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If I am being completely honest, I do not think there is a label to name her. I think it is so sad to discover this site and see so many unhappy children, especially teens. I feel like parents might just think it's hormones and we will all look back and think about how dramatic we all were about our situations, but I think they are wrong. This site literally just shows how many unhealthy living conditions there are and how many are speaking up about it. My mom is a horrible role model. I have 0 relationship with her, and if I am being completely honest, I would not care if our communication was shut off entirely. People say that strict parents lead to sneakier kids. Ig that is true. I just have sm hatred bottled up, I do not even know were to start. I could give a million examples of ways she makes me go insane and makes me feel like a waste of space. It's unreal, like actually it is crazy. I did not really think about all the stuff I have to tell myself everyday so I do not believe all the things she says to me and makes me feel. Guess now is the time. Not too sure how long I can take it anymore. Probably will run away but it just sucks because for years I have just been letting her win and letting her get her way and letting her think she is right and amazing and that I am ******** and I mentally cannot take it anymore. Maybe if I was stronger I could, but its just becoming too much. Also sucks because if I try to leave she will just continuously call the cops on me so there is no way out. Not allowed to hangout with anyone, not allowed to leave. going insane.

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Thank you for writing in to the National Runaway Safeline. Sounds like that is a pretty stressful situation to be in, and you are entitled to all of the feelings you are having. Have you ever tried writing your mother a letter explaining how you feel? Even if you do not end up giving it to her, it could be a helpful exercise to get all of your feelings out in the open. If you did choose to give it to her, she would be able to digest it on her own terms and hopefully come to you when she’s ready.

If there is anyone in your life that you could talk to about this, perhaps a friend, other family member, or school guidance counselor, that might be a good resource for you to unpack some of the feelings.

Feel free to call us 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can provide additional resources for you. Take care.

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Hello. I know how you feel completely. My mother is an example of what not to do. She divorced my father, whom I love more than anything, a year after my grandfather died and made him move away. Then, he died this month and she is getting all of the pity. People say as much as you hate your mother, you will always love her. She was the reason I couldn't live with him. She tells me now how he would not be proud of who I am, and how she doesn't need a kid like me. She says I am hormonal or that I will regret this when I die. I will not. I would not mind it if I never see her again. She thinks that she has all of my love just by being my "mother." I can't even call her that. She makes me feel horrible, and like I am not worth anyone's time. She doesn't see our problem, and doesn't understand the seriousness of how we do not get along. We fight so much, we get noise complaints in our building. Someone told her that "she needs to stop." "She" referring to me. I don't understand how it's always the kids fault. No one would ever see how terrible she is. I've had panic attacks where I couldn't even breathe. I want to pull my hair out. I hate my life and I'm also going insane. I don't know what to say to help you fix it, because if I did I wouldn't be writing this. The only thing I can say is you are not alone. Teens get the worst of it. There are people like you out there, and if you choose to stand up against it, you'll inspire other people to. Its actually sad that this website even has to be a thing, and people with sh***y parents have only here to vent and rant and express how they feel and live.

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Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.
Thank you, NRS

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i feel like my mother absolutely hates me and wants me to die. she is drunk and abusive and i want to kill myself

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS