I dont want to live with my Mom anymore

Hi.i am 12 years old living with my mother I am really depressed and stressed out how the way I look and feel My mother calls me fat almost everyday and she tells at me for no reason and litterly I dont feel scared or loved anymore I dont know what to do . She always thinks I'm lying when I'm not lying she litterly threatens to ground me if I dont di anything right and at thos point I dont wanna be with her I dont wanna see her anymore. One time j asked to live with my bestfriend because her whole family treats me nice they care about me they make sure I'm ok I just want to be with them and when I asked my mom just got mad at me and argued with me she even tried to say "IS YOUR BEST FRIEND FAT" and I just dont know what to do anymore I'm tired of it I'm just so sick and tired of being treated like this I dont wanna eat I dont fall asleep until 2 or 3 am i just wanna go

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out, we understand it can be hard to take that first step. We’re glad you feel this is a safe space to talk about what’s been going on. It sounds like things have been pretty frustrating not only at home but with friends. It can feel like the days pass so slowly, but what is important is that you make it to that date where you will feel you are finally enjoying the life you have. Hold on to that, the feelings of not being able to do much as a minor are temporary. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

Man I feel u everyday after school I trap myself inside my room and wait for it to turn night to get my dinner then sleep. All I do is sit on my phone everyday and eat and sleep. when I ask what’s wrong when she’s mad or something she replies with “my birth” and I’m just so depressed and bored in this house I don’t even know what to do it’s been like this for almost two years now my life is a living hell. Then I got friends telling me that they want to hangout and when I finally build up the courage to ask my step dad for a ride he very surprisenly said he could bring me then I call my friend to let him know and he tells me never mind and I just start crying because I finally had the feeling of freedom and doing something other than doing nothing all day then boom after all day of being excited my friend just turns me down like that. I just want a normal life like all the other kids in my school and family they got I’m just done living like this and just counting the years down until I can move out and be free.

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

Stay Strong,
NRS

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i dont wanna live with my momma no more she always calls me dumb, stupid, and ugly. Ive been venting to friends about this problem with my mommma they think i should live with my father but, my mom doesnt let me i always asked why and she doesnt reply. one time she said why god had to give her a child like me and she said she doesnt want me anymore im always getting blamed for stuff that my little brother do if he does something like waste a drink she say i wasted the drink when i didnt.. my mom is the reason why im depressed ever since i was 12 she been like this i never told her about the stuff she does to me im 14 now. but i think my mom really doesnt like me because of mysexuality my mom found out i wasnt straight and she started calling me a d*ke and a fag.. my dad understands me more than my mother does my mom always say im the reason shes stressed but im more stressed than her. one time she took my phone because i downloaded a app like a therapist app and she got mad and took my phone i was in a relationship i have no way to talk to the person i date now because of her and she doesnt care. this isnt the first time she ruined one of my relationships she did it like four times. me and my mom always argue because of my little brother she says i dont watch him enough and she blames me for everything he does.. i did try to run away once to my father but she told me to come back home.. when my momma gets mad at something she comes in my room and starts yelling at me for nothing and takes my phone.. she broke one of my phones before when she was mad my momma calls me a pathological liar and says im manipulative and stuff like that.. im just tired of living with her.. its always about my mom and what she wants i could never have freedom i cant go out nowhere without her or nothing. i just think my mother doesnt love me cause all the stuff she says she called me a h*e,sl*t and stuff like that i can barely do school work because of her i always have to do stuff for her and my brother i never have time for myself.. and its always been like that. i could never be happy in this house. when im with my dad im always happy my mom always talking about throwing me into a girls home to get rid of me. i asked why wont she let me go she said because she doesnt want me to.. and when i was a child my momma took all my father rights. im just stuck with my mom forever and i cant go nowhere i have to deal with this for the rest of my life but yeah, thats all i had to say.

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out, it sounds like things have been quite overwhelming at home. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).
You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.
You mentioned not wanting to go with your dad due to him living in another state. We believe your safety is priority, if you need any help with legal resources to get to him we can help find aid in your state.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

Same thing with me. I'm 11 and I'm honestly tired of living with my mom. Every day things get worse and I suggested family counseling but she just said we don't need it. My mom has also taken away mvu mall of my devices and the only reason I'm able to write this is because I had to break into her room while she was sleeping and it's currently 1:03 AM. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to talk to anyone about what's happening because the only person I can tell is my best friend and I have very limited time to communicate with her, I'm not even sure how much longer I can communicate with her. My household doesn't hold a family anymore. It holds people who don't want to be under the same roof. I want to do something about this because, I forgot to mention, my mom has also been verbally and emotionally abusing me. There hasn't really been any physical abuse, but I'm scared it will come to that. She has threatened me multiple times saying that shell will harm me. I have no privacy, my door knob is removed, and I really don't want to live her anymore but I don't want to leave my only and best friend, I don't want to move to ******* with my dad, my dad speaks spanish and

[ccsmod16]

Thank you for contacting us. Reaching out for help takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you have a very difficult situation at home. We totally understand that it may feel hopeless for you and you can’t see a way for all this to get better. There are options for you and we would like to discuss those further with you. You can reach out to us for a chat through our website or call our crisis hotline at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential and available anytime 24/7. We understand that you might not think there are options for you because your Mom is not helping you, but there are services we can find in your area to get help for you. We are a non-directive agency-that means we will help you figure out a plan to work with the services in your area that feels right for you and is safe. While you can always call us for help with suicidal thoughts and feelings, you can also reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline as well. They are at 1 (800) 273 8255. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

Hi I’m in Florida and my mother is very toxic she says things and it makes me wanna kill my self she treats me like a kid even though I’m 15 and have been through hell I’m more Mature then she is she made me take meds that were messing me up till she knew they were messing me up even though I told her multiple times they weren’t right I’m scared it’s to the point where I wanna end it I’ve thought about running away a lot and I’ve been doing it for a while so please help me

[ccsmod15]

Hey there, thanks for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). Thank you for sharing some of what’s going on. It’s sounds like you’re working hard at school for your senior year of high school while also going through a challenging time.

We offer a Conference Call service if you want help talking to your mom. This might be a way to open up the lines of communication when you feel stuck. We can also look up Family Counselor options in your local area if you use our Chat or Hotline services to contact us if you’d like to try that avenue of communication with your mom.

You might also try writing your mom a letter to share what you’re feeling and what you think might improve the stress at home. Sometimes trying to putting things down on paper can help us think through what we want to say as well as be an avenue for someone to try to hear us better.

It sounds like you might be looking for advice, and unfortunately we cannot give advice as we are non-directive. If you’d like further contact to explore options or receive emotional support, please contact us via our ONLINE CHAT SERVICE at www.1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button) or our HOTLINE at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We are here for you and wish you all the best, NRS.

I’m a 17 year old that lives with my mom and two little siblings. I have only 1 semester left of high school until I leave for university. The thing is, I can’t stay here any longer.. ever since she separated with my stepdad, she’s changed a lot. A lot of the times she’s stressed out, but then she throws the stress on me. She complains on how I don’t help her at all, which is false because when I do help out she says “I’m fine”. Being a senior in high school is pretty challenging, but living with my mom is even worse. She always asks me to help her at the wrong times ESPECIALLY last minute. (Mainly when I’m doing school work). It mainly happens over stupid situations that literally don’t even need to happen. For example, she would cram a bunch of stuff into her schedule and then complain about how she has no time, and then take it out on me. Her problem is she is very bad with time management, and that interferes with my schoolwork.. my mom would put herself in stressful situations and then complain about being stressed, I don’t understand. It’s pretty frustrating, I literally only have a few more months and I don’t have to deal with this anymore, but I can’t wait any longer. If I stay anymore I feel like I’m literally going to lose my sanity. I just don’t understand that woman.

advice please???

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.

We want you to know you are valuable and you are worth living. You do not have to deal with your situation alone, there is help out there. If you are feeling suicidal or need someone to talk to please reach out to The National Suicide Prevention Line. They can be reached at 1800-273-8255. You can also reach out to us, we are available to you 24/7.

We wish you the best of luck and please reach out if you need someone to talk to or have any questions.

Stay Strong,
NRS

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[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

i dont want 2 live with my mom any more if she finds out i am on the app i am really going 2 be in he hospital like i was last time . i cant take this any longer like i need help 2 get out of here . i will run away and kill myself if i dont get away.