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  • ccsmod9
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

    Since you have already contacted CPS, if possible, you can contact the social worker that came to the home and let him/her know how your father is acting towards you and your sister. What you have described seems like neglect and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file another report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. Also, if you’re able to, you can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report or discuss the options you have in regards to your home situation. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.

    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.




    Best of luck!

    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am a 13-year-old teenager, about a month or so ago. I called CPS on my parents since they physically abused me. So CPS came and for the most part helped with the physical abuse part. But then, my dad started becoming extremely cold and passive-aggressive towards me. By taking away my privileges. The reason I believe he did this is that he thought I didn't "appreciate" him for parenting me because I called CPS. So now he is trying to give me the silent treatment so I can "appreciate" him more. Before I called, he would cook a simple dish for me for breakfast and take us to school in his car. Then he stopped by making us use the school bus and instead just microwaving bread/leftovers. He also locks himself in his room all day long.

    Basically long story short. My dad is trying to do less for me and my sister because he thinks we do not appreciate him because I called CPS on him. I don't know what to do.

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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl and I've been really confused lately. I'm unaware of what to do. My parents are verbally abusive, on school days, they will yell at me to get up, and if i dont get up quickly enough, theyll start yelling at me more. about two weeks ago, i got grounded for having bad grades. I wanted to text my friends, telling them I wouldnt be able to talk for awhile, considering id be grounded, so i took my phone from my parents room and started texting some people. My dad came into my room and saw me with my phone. He started yelling, telling me I dont listen. He graddes my phone and ran outside with it, then smashed it on the concrete and stomped on it multiple times. I now have no way of ever contacting my online friends again. My parents told me that I can get another phone when Im 18. My friends were like my therapists. My life at home has never been great, and i would always talk to them about it. I used to slit my wrists because my parents are so horrible to me. My dad had even ripped my door off in a fit of rage, screaming, "you dont get to have privacy anymore". My life has been really hard lately and ive strongly considered ending it. Im only in 8th grade, I shouldnt have to deal with this stuff at my age. I constantly get comments about my body from my parents. Im not really overweight, but I have really large breasts for my age, and my parents sometimes make fun of me for it. I feel so uncomfortable in my body. Even my school bus driver will comment on my body and hit on me. I dont know what to do. My home doesnt feel like home anymore, and i havent felt genuine happiness for quite awhile. What do i do.

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  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,



    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline today. We’re very sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult situation at home. Please know that you truly deserve to feel safe and supported in your own home and family. It sounds like your stepmom isn’t taking your feelings into consideration when she yells at you. Are you comfortable talking with your dad about how she makes your feel? It might be a start to opening a dialogue within your home.



    It must be difficult to deal with undiagnosed anxiety. If you’re interested, you can check out the website for NAMI,the National Alliance for Mental Illness. They have a lot of supportive information as well as help and text lines.

    You can also contact us directly, either by phone, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or on a digital chat via our website, www.1800RUNAWAY.org. Both are available 24 hours a day/7 days a week. We are here to listen and to help. We hope to hear from you soon.



    Take care,

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my parent isn't that great to start off my parents are devoriced. So they make every desition about my life including when I get to see my mom . That isn't the bad part my stepmom is the bad part. She is constantly yelling at me for everything including health issues. Because of this I have anxiety I have never gotten diagnosed but kind of knew from my first panic attack. Everytime she yells at me it makes me feel more and more useless. It doesn't help that I can't tell anyone this for fear of her getting mad at me for it. She has never hurt me besides yelling at me. But as you can see it has taken a toll on my mental state. I don't know what to do anymore because she gets to mad at me and my siblings. Except one my little brother. My stepmom had him with my dad after the devorice so he is the only "real child" in the whole group he gets special treatment in everything. Including snacks see us "big kids " get things like apples and bananas that everyone can have but my little brother gets his own snacks that "no one can have" This sometimes means I have to go hungry because the snacks arent filling enough. We all get fed the same meals but my brother still gets special lunch food too. On top of all of this my little brother barley gets yelled at but he still does because sometimes he doesn't like to do things. In the end it is a toss up because sometimes my stepmom is nice and sometimes really mean . I don't know what to do because it herts me every day .

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing what's going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. You mentioned that you don't feel safe at home; if you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey my mom is calling me a lying and stuff and I don’t feel safe with her and my mom adopted me so can I move there

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  • ccsmod5
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way, it sounds like the things your stepdad are doing are inappropriate and can be considered abuse. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I am a 11 year old boy and I live with my mom and step dad. Yesterday I got in trouble at school because we had an essay due and I finished it but when I turned it in my teacher emailed my mom saying that I copied my essay off of a website and that was half true because I only copied 2 paragraphs off of the internet but then after my step dad started spanking me then he called me outside(it was like 9:30 and I was freezing in my underwear) he told me to do 10 push-ups then when I was done he told me to do 50 squats and he told me to do that 10 times when I was done with everything he gave me a brick and told me to do 100 squats and when I was at 81 I messed up the count and he told me to start over. I probably did like 700 squats that night and when he said I could go back inside he told me to carry two bricks in the house everywhere i go and it’s already starting to make my arms ache and they took away all of my devices except my school computer which is what I’m typing this on and said I won’t get it back until June and they said if I keep this up their going to send me to military school

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello, and thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a very challenging time at home, and facing a lack of support from your mom when you could really use it. That must be awful, and it’s a good thing that you’re reaching out looking for support and asking about ways to take care of yourself right now.

    It sounds like your mom is being very emotionally, medically and educationally neglectful toward you, and it makes sense that you’re feeling unsupported in your goals and and concerned for your wellbeing. No one deserves to be spoken to that way, particularly not in the wake of being raped, which is never your fault. It sounds like you know that you don’t deserve this hurtful treatment from her or anyone.

    It makes sense that you’re feeling traumatized by both her treatment, and the way your father has yelled at you and physically abused you in the past as well. None of that is OK, and you don’t have to go through this alone. We at the NRS are available as a confidential, anonymous hotline 24/7 that you can all or chat us any time to talk about what’s been going on, and discuss options you have for making sure that you are safe getting your needs met, educationally and health-wise. You can contact us any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We can help you make a plan for what to do next.

    If you’d like to report the abuse you’ve been experiencing at home, you can contact ChildHelp at (1-800) 422-4453. If you’d like help making a report or discussing how that would impact, we are available to talk you through it as well. it makes sense that you’re feeling afraid to contact CPS to report the abuse you’re experiencing, and worried about the consequences. It also makes sense that you feel like you have to. You want to take care of yourself and feel safe as you plan for the future. We at the NRS can talk through your options around that and make a plan for where to go, if you feel unsafe at home.

    It’s never OK for someone to blame you for being raped. If you’d like to talk to someone about the violence you experienced and how to get mental and medical support around that, you can contact RAINN, the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network, at 800.656.HOPE (4673).

    You deserve to feel safe where you live, supported by your family in achieving your goals, and able to access the medical care and education that you need to be healthy and pursue your professional goals. You don’t deserve to be yelled at, punished for being raped, or threatened or hit. You don’t have to go through this alone; feel free to reach out to us or another hotline looking for support any time. Good luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 17 and the oldest of 5 kids. My mom is a covert narcissist so she is very controlling and needs people to be dependent on her.
    My mom has neglected me medically, emotionally, and sometimes physically.
    However, my main concern at this moment is educational neglect. My home is not a healthy place for me and college is the only way out of it, so I plan to go next year. Here is the educational situation:
    She homeschooled me my whole life, but apparently starting in kindergarten, I was too "rebellious" for her to teach me, and I would cry when she taught me school. So she gave up on me and left me to learn my own material at 6 years old. She would provide me with curriculum, but I was fully teaching myself K-7th grade and was two years behind. I had gone years of my childhood without even picking up a school book. I wasn't able to teach myself anymore and was behind, so when I turned 14 I begged her to put me in public high school. I told my parents my concerns about how I am not being socialized, and how I barley have a real education. Both her and my dad screamed at me and yelled for me even asking the question. They wouldn't let me go. They said in one year they will consider it. One more year with no education came around, and they finally agreed to put me in high school, but the school said they would have to start me a year behind as a freshmen. My parents thought it would be a better idea to put me, a 15 year old, in community college instead. They put me in community college and I struggled because I barely had a prior education. I had never wrote an essay before and only knew basic math. I also got raped twice in college.

    During quarantine home was very hard because my parents are emotionally and verbally abusive. My dad used to be physically abusive, but he has changed and hasn't done that in years, but I am still traumatized by it, and when they yell I have dissociative episodes. It got really bad, so I decided to run away a month ago. I ran away from Maryland to Texas on a plane to one of my best friend's house. When my mom found out, she called his mom and told her to "beat," "slap," "hit," and "punch" me.
    Obviously his mom did none of those things and thinks my mom is crazy.
    The police brought me back in 12 hours. When I got back home, my parents also found out I was raped. My mom was furious at me and screamed at me for it. She said it was my decision to be around boys so that's why I got raped. Basically blamed me for getting raped by two, much older, boys, in the college her and my dad put me in. She also asked another friend of mine's parents to punish her (my friend) because she knew about the rapes, and did not tell my mom.

    In a rage of anger, she called the cops in the middle of the night without telling me, and I had to give a report. She didn't do that because she cared, it was a punishment. She also takes my phone regularly as punishment for getting raped, and took me out of community college because, by getting raped, I "lost my privilege"--not because it would keep me safe from rapists or anything-- it was only a punishment. She pulled me out of community college the two days before my online classes started--If i had finished that semester I would have had my associates and high school diploma by the end of it. She then put me back in homeschool, but is withholding my transcripts from me because she found out my plan to move out next year. She doesn't want me to leave the house so she refuses to write my transcripts. I don't know what classes I need to take to graduate high school if I have no transcript. She also threatened to, as my teacher, not sign me into any college if i move out.
    I will pay for my own 10 year college (i need a phd for my degree), but my dad won't let me get a job.

    Don't worry, she treats my siblings very differently and has enrolled some of them in public school, and an actual homeschool education with real online teachers. My siblings are very safe, and treated very well. It is just me that she treats this way because I am her first child. She is very controlling and if she doesn't give me my transcripts soon, I cannot graduate high school and go to a real college.
    I don't know what to do. My situation would be so so much worse if I call cps because I would be in a ton of trouble, so i am scared to call them, but I feel like I have to.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there, thank you for reaching out to NRS,
    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom’s boyfriend. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. It is certainly possible that you would be placed with your dad despite his disability, or it might be that your mom’s boyfriend ends up getting counseling or mandatory rehab or he can’t be around you without your mom present.
    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support. If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, my name is ****
    mom not sure what to do. My moms boyfriend is verbally abusive he smokes weed which is illegal in my state. he is an alcoholic. He calls me a skank and stuff like that. He has 2 sons and one of them I fell in love with and now my mom doesn’t trust me. His other son snitches on me and tells his dad that I do nasty stuff when I don’t. My dad is disabled and blind so he can’t take care of us. Should I call cps or will they not let me see my mom anymore. Would they let me live with my disabled dad. I’m 15. Please help.
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 02-01-2021, 11:30 PM.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,



    We are so glad you reached out to us. You are juggling a lot between both houses and not feeling safe or cared for in either. We appreciate you caring about how your siblings are treated as well. We want what is best for you and your siblings and can help talk you through your options.



    You mentioned your sister may be having suicidal thoughts. If she has those thoughts, you can encourage her to call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.



    Additionally for your sister, as well as you and the rest of your siblings, we can help connect you with counseling services so you can care for your mental health during this difficult time.



    Lastly, you mentioned considering calling CPS but not wanting to go live with your dad or be identified. We're glad you've thought through the pros and cons of each and what could potentially happen. Unfortunately, there is no way for you to remain anonymous. We can help you make the call, however, if you feel more comfortable that way.



    You could also start to consider a family member you would feel safe with and see if they would be willing to let you stay with them in an alternative living arrangement. Your parents would still be your legal guardians but you would simply live in another house.



    We want you to know that we care about your safety and that you have options. We encourage you to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us at 1800runaway.org anytime, 24/7, so that we can help go over your situation in more detail.



    Stay strong and safe and we hope to hear from you soon.
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