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  • Guest
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    Hey,I'm 13 years old and since I got low grades in school and started getting skinnier my mom started yelling..swearing..slaping..and pushing (hitting) me...I..I once told my friends that I was lowkey depressed and they started to react shocked and worried at first and comforted me for like 5 minutes only...after that day we stopped talking that much because well yeah I'm in a new class now...They forgot about me being lowkey depressed...by the time I was getting more in depression because of my mother and my sisters. I have 3 other sisters and my mom's pregnant again. I have an older sister and 2 younger ones. I bet that she hits me because I'm the middle child,never talking back at her if she's slapping me,ignoring her and so on...I used to cry after she hits me and leaves but now..I got used to it and well yeah,I guess that you could say that I stopped crying. She only hits my when my father is sleeping/not at home. My father is so lovely and nice to me..I'm so happy that I atleast have him. My mother also hits me when my little sister starts crying out of nowhere,she thinks that it's my fault when she's crying. I hope that it'll change..I wish you all good luck with your family/friends..

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 15 I hate when I come home and my mom screams just cause she’s mad today my siblings and I got locked out but she has know we lost our keys and she got mad and made us clean I went to the bathroom and she just starts screaming when nobody is doing anything that afffects her so I started going to my room to go clean and all she does is scream and I told her I’m going to clean already stop screaming please and she just chased me with the belt and Im just locked in my room I just want her to stop screaming and always hitting for little thing

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,
    Hello,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    So im 13 years old and not the best at school, and i have a bladder problem when i sleep. So whenever i wake up wet my mom would hit me and yell "Get in the shower!!". Or when i get a bad grade on something she says "You want to skip school. You want to skip football. What do you want to do? Lay in the bed the whole time and play on the ********ing computer?!?". Im about to snap.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you and you have been very brave to do so. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you and your siblings have been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. We’re also sorry to hear that you’ve thought of suicide in the past. Your life is very important. If you begin having those thoughts again and want to talk with someone anonymously, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. One resource that might work for you is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. They also have an internet chat function through their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

    Since you are 18 in most states you are legally able to leave without your mother’s consent. If you are not comfortable leaving your siblings with your mother based on how she has treated you Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for youth to meet a staff member who can take them to a designated place where they can discuss all options about how to stay safe. They can text 44357 the word “safe,” and their location to find a safe location in your area. Once they arrive let someone who works there know they need help connecting with a staff member.

    It is not illegal for youth to leave home especially if it is not a safe environment but parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring the youth home. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. Sometimes even finding another family member to stay with could be helpful. You mentioned not knowing how tell someone what has happened to you due to embarrassment. It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. One service we can offer is to conference call with a family member. This way you could have a conversation with your family but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to someone what has happened to you and what you have gone through Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you and help support you through the process.

    Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat. We hope this information was helpful and take care.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I became 18 years old last week and have been in a similar situation that all the people before me have had to go through, my mother has been hitting me since I can remember but in the past years after middle school she has been hitting me with more strength and dangerous objects because I was already "old enough" to be hitted more seriously, I have always done great at school and would always keep my grades high so that I could go study for my career and I even got into the university of my choice and received enough money to pay for my college's tuition which was the best birthday gift I have relieved, but classes begin next Monday and my mother told me that she is not going to support me throught college and that really saddens me, but if it is for my future I can work hard enough to make it through without her support. Having her hit me everytime she gets mad at me and insults me by telling me that I am a failure and many different swearings has made me really angry to the point where sometimes I feel depressed and it has been like that for the past 6 years that is has become a regular thing. Even when she hits me or takes my stuff, I never hit her back or swear to her but I have to go through a lot anger that I contain in myself to not fall in her mental traps, I used to hurt myself by punching the wall whenever this happened back in middle school until I got a punching back to relieve my stress, I even had suicidal thoughts but never really decided to cross that line because I believe that talking my life would be an insult to God who gave me the gift of a healthy life and a family that others do not have. She has told me many times to get out of the house because she no longer thought of me as her son, sometimes when she would insult me, hit me and take my stuff I would hide her phone from her because that thing has made her neglect my two younger siblings many times and has even hurt them in minor ways, and yelled at them with more swearing even thought my younger brother is 11 years old and my little sister is only 6 and because of this, they have changed as well. My father is not as bad toward as like my mother but even he is everyday growing more tired of her toxic personality and has never hit her back even when she does because of anger, and the only reason why he does not want to divorce her is because of us, since he does not want to have my siblings grow without a mother. I believe that my mother is not a bad person, she would use to tell me about her hard childhood along her sisters and her deceased mother at a young age, her step mother would abuse them in many ways and even manipulate her dad into getting rid of them at an older age so I sometimes justify her anger problems with her traumatic life as a child. However, now I believe that does not excuse her treatment toward her family because the actions her step mother would cruelly commit that she always criticized are reflect in my mother today, even her toxic personalities became similar ironically. Even my father has become her "puppet" at this point as he does everything my mom tells him to do and I have gotten into a couple of fights with him because of my mom telling him to hurt me or takes my stuff and most of the time I do not care if they take my stuff I would just wait weeks or months to get them back even if my mom would tease me to get mad at her so that she can use it as an excuse and keep my things longer or insult me more but I just try to ignore her and not express my anger to words eventhough I never swear in front of my family since I don't like it, my mother also blames my dad for not investing time into our family since he is always either. working or sleeping and eventhough she is right in the lack of effort done by my dad to invest time with his family she will most of the time overreact and make everyone her enemy no matter where we are but she is smart, since she only shows her true colors to us and not her friends or family she will always blame others for her attitude. Yesterday, I took her phone again after she insulted me and hit me for no reason whatsoever, I had just finished washing the dishes and I took a bath after finishing, when I got out some of my stuff was gone because every time she has an opportunity she takes something from me, even money which she takes even from my dad, I was angry because of the many times she would repeatedly do this so I took her phone so that my dad could see her drastic change in attitude when I take her phone but once again he neglected her violent response toward this and told me to give it back instantly after she told him to do so but I locales myself in the bathroom once again because I don't want to fight my dad again because of her since it would always result in me getting hit and sweared at by him and as he tries to break the door while threatening to kick me out of the house when I get out unless I return the phone and I wait hours to get out of the bathroom until it is past midnight and they are asleep and so can I. Today I was woke up by my mom when she whipped me with my T.V. power cord as usual while yelling "Where is my _______ phone?! Give me my ______ phone NOW!" I did not had enough strength to react to the whipping, but given how used to being whipped by my parents I have grown well over to the pain and am used to enduring but depending on what I am being hit by I can feel the pain or barely feel it at this point, as I tried to stand Up and her out she started to throw my things and told me that she was going to threw it to the mobile trash can but I tried to take my most high valued things from her hand which she was responded with slaps and strikes with a closed hand that I just took while trying to take them from her then she told my siblings to throw my stuff to the trash because as well and I could not do anything but watch, I suddenly reacted with anger after watching everything and grabbed one of her bags and threw it outside the house and that puedes her off a lot, she pushed me toward the ground but I did not fall, then she took one of my sister's bigger plastic dolls and swinged at my torso with a great force and speed that luckily only have two bruises on the torso and my clothes were torned out a bit from her grabbing me, she even threw stuff that was at the ground toward me while I covered myself and then threatened to make sure that my dad would kick me out of the house for sure this time when she came back. I got out of the house and I don't know what to do now. Everytime I give up and return her phone it just ends up being the same thing all over again she swear, she hits and does not change. I am tired of the same cycle that has been going on for the past years, I have never had the courage to call the cops because I am afraid they will not help me like they have done with other people and nobody knows about this, I cannot tell my friends about it because of the embarrassment it makes me feel about being in this situation and now that I am 18 years old I feel less confident of being heard I don't want to go through the suicidal thought I used to have, my parents believe I am not the kind of person to have such thoughts, even I can not believe I can have such thoughts again but it is hard to stay positive. Even if I keep helping at home and doing what they told me to do, they are never satisfied. I want to study and have a respetable career, live by myself maybe find someone and make that person happy so I can finally be truly happy with my life and live a peaceful life. But I don't know what to do considering my options are only going to result in an uneffective solution and now being 18 years old, I fear for my safety and the safety and future of my siblings who have to live many more years like me under this situation, but I don't want them to go to a Foster home or be affected by my choice to seek help, I just want to know what is the best decision I can make to stop this from happening again, please.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Your mom's actions are unacceptable and absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member (like your dad) or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. If you are interested in reporting it may also be helpful to document any injuries (like the bruises or red print from the slap) to show to a caseworker.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 14, and i have the same problem. My mom hits me and she has even picked me up off of the ground by my hair. When I was little she would spank me so hard that i would end up with bruses. She has slapped me so hard that i had a red print where she hit me. I never told anyone because i was told not to. My parents are divorced i feel like i should tell my dad. My home turns into a nightmare. With my mom favoring my little sister, its hard to stay positive. Im filled with anxiety when she is around me. once, i was telling the truth but, she wont believe me, she only sees what she wants to see.Later on she called me lying because of it.
    Last edited by ccsmod1; 08-20-2019, 12:54 AM.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    First, we want you to know that if you or your siblings are ever in an emergency or unsafe situation, you can always call 911 right away.

    It sounds like there is a lot going on at home, and we are glad you reached out to us for help. We can tell how much you care for you siblings by reaching out on their behalf like this. We are confidential and non-directive (meaning we don’t tell anyone what to do), and can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you ever want to speak to someone here in person.

    We are not legal experts, but we can give you some general information. Anyone under the age of majority in your state (usually 18 years old) is considered a minor whose guardian is legally responsible for them. If that guardian is behaving in a way that is harmful to the minor or not providing appropriately for the minor, an abuse and/or neglect report can be filed with Child Protective Services (CPS).

    You don’t mention which brother was hit in the face. If you feel this situation is an instance of child abuse, the National Child Abuse Hotline can be reached at 1-800-422-4453. Also, alcohol being offered to minors and marijuana in the house could also be something to report.

    It sounds like you have experience with CPS, and not being listened to. If contacting CPS again is something you would like to do, we can support you in that decision in a few ways: we can make a report with CPS with you on the line at the same time, we can give you the number so you can talk to them on your own, or we can take the information about what’s going on and call CPS on our own once we end the call. We are here to help you in whatever way suits you best.

    Thank you again for contacting us. We can be reached 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY, and we encourage you to call in if you are comfortable. We are confidential, and we want to help.

    Be safe,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, so I have a 21 year old brother who got hit by my mother today. I'm 18 and also have a 20 year old brother, a 13 year old brother, and a 2 year old sister. My mother spends alot of time out and leaves us to watch my little sister. She smokes pot in the house with my little sister and also has given drinks to all of us children above 18. She hit my brother today in the face and I'm more or less wondering if she hits my brother and he hits her back what are the consequences. Can my brother go to jail and if he does, will me and my other brothers be able to call CPS and actually be listened to?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey, I’m 14. I know a lot of people have life way worse than me, I’m probably just overreacting or something. I’ve never had the best relationship with my mom, I used to with my dad but he started a job where he’s away every other week for weeks at a time when I was in the third grade. Then when he quit and went into another job that let him work from home I was excited. I wanted to be close to him again. But he works unconventional hours and never had time for me, i understand that. Basically we drifted apart. I want to love my mom to death, I want her to know that I still try so hard to and I’d do anything for her. All I want is to feel loved back. She told me once that she still has memories from when her dad would chase her up the stairs to hit her. She said that it was to, “straighten her out.” She does the same thing to me. Ever since I was a child she’d occasionally smack me and my sister, sometimes for reasons we didn’t even know. We tried to tell our aunt and it stopped for a bit. Recently it’s been more frequent, for my sister more than me. She hurts me more verbally, I can take physical pain. She calls me a ********** or a lazy pig or a flat out disappointment and disgrace almost every day, much more as well. She makes jokes about my faults and weaknesses to her teacher friends. (She’s a teacher btw.) the more detail I go into here the more scared I am that she’ll read this and know I wrote it. She scares me sometimes. She makes me feel so lonely and sad, like my heart physically hurts. I see people with great relationships with their parents and I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve been taking walks alone recently to clear my head and it might make me a terrible person, but I never want to go back. I feel like if we suddenly had a good relationship all of a sudden I wouldn’t trust it, it’s too out of character. But I want to feel loved all the same. I know i probably sound stupid. I know so many people have it worse and I should be grateful. But um, yeah.

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here. We are very sorry to hear that you are going through this. Hopefully by helping you out, there might be others in similar situation reading through this thread that can get help as well.

    It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. You have rights to protect yourself against this kind of behavior. If you haven’t it might be a good idea to document any type of abuse that you have experienced while at home. So taking pictures of your injuries or showing them to someone that you can trust is helping. This way you might be able to prove what is going on behind closed doors.

    One resource that you might be able to look into if you’re looking for a safe place for them to go, would be to visit The National Safeplace. This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there is any safe places near you listed. They are some places like designated school, fire stations, libraries, etc. So that is always an option if you feel like go to talk to someone in person and what has been going on. They can also come to arrange transportation from that location to a nearby shelter resources if you can’t get there on your own. If you want to contact them you can text the word “SAFE” to 69866 with your current location (address, city, state) or visit their website for more information.

    It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. We certainly want to help you. Please feel free to reach out to us if you need more help.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    See my mom and dad they are scary every time I come home they always have to threaten me that’s why I’m always scared to go home. today my sister was changing I didn’t know and I was ashamed I went downstairs to my dad after that I thought my sister prolly. Changed so I went upstairs and the door was open I opened to see my sister still wearing her pants I said why does it take so long as a Shut the door then my mom comes in and says why did you do that are you stupid or something? Really loud and I said I’m sorry I thought she changed and she punched me really hard then she grabbed a hanger a started to beat me really bad until it left cuts and bruises and my neck started to bleed really bad and my head hurts this isn’t the only time this happened I always say I love you dad but he says I hate u everytime and my says it’s a joke. One time I had a F then my dad locked me in the basement for 10 hours with no food nor water. This is why I don’t like to be here I want loving parents like my friends their parents are so nice to their sons and daughters

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