Calling CPS on my parents..?

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It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. You don't deserve to be talked bad about, screamed at, have your property destroyed or have your feelings dismissed. You are able to report her to CPS, but that does not guarantee that she will be taken away.





Some options we have to help at 1800Runaway are to be a mediator where we could do a 3 way call with you, her and even your father. We are also mandated reporters and if you tell us her name, your address, your name and details, we can also report any sort of abuse. We have resources we can connect you with as well, such as counseling. We are here for you if you need us at 1800-RUNAWAY or 1800Runaway.org.



We wish you the best of luck.

hi so im a 17 year old from sc, im doing research rn to figure out whether i can get myself out of this trauma ive been taking for the last 6 years. so my mother died when i was in 6th grade and my dad found a new woman, she was cool for like the first few months then after awhile she started to tell me that my family didnt care about me anymore and that they didnt love me and would lie to my dad saying she didnt say that and stuff and id cry to my dad asking him to believe me and he wouldnt. after a year we moved into another house and thats when i started my 8th grade year and this is where it got worse, shed yell at me every day constantly throwing a fit over the tiniest things and would talk nasty about me to her friends over the phone and to her family members calling me names and would tell my dad how he doesnt parent me the right way and that he needs to correct me and that she has to do everything in the house. i complained more to my dad and eventually they broke up for one night because of it, then she came back and it was even worse blaming me for it and everything got harder on me and i was getting my stuff taken away for no reason, my room tore apart and things like that so i couldn’t take it anymore and i ran away and wanted to stay at a friends house and then she called the cops on me and i tried explaining i don’t understand why she treats me the way she does but then calls the cops on me for running away as if she wants me here after all the times telling me shes kicking me out the house when im 18. eventually i got kicked out the house because i left one day and i came back home and the door was locked and they wouldnt let me back in, so i slept at a friends house and the next morning i came back they kicked me out and i stayed at a friends house for 3 months before i ended up going back home, when i came back home my dad and i had a little moment and cried and he offered for me to work with him and stuff and we got a little closer, i told him how she treated me and he was like “idk man idk man” and they got into an argument because i kept complaining about the way she talked to me and treated me, they broke up and she took all his money and ******** and my dad wanted it back so they got back together and she continued to treat me that way, then we moved to the place we currently live in hhi for a “restart” and she was doing good at first, she was on medication for whatever made her angry and stuff but then she got off and now is even worse throwing my stuff around in my room, taking my things, calling me names to my face and to her friends and family, yelling at me. my 15 year old sister doesnt get any treatment like this she takes her out to eat and buys her clothes and stuff and is really nice to her but treats me like total crap. so is this like child neglect/ verbal abuse or what can i report her for to get her away from me?

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Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us again. We're so sorry to hear that your mom and her girlfriend treat you the way that they do. It sounds like there are a lot of double standards going on at home, and that's not right. We are also so sorry that you did not feel supported the last time you reached out to us. We want to make it right, and we're here to listen and to share what we know to help you out as much as we can.

Would you be willing to reach back out to us? You can talk to a real person who is kind and compassionate and ready to help talk you through things. We can help you make a plan that makes the most sense for you to keep you safe and happy. We also can help you talk to your mom and do a conference call with her to help you understand what you're coming from. If you feel like you are being abused at home, we can help you with this too. We can help talk you through the abuse reporting process and share what might happen if you do choose to file.

Again, we're here for you even if you just need to vent or talk through things. The NRS is available 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We hope to hear from you soon, best of luck!
-NRS Crisis Team

im a 14 year old girl that lives in florida...idk why im still here at this point... i get yelled at for everything, i get told to change because according to my moms gf "the clothes need to be matching when i go out with her" and i can never figure out how to express my anger bc i cant stomp my foot on the floor bc we have neighbors that live under us and i cant yell at her bc she will yell at me and ill get in trouble and i cant bang my fist on things like she does bc ill get in trouble for doing that too... she yells at me and nitpicks about everything and i cant have my room the way i want it and she called me an idiot at one point... before we went in for open house... i really need to get away from her but my mom says we arent moving... i put a post up about a year ago and what you guys said didnt help me at all...

pls help, i really need to get away from her, this has been going on for 6 yrs and im tired of being emotanally and verbally abused

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Hi,

We are glad you reached out to us for help. There is a lot of change in your life right now. It is totally normal to feel overwhelmed with these issues. It is also very common for depression to return in very stressful situations like you describe. Calling CPS is certainly a reasonable option based on what you have told us in the post. However, there are other options you may want to consider as well.

We would like to talk with you about those options and the best next steps for you to handle everything you are dealing with if you decide calling CPS is the best plan for you. You can reach us either through a chat on our website or on a call at our crisis hotline 1(800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and completely confidential.

We hope to hear from you soon.

NRS

Im a 16 year old girl. Ive recently had trouble with my parents. Ive been expelled from school and everything was taken away from me. My relationship, phones, no privacy. I dont feel safe at home. My parents are hispanic. Both mom and dad are abusive. On July 4 of 2023, i had a chemical pregnancy. A miscarriage. It was very hard for me. i have no contact with my boyfriend. My parents dont want me around him and hes almsot 18. Now that im not pregnant anymore, my mom abuised me and made me do things. My dad wanted me to overdose with pills to kill my baby. I was only 2 weeks pregnant but it happend naturally. Ive been diagnosed with server depresstion 3 years ago. It started to come back. my life is empty. I want to call CPS on my mom and dad for what they say and do to me but im scared what will happen since I'm still a minior, i have 2 years till I'm 18. I dont know what will happen.

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Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad that you are reaching out for help. It sounds like you are going through an extremely difficult time right now with life at home with your mom. We are sorry to hear that home isn’t a place where you feel supported and loved and it sounds like not many people may understand what you are going through with mom at home alone. It seems like this affecting you to the point that it’s harming your mental health – and for that, we are so sorry and our hearts go out to you.

Perhaps consider ways that you could possibly spend less time at home (like an afterschool program, sports team, volunteer experience, job and such). A helpful resource may be a school counselor who may know of these resources both at school and in your community. You mentioned calling CPS on your parents. Although we are not legal experts, we can help support you with that as we would need to file an abuse report and chat a little with you about what has been going on at home specifically—we can help you with that if you contact us through phone call or our online chat. We can also discuss possible shelters or living programs in your area but often those places require parental permission to stay if you are under the age of 16 years old.

In the meantime, to offer a helpful mental health support group, we recommend trying NAMI at nami.org or call 1-800-950-6264. Also, if you ever feel like harming yourself or ending your life, please dial out to 988 or visit 988lifeline.org/

We are here for you. If you would like to reach out to use to talk more in detail, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

Please tell me what i should do

So, I'm young, please don't mind my grammar at the moment I am not in the correct state. I am getting into arguments with my mom often more then usual and she is making me suicidal, she makes everything about her whenever I need to vent, she doesn't understand that she's making my depression worse. when she yelled at me for not bringing in a stick for a project I didn't do It because i would be made fun of. Then the day after my mom says "look ___ brought a stick" but she doesn't understand that every likes that person, they think shes nice but for me i would have rumors spread around and my mom doesn't understand that was only today and i already tried to commit because of my mom and I don't know what to do anymore so any advice?/

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Hi, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are being mistreated by your stepmom and that you are wanting to know if you should contact CPS or not. That decision is totally up to you, though it sounds like they have been contacted in the past and nothing has happened. It’s understandable to want to be out of the house as it seems like a frustrating situation. It could be helpful to talk to another trusted adult about this and see if they can help in anyway. We also want to make a note that running away is a status offense, meaning it is only illegal because you are under 18. We are here 24/7 if you would like to talk more about what’s going on.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi, I’m 13 and live in Florida and I need to know if I should call CPS on my stepmom, she is constantly yelling, getting in my face, taking my electronics away for small things, and threating to take my stuff out of my room, she has threatened me before, multiple times, and CPS has already come to our house twice, but they did nothing. I’ve been going thru this for almost 6 years now, and I can't handle it mentally and emotionally anymore. I feel like running away from home to my friend’s house, but it’s illegal but I really can’t handle it anymore.

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Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are glad you found us online and felt comfortable reaching out for help. We are here to listen and provide support. We are very sorry that your mom is hitting and threatening you. You do not deserve to be treated this way, especially not by your parent. Please know we are here to offer support to the best of our ability. It sounds like you are trying to figure out a way to report what’s been happening and aren’t sure how to. You do have a right to make an abuse report. While we recognize this may seem a bit frightening, we are here to guide you through the reporting process. There is Child Help USA https://www.childhelp.org/ which helps children and youth experiencing abuse. We can also locate local resources such as emergency shelters for runaway and homeless youth if we know your city/state.

Feel free to reach out to us directly to continue talking about your situation and explore possible options. You can contact us through our Live Chat or by calling our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY which is 24/7. We hope you are able to stay as safe as possible while you working through things. Best of luck to you!



-NRS

Alright, I don't know if this is the place where I need to post things, but hopefully this is it. I'm a 13 year old girl, and my mom is the worst. She hits me, (four scars on my right leg by fingernails, bruise on my head from a phone, marks on my legs from hitting my with a clothes hanger, etc. Most of them healed, however since I have been trying my best not to push her buttons), literally threatened me with a knife THIS MORNING (along with multiple other threats of smashing my head open, cutting my hair off, telling me to go and kill myself, etc), and my dad does nothing about this, since my mom could kick him out anytime she wants to. She gets mad at me for the littlest things, like: refusing to put on more clothes, spending more time in the bathroom because apparently I can't enjoy myself before school, and she thought I mocked her JUST BECAUSE I PRONOUNCED A WORD WRONG! I don't know what to do, as most of my relatives are in Korea, and I can't speak Korean that well as it is, and my dad is a lazy couch potato that doesn't even have a job and is waist-deep in government school debt. My mom has also threatened to take my phone before school, so now I'm scared that there's a chance that she's going to look through my texts and see the video that I recorded of her yelling at me. She already isn't afraid to leave scars on me and threaten to kill me, I'm afraid that this might push her over the edge and cause her to do terrible, terrible things to me.

What do I do?

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Hi there,



Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry that you have been dealing with this treatment from your stepmom for so long. It can definitely be scary and frustrating to experience all of this and we want you to know that you do not deserve any of it. Would you be willing to have a conversation either just with your stepmom or with your whole family about this situation? Your voice and opinions are very important, so we want to make sure that your family is aware of how these words and actions are making you feel. If you want to talk more specifically about your situation or other places you can go if you are feeling unsafe, you can always reach out to us 24/7 at 1800runaway.org or at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you the best!



Warmly,

NRS

Hi, am a 13-year-old from North Carolina, but I now live in Florida. I am looking for advice about what to do about my stepmom. She has been doing these horrible things to me for 5 years now. Below I am putting an excerpt of what has happened recently. She told me that if I were going to disrespect her then I could get out of the house. Meanwhile she was screaming at me. She was also bad-mouthing my family. If I were an adult she would be on the ground. Nobody and I mean nobody bad-mouth my family and gets away with it. She was also bullying me too, she was laughing at me and calling me a 5-year-old for stomping my foot because was mad. She tells me to stop singing when she is watching tv, meanwhile I must practice for chorus. This next sentence is the threats that she has made and what she has done to me. What she has done to me: pushed me into a wall, locked me outside (twice), picked me up and “tossed” me onto my bed, taken my stuffed animals and blankets off my bed, yanked me off the toilet just to scream and get in my face while screaming, slapped me to where I wanted to punch her in the face, and last but sadly not least, dumped me out of a chair to try and make me go to my room. Threats she had made. “I’ll smash Ur electronics” bc I was playing my ds at night bc I couldn’t sleep “if u put a hole in the wall ill put a hole in Ur head” bc I stomped my foot bc I was mad at her “if u knock that tv over ill break Ur head” and the last threat she said bc I was trying to get to my baby cousin and my uncles house. She said it around my cousin, his mom and my uncle and they did not do anything. My stepmom is evil. And my mom does not do anything about any of this. I need advice on what I should do.

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Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

Since you have already contacted CPS, if possible, you can contact the social worker that came to the home and let him/her know how your father is acting towards you and your sister. What you have described seems like neglect and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file another report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. Also, if you’re able to, you can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report or discuss the options you have in regards to your home situation. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.




Best of luck!

NRS