Emotionally abusive mom?

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Hi, I'm 12 years old (yeah, pretty young) and I have an anxiety disorder, along with depression. I was diagnosed by a therapist about 2 months ago. But I just wanted to say that I think my mom is mostly part of that issue. I'm greatful, I mean, I have a roof to live under, food and stuff. But when I come home from school, I always go home afraid. My mom has been extremely mean to me. For example, she always calls me names, she says she doesn't love me from time to time, she says she doesn't support me at all. But it was worse when I was younger, I remember that she punched me in my face for falling over, and my nose started bleeding. She couldn't care less. The worst time shesbhit me was about 5 months ago, one time she topd me to put on certain shoes, an i didnt hear her. She startee screaming at me and yelling, she hit me hard, then my older brother (20) came out of his room and asked what was going on. Once he finally understood what was happening, she started yelling at my mom, who kicked him, punched him, and started calling him names. I was holding my baby brother and we were both watching wahat was happening. My older brother told me to call the cops but i got to scared. Anyways, she doesn't hit me that much anymore, but when we get into huge arguments, she starves me. This has happened 3 times already. Nowadays, she just calls me useless and yells at my 1-year-old brother.
Also, please don't tell me to just 'talk to her'. She never listens. She knows I'm very sensitive and she won't get me the help I need, she just says I'm faking it for attention.

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Re: Emotionally abusive mom?

Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things are so hard for you. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you contacted us.
Have you talked to someone else about your situation? Sometimes talking to someone like a close friend, or a family member can be helpful. Have you considered filing an abuse report? If you would like you could call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they help you provide more information about the steps involved in filing an abuse report. You could also call us at out 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you file an abuse report if that would be an option for you and additionally listen to you, explore your other options and provide any resources. It sounds like you have been seeing a therapist. Have you shared this with them? Just so you know therapists are mandated reporters and if you mention abuse to them they are mandated by law to file an abuse report. If you ever feel like your mom is going to hurt you again you could always call 911. You could also look at http://nationalsafeplace.org/ for a place to stay if you ever feel that some is not a place for you to be in.
Even in this stressful time you are acting strong by asking for help before rushing to take the next steps. All of this can be overwhelming but we are here to support you through this hard time. You don’t have to go through this alone. You can reach us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST and we would be happy to listen to you, explore your options and provided resources. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
Best,
NRS

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Hey, thanks for responding. The thing is, I've told the people I trust the most. I told my teacher, she contacted the schools social worker and they started talking to me. They told my mom, and she ended up calling me crazy and hitting me, saying that I cause all of her problems. That all happened about 2 years ago, so I don't even feel safe telling anyone I trust. Also, I really don't want to call the cops or anything on my mom. I feel like they're not gonna do anything and make me stay with her.

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Reply: Emotionally abusive mom?

Hello, again,

We understand your feelings on trust and of course it is up to you to decide what you want to do.
You are welcome to give NRS a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org if you would like to speak more about your situation.
We are here to listen and here to help.

Take care,
NRS