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    with him everything is my fault even though hes the one that did it. just because of the fact that i am around he blames his mistakes on me. i get yelled at for things i was told to do that he never actually asked me, he demands my respect when he shows me none, im 15 and want to get out of this...as soon as possible! please help! he needs anger management!

  • #2
    Re: CANT STAND MY FATHER!

    Hello,

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. We empathize with your difficult situation and hope we could help in some way. It is not fair to you to get blame for things that you did not do or yelled at for things that your father is not willing to take accountability for. You said that you think he needs anger management? How angry does he get and how does he express it other than yelling? Do you feel safe at home or is it simply your father yelling and blaming that is getting to you? The most important thing is that you are safe and do not feel treatened emotionally or physically. What sort of relationship do you have with your father usually? Are there times when you and your father find quality time to hang out together? It sounds like a lot to deal with at your age and certainly are welcomed to call us here at 1800Runaway. We are very confidential here and could help you figure out options at home or if you do not want to stay at home. Are there people in your life that you are able to confide in about the matter? Have you spoken to anyone else about what is happening at home? Are there other relatives you are to talk to or visit? What about your mother? How is she involved in your life and is she able to talk to your father on your behalf? Are you able to spend time with her away from home? Have you tried talking to your father yourself or is he not able to open up at all to you? If you want, we could set up a plan to help get your father to start opening up to you or a plan b if that fails. We are here to walk you through options to take if you want to distract yourself from your father on a daily basis. What are some ways you could think about in terms of finding more time to avoid your father? What is his moods on a daily basis? Is there something specific that you notice in his moods? Is he stress out wiht work and this could be why he act this way or is it the routine now? You are welcome to use this time to empower yourself and if you need that support you are welcome to call us here 24 hours a day. We are here to listen to your situation and could help you if you choose to call us. However, we hope that you figure out what steps to take in order to empower yourself at home. Good luck and we look forward to hearing from you.

    Sincerely,

    NRS
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    • #3
      Re: CANT STAND MY FATHER!

      Is it possible for me to "divorce" or emancipate from my dad and live with my mom. (They're not divorced) If not, can't I just runaway if he's just an abusive, ignorant, tyrannical 'father', even though he's the sole financial provider in the family due that he has a job?

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      • #4
        Re: CANT STAND MY FATHER!

        Hello,

        Thank you for reaching out to us again. It sounds like you really want to run away and certainly have your reasons but we are not in the position to say that you should or not. Also, because we do not know where you live, it is hard to tell what the laws for emancipation are in your state. Generally, emancipation is a difficult process, but we can provide you with information on who to contact in your area about emancipation, if you’re comfortable giving your city and state. We do empathize with you difficult situation because you do deserve to remain safe from abuse and harm. One thing we are able to do for you, if you were to call us, is to assist you with filing a child abuse report. Since we are mandated reporters, but can only do so if you offer name, number and address of your father. We are extremely confidential here but we are here to assist you in whatever direction you want to take with this issue. You are welcome to call the Child Protective Services in your state to file on your own as well. If you need that number, we can provide it to you. You asked about running away, the only ways that legally you can leave your home (and you won’t be returned there if you run) is to go through emancipation or reporting the abuse. You wrote that you are willing to live with your mother but she is not divorced from your father. Have you spoken to your mother about how your father is treating you? What is she willing to do to help you out with this issue? How often do you get to see your mother and is she willing to have you come live with her if you file a child abuse report? Many times the option of filing a report can be scary, just so you know once you file a report there are many different outcomes. After a report is taken the first step is it is investigated by a caseworker. The caseworker then can make many determinations. It is important for you to know that just by reporting it, doesn’t guarantee that they will take you out of your house. However, one outcome, if CPS determines your home is unsafe for you, is that they will find a safe place for you to live. You are welcome to call us about emancipation laws in your state or if you want to file a report. Hope you are safe and taking time to empower yourself. Gook luck and we look forward to hearing from you.

        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          help me

          I am 11 and i posted something before. I was the one who had a little bro ruling my life. If i wanted to play on my wii and my bro was playing on it my parents wouldn't let me play it. I want to run away and like i said before in my first post, i commited suicide 2 or 3 times, but i failed.I have all the stuff i need to run away, but i'm nervous, scared,and worried about running away. I want to do it tommorow night while my family is asleep.If i did run away they wouldn't know im gone.i dont want to go to juvie if they catch me.Please help me.thanks!

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          • #6
            RE: help me

            Often, youth may reach out to NRS in several different ways to discuss their situation. If a response from NRS is not visible to a bulletin posting it may be that we have already provided services to that individual through another platform we provide such as email, our crisis hotline, or our live chat service (in operation every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST). NRS encourages anyone in need of assistance to contact us through our 24 hour crisis hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY to receive immediate support.
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

            National Runaway Safeline
            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            Tell us what you think about your experience!
            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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