that. i could never be happy in this house. when im with my dad im always happy my mom always talking about throwing me into a girls home to get rid of me. i asked why wont she let me go she said because she doesnt want me to.. and when i was a child my momma took all my father rights. im just stuck with my mom forever and i cant go nowhere i have to deal with this for the rest of my life but yeah, thats all i had to say.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

Stay Strong,
NRS

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[Guest]

Man I feel u everyday after school I trap myself inside my room and wait for it to turn night to get my dinner then sleep. All I do is sit on my phone everyday and eat and sleep. when I ask what’s wrong when she’s mad or something she replies with “my birth” and I’m just so depressed and bored in this house I don’t even know what to do it’s been like this for almost two years now my life is a living hell. Then I got friends telling me that they want to hangout and when I finally build up the courage to ask my step dad for a ride he very surprisenly said he could bring me then I call my friend to let him know and he tells me never mind and I just start crying because I finally had the feeling of freedom and doing something other than doing nothing all day then boom after all day of being excited my friend just turns me down like that. I just want a normal life like all the other kids in my school and family they got I’m just done living like this and just counting the years down until I can move out and be free.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out, we understand it can be hard to take that first step. We’re glad you feel this is a safe space to talk about what’s been going on. It sounds like things have been pretty frustrating not only at home but with friends. It can feel like the days pass so slowly, but what is important is that you make it to that date where you will feel you are finally enjoying the life you have. Hold on to that, the feelings of not being able to do much as a minor are temporary. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi.i am 12 years old living with my mother I am really depressed and stressed out how the way I look and feel My mother calls me fat almost everyday and she tells at me for no reason and litterly I dont feel scared or loved anymore I dont know what to do . She always thinks I'm lying when I'm not lying she litterly threatens to ground me if I dont di anything right and at thos point I dont wanna be with her I dont wanna see her anymore. One time j asked to live with my bestfriend because her whole family treats me nice they care about me they make sure I'm ok I just want to be with them and when I asked my mom just got mad at me and argued with me she even tried to say "IS YOUR BEST FRIEND FAT" and I just dont know what to do anymore I'm tired of it I'm just so sick and tired of being treated like this I dont wanna eat I dont fall asleep until 2 or 3 am i just wanna go

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help, so thank you for sharing your situation and how you're feeling with us. Please know that you do not deserve the emotional abuse that your mom is putting you through. You deserve to be accepted for who you are, to be loved and cared for at home. Your mom is saying these things because of who SHE is, not because of who you are. We're glad that your friend and their family are there for you, we want you to know that we are here to support you as well.

If you ever need to talk through the depression you're feeling, feel free to call SAMHSA’s National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). They are a national organization that specializes in providing confidential, 24/7 mental health services. Additionally, if you'd like to talk more about your specific situation or running away, we are here. We're happy to help you look for shelters or provide other resources you need. NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance, so if you would like to talk more in detail, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and take care,
NRS

[Guest]

i dont wanna live with my mom, i sit here every day wanting to cry because idk how to tell here it hurts idk what to do

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on between you and your mom. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I do not want to live with my mom anymore I want to live with my grandma, my mom is verbally abusive she makes me watch her children & threatens me. It’s an unstable environment

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes great courage to reach out and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s been going on. It sounds like being at home with your mom is a really difficult environment. No one deserves to be verbally abused and threatened by a parent.

You mentioned that you would like to live with your grandma. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If your mom gives you permission to stay at your grandma’s house, that sounds like it could be a great option to give you and your mom some space and for you to be in a more stabilizing environment. However, it might be important for you to know that if you do leave home without your mom’s permission and stay with your grandma, she might get in trouble and could be charged with harboring a runaway.

It sounds like you might get along better with your grandma than your mom and that she might be a source of support for you. If you haven’t already, it might be a good idea to share what has been going on at home with her. It might be helpful to have someone you can talk to about your situation, and perhaps she could also bring up the possibility of you staying with her in case your mom might be more open to that idea if she hears it from your grandma. These are just some suggestions, but ultimately you know your situation best and if that would actually be helpful or not.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. Please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are ever at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

she says that it’s better for me to not run away and to not kill myself but i just am not happy right now. i wanna to kill myself. i feel kinda bad but not too bad. she honestly ruined my life.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. We're sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. It sounds like you may be thinking about suicide. That concerns us and we want to let you know we are here to listen and help in any way we can. You can call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us via the chat feature on our website: www.1800runaway.org. You can also reach out for help at the following website and phone number: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 1-800-273-8255. We hope to hear from you soon to talk about what's going on.

Please be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

So currently I'm living with my mom. Its a mess im always taking care if my sibling and doing everything she should be doing. I want to live with my dad because i feel like and actually 15 year old i feel like me. Ive tried to explain to my mom i want to live with my dad but she said he lies to much and all he do is care for his wife. That's not true when i went to see my dad almost a year ago i was happy i felt like i had a family, But with my mom i feel like i don't have a family. I want to go to court for my dad to get full custody over me. But the only problem with that if my mom finds out she will be mad at me forever i love her i really do but i also love my dad. I just dont wanna be at my moms anymore. I have tried everything but she gets mad at me every time. I just need some help so what should i do in this situation.

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,

It sounds like you are going through a very tough time and we are glad you reached out to us. It is very brave of you to take steps to make your situation better and we will do our best to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.

Your current living situation also sounds very challenging. If you think it would be helpful to you, you can also call us and we can arrange a conference call with your Mom to talk about how you feel.

Do you have friends or family or a teacher or counselor at school you are comfortable talking to that you are comfortable talking to about your situation? They may have advice or ideas that may be helpful to you.

There may also be legal resources available to talk to you about your options. If you call us, one of our volunteers can help you find resources in your area. If you are uncomfortable making the call, one of our volunteers can make the call with or for you.

You can also always contact us via chat at www.1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We have volunteers available 24/7 to talk and to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.

We wish you the best,
NRS

[Guest]

i feel like if i ran away my mom wouldn't even care. I actually talked to my step dad about it he said " i would even pay you to leave"
I cant tell if he is joking or not because he has always been like that.

[ccsmod9]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate and understand the courage it takes to reach out and let us know what is going on. It seems like you are going through a hard time right now and you have considered running away as a viable option. You may want to consider this information on runaway laws prior to making any decisions. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Additionally, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. If you would like to be put in contact with resources in your area, feel free to call or chat 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We are a 24-hour service and are available to help anytime. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.



We hope to hear from you soon. Best of luck, NRS.