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    Hi, I'm a fifteen year old female, I turn sixteen in September. My mom is usually very nice to me and everyone around me, but there's times when she gets really angry with me. With my schooling, (I'm home schooled) she degrades me constantly and belittles me. There's been a few cases where she gets so mad at me, either for no reason or over something small, that she starts hitting me. I've gotten a couple bruises, but they all eventually go away. There was one time that I got beyond depressed due to my "situation", that I started to cut myself. It made me feel better about myself, but I never did it again in case she would find out and be mad at me. I also have anxiety/social anxiety, and my mom doesn't really take it seriously. I've never been fully diagnosed with it, since I haven't been to a doctor or therapy for it. There's been some instances where I contemplate suicide, I tried when I was thirteen but, sadly to me, it didn't work. I don't really know if I need help, I just know that my mother won't supply it if I do. Please answer soon.

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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your parents' behavior is worrisome and it makes sense that you are worried about your own and your siblings' safety.

    You mentioned some things about abuse and inappropriate sexual actions taken by your parents that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody or discussing a foster care or group home placement. Taking pictures or video of the abuse and/or and injuries that have occurred because of it may be helpful during a CPS investigation. If you need help filing an abuse report you can contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can either file a report for you or conduct a conference call with CPS to help you through the process. You can also tell a teacher, school counselor/social worker, police officer, medical personnel like a doctor or nurse about what's going on at home and they can file a report for you as well.

    You mentioned that you were raped by your father at a young age. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and we believe and support you. You are a survivor and that means that you have a great strength and resilience inside you. It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support, and resources that you may find helpful.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Hi I'm 13 and I have a question. Is it ok for my mother to hit me when I don't listen to her? I have MDD and it causes me to become drained some days, on those days sometimes I don't want to deal with my family. But my mother is a person who likes order and a clean house, daily. By a clean house, I don't mean the house has to be sparkling but to whatever standards she has for that day. If me or my siblings don't meet her standards for whatever chore she gives us, she will call us names, compare us to her self, be rude, or if it gets a bit heated hit us and try to drag us to her. When she does hit me she will ether slap me, shove me, or pull my hair. But I do have a couple other questions about her and my father. One is, is ok for her to think that just because were family she can get naked in front of me and think it is ok? Or for her to shower with my eight and five year old brothers? Or for her to sleep with my five year old brother, in the same room as the eight year old? The questions I have about my father is, is it ok for him to scream or threaten to hit us? Or for him to look at me funny when I'm in a bathing suit or wearing shorts? Or for him to scream at my mother to get a job, to disaplen my dyslectic and autistic five year old brother, to throw a beer can at her and threaten to pour beer on her, to scream "shut to ******** up"? He has been to jail for rapeing me when I was 4/5/6 but since at the time, I couldn't remember anything about it he was bailed out by my mother. But now I can very vevidly remember what he did, down to what I was wearing to what portion the bed was in. I don't know what to do, because if I do go the the police they might not believe me. Or if I go to the police they might take us away, then what? My brother needs to go to a special school because he can't speak English properly and he's autistic/dyslectic. And I have a theripest that costs money because of my past self harm and suicide attempt. But I went to the mental ward but they let me go. But ever since then my mother uses the theirpest as a way to make me listen to her, or she will flat out make me feel horrible or like I'm faking it because of my MDD and self harm. When. she found out she looked at me like I was a animal, and the next day completely flipped out on me. Its been a couple mouths now but, when I get in on of my episodes of just feeling drained she will threaten to make sleep down stairs or to monerter me like I was in the hospital . Please tell me what I should do, Im scared about my safety and my siblings safety.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and what you’ve been dealing with. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

    Although NRS is not a legal agency, we can try to give a general idea of possible outcomes if you were to run away. If you are considered a minor in your state, you are still under your parents’ guardianship, therefore at any point when you are gone, they are legally within their rights to file a runaway report. Being a runaway is a status offense, and while you would not be charged with a crime, if police came across you, they would probably return you home. Guardians could also potentially press charges against people who took you into their care for “harboring a runaway;” these charges would be misdemeanors, but still criminal offenses.

    You’ve mentioned a few instances of physical and emotional abuse. We understand that trauma can be difficult to work through and that reporting may not be an option you are comfortable with. However, you do deserve to live in a safe place, and if you wanted to talk more about child abuse reporting or wanted support, Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline) could be a resource for learning what reporting would look like. They are accessible by phone at 1-800-422-4453 and online at childhelp.org.

    We would love to talk more about the details of your situation so that we can work towards a solution that you find acceptable. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
    We hope this information was helpful and take care.
    National Runaway Safeline
    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    Hi, I’m 13 year old girl. My mom and my older sister treat me like their slave whenever I’m watching computer or my phone they always say “what are you doing, why are you so lazy why are you doing nothing. You watch video like 2 hour ago.” And I get very annoyed by that so I have to clean the house everyday. Sometimes my body feel very heavy and tired and I feel like I have no strength. Whenever I don’t clean the dishes or the house my mom and my older sister always hit me in the head or slap me. I cry mostly everyday in my room or bathroom. Sometimes i feel like running away but I don’t have the courage to do that. I want to tell everyone’s about my situation but when I think about it they my family so how could I do that. Please help me.!

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your mom's actions are unacceptable and you deserve to live in a home where you are safe and secure.

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    I am 14 years old. I get decent grades, but whenever I have a slight slip my mom yells at me. My dad does not mind because he knows I always fix my grades, but not my mom. When I study at home and don’t understand something, I get hit or slapped. If I talk back, I get hit or slapped. If I try to talk all I get is negative responses. I am not allowed the same privileges as others my age. Today, I was struck with a big textbook, causing my arm to swell up. I try to stay happy, but it is getting very difficult and I don’t want to fall into sadness. I hope there is something I can do so that my mother understands me.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi. First off I want to thank you for reaching out to us; that can be a very difficult thing to do. We want to tell you that no one deserves to be hit no matter the reason. You deserve to feel safe and secure. You do have options such as Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 this is the National Child Abuse hotline. Calling these places can feel overwhelming so if you wanted to explore this option, you could always call us and we can help you through it. We are also here 24/7 to talk about other things and other options if reporting is not something you felt comfortable with. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help.

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    when my mom hits me I have gotten used to it and it doesn't hurt that bad anymore but when she started hitting me with a broom i have felt so empty because she makes me feel like i am such a bad person

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen Wow you do not deserve to be treated like that. Abuse is unacceptable no matter if it is physical or emotional abuse. We know you mentioned not wanting to get the police involved but making an abuse report is always an option if you would like to make one. To make an abuse report you can call The Child Helpline at – 1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help you can call us at any time. We know you also mentioned not wanting to go to therapy one option is you could try talking to a school counselor or a teacher about what has been going on. After one time if you did not like talking to them or it did not make you feel better, you are not obligated to go again. If you do not feel safe in your home and need a place to go you can always call us, and we can help you look for shelters in your area. Another option is you could see if you could stay with a family member or friend. If you ever feel like you are in danger please call 911 ASAP. Your safety is our top concern, and whatever you decide we hope you are safe.
    We hope this information will help you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    I'm 13 yrs old and My mother gets mad for no reason at me. She will hear a metal utensil up and threaten me. She has hit me in front of public and it has emotionally and physically affected me a lot. It even caused a red mark. I still love my mom but I dont want her to go to jail, that will cause more problems in my life. Plus my grandparents and my mom only have one goal in their whole life, to take any chance they have to take away my phone/PS4/playing. I dont wanna go to therapy. I am too scared to talk to her about it. please reply asap

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi im 11 years old and my mom hits me when i don't clean, do the dishes, take out the trash and more . She even has threatened me , she said if it weren't wrong to kill someone then i would kill u and stuff. I tried standing up for my self but she and my dad thinks im taking back and hits me more. Today my mom and i got in a fight about how i didn't clean my mess i did in my basement. I was going to clean it up but she hit me and yelled at me. I dont know what to do , i dont know if i can call the police or not .

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. It also sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi, i'm 14 and lately, i've been doing bad at school. Every time i come home, if i'm not doing my work without zero silence, questions, or arguments, my mom hits me and threatens to hit more. Now i am wanting to call a service, but i'm afraid that she will either beat me more or ill be taken away and as much as she hits me i still love her very much. but I have fallen into a depression lately with suicidal thoughts sometimes, and i feel like if i dont do something, i wont make it to my 15th birthday. Please help me.

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