Calling CPS on my parents..?

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Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad that you are reaching out for help. It sounds like you are going through an extremely difficult time right now with life at home with your mom. We are sorry to hear that home isn’t a place where you feel supported and loved and it sounds like not many people may understand what you are going through with mom at home alone. It seems like this affecting you to the point that it’s harming your mental health – and for that, we are so sorry and our hearts go out to you.

Perhaps consider ways that you could possibly spend less time at home (like an afterschool program, sports team, volunteer experience, job and such). A helpful resource may be a school counselor who may know of these resources both at school and in your community. You mentioned calling CPS on your parents. Although we are not legal experts, we can help support you with that as we would need to file an abuse report and chat a little with you about what has been going on at home specifically—we can help you with that if you contact us through phone call or our online chat. We can also discuss possible shelters or living programs in your area but often those places require parental permission to stay if you are under the age of 16 years old.

In the meantime, to offer a helpful mental health support group, we recommend trying NAMI at nami.org or call 1-800-950-6264. Also, if you ever feel like harming yourself or ending your life, please dial out to 988 or visit 988lifeline.org/

We are here for you. If you would like to reach out to use to talk more in detail, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

Please tell me what i should do

So, I'm young, please don't mind my grammar at the moment I am not in the correct state. I am getting into arguments with my mom often more then usual and she is making me suicidal, she makes everything about her whenever I need to vent, she doesn't understand that she's making my depression worse. when she yelled at me for not bringing in a stick for a project I didn't do It because i would be made fun of. Then the day after my mom says "look ___ brought a stick" but she doesn't understand that every likes that person, they think shes nice but for me i would have rumors spread around and my mom doesn't understand that was only today and i already tried to commit because of my mom and I don't know what to do anymore so any advice?/

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Hi, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are being mistreated by your stepmom and that you are wanting to know if you should contact CPS or not. That decision is totally up to you, though it sounds like they have been contacted in the past and nothing has happened. It’s understandable to want to be out of the house as it seems like a frustrating situation. It could be helpful to talk to another trusted adult about this and see if they can help in anyway. We also want to make a note that running away is a status offense, meaning it is only illegal because you are under 18. We are here 24/7 if you would like to talk more about what’s going on.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi, I’m 13 and live in Florida and I need to know if I should call CPS on my stepmom, she is constantly yelling, getting in my face, taking my electronics away for small things, and threating to take my stuff out of my room, she has threatened me before, multiple times, and CPS has already come to our house twice, but they did nothing. I’ve been going thru this for almost 6 years now, and I can't handle it mentally and emotionally anymore. I feel like running away from home to my friend’s house, but it’s illegal but I really can’t handle it anymore.

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Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are glad you found us online and felt comfortable reaching out for help. We are here to listen and provide support. We are very sorry that your mom is hitting and threatening you. You do not deserve to be treated this way, especially not by your parent. Please know we are here to offer support to the best of our ability. It sounds like you are trying to figure out a way to report what’s been happening and aren’t sure how to. You do have a right to make an abuse report. While we recognize this may seem a bit frightening, we are here to guide you through the reporting process. There is Child Help USA https://www.childhelp.org/ which helps children and youth experiencing abuse. We can also locate local resources such as emergency shelters for runaway and homeless youth if we know your city/state.

Feel free to reach out to us directly to continue talking about your situation and explore possible options. You can contact us through our Live Chat or by calling our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY which is 24/7. We hope you are able to stay as safe as possible while you working through things. Best of luck to you!



-NRS

Alright, I don't know if this is the place where I need to post things, but hopefully this is it. I'm a 13 year old girl, and my mom is the worst. She hits me, (four scars on my right leg by fingernails, bruise on my head from a phone, marks on my legs from hitting my with a clothes hanger, etc. Most of them healed, however since I have been trying my best not to push her buttons), literally threatened me with a knife THIS MORNING (along with multiple other threats of smashing my head open, cutting my hair off, telling me to go and kill myself, etc), and my dad does nothing about this, since my mom could kick him out anytime she wants to. She gets mad at me for the littlest things, like: refusing to put on more clothes, spending more time in the bathroom because apparently I can't enjoy myself before school, and she thought I mocked her JUST BECAUSE I PRONOUNCED A WORD WRONG! I don't know what to do, as most of my relatives are in Korea, and I can't speak Korean that well as it is, and my dad is a lazy couch potato that doesn't even have a job and is waist-deep in government school debt. My mom has also threatened to take my phone before school, so now I'm scared that there's a chance that she's going to look through my texts and see the video that I recorded of her yelling at me. She already isn't afraid to leave scars on me and threaten to kill me, I'm afraid that this might push her over the edge and cause her to do terrible, terrible things to me.

What do I do?

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Hi there,



Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry that you have been dealing with this treatment from your stepmom for so long. It can definitely be scary and frustrating to experience all of this and we want you to know that you do not deserve any of it. Would you be willing to have a conversation either just with your stepmom or with your whole family about this situation? Your voice and opinions are very important, so we want to make sure that your family is aware of how these words and actions are making you feel. If you want to talk more specifically about your situation or other places you can go if you are feeling unsafe, you can always reach out to us 24/7 at 1800runaway.org or at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you the best!



Warmly,

NRS

Hi, am a 13-year-old from North Carolina, but I now live in Florida. I am looking for advice about what to do about my stepmom. She has been doing these horrible things to me for 5 years now. Below I am putting an excerpt of what has happened recently. She told me that if I were going to disrespect her then I could get out of the house. Meanwhile she was screaming at me. She was also bad-mouthing my family. If I were an adult she would be on the ground. Nobody and I mean nobody bad-mouth my family and gets away with it. She was also bullying me too, she was laughing at me and calling me a 5-year-old for stomping my foot because was mad. She tells me to stop singing when she is watching tv, meanwhile I must practice for chorus. This next sentence is the threats that she has made and what she has done to me. What she has done to me: pushed me into a wall, locked me outside (twice), picked me up and “tossed” me onto my bed, taken my stuffed animals and blankets off my bed, yanked me off the toilet just to scream and get in my face while screaming, slapped me to where I wanted to punch her in the face, and last but sadly not least, dumped me out of a chair to try and make me go to my room. Threats she had made. “I’ll smash Ur electronics” bc I was playing my ds at night bc I couldn’t sleep “if u put a hole in the wall ill put a hole in Ur head” bc I stomped my foot bc I was mad at her “if u knock that tv over ill break Ur head” and the last threat she said bc I was trying to get to my baby cousin and my uncles house. She said it around my cousin, his mom and my uncle and they did not do anything. My stepmom is evil. And my mom does not do anything about any of this. I need advice on what I should do.

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Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

Since you have already contacted CPS, if possible, you can contact the social worker that came to the home and let him/her know how your father is acting towards you and your sister. What you have described seems like neglect and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file another report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. Also, if you’re able to, you can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report or discuss the options you have in regards to your home situation. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.




Best of luck!

NRS

I am a 13-year-old teenager, about a month or so ago. I called CPS on my parents since they physically abused me. So CPS came and for the most part helped with the physical abuse part. But then, my dad started becoming extremely cold and passive-aggressive towards me. By taking away my privileges. The reason I believe he did this is that he thought I didn't "appreciate" him for parenting me because I called CPS. So now he is trying to give me the silent treatment so I can "appreciate" him more. Before I called, he would cook a simple dish for me for breakfast and take us to school in his car. Then he stopped by making us use the school bus and instead just microwaving bread/leftovers. He also locks himself in his room all day long.

Basically long story short. My dad is trying to do less for me and my sister because he thinks we do not appreciate him because I called CPS on him. I don't know what to do.

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl and I've been really confused lately. I'm unaware of what to do. My parents are verbally abusive, on school days, they will yell at me to get up, and if i dont get up quickly enough, theyll start yelling at me more. about two weeks ago, i got grounded for having bad grades. I wanted to text my friends, telling them I wouldnt be able to talk for awhile, considering id be grounded, so i took my phone from my parents room and started texting some people. My dad came into my room and saw me with my phone. He started yelling, telling me I dont listen. He graddes my phone and ran outside with it, then smashed it on the concrete and stomped on it multiple times. I now have no way of ever contacting my online friends again. My parents told me that I can get another phone when Im 18. My friends were like my therapists. My life at home has never been great, and i would always talk to them about it. I used to slit my wrists because my parents are so horrible to me. My dad had even ripped my door off in a fit of rage, screaming, "you dont get to have privacy anymore". My life has been really hard lately and ive strongly considered ending it. Im only in 8th grade, I shouldnt have to deal with this stuff at my age. I constantly get comments about my body from my parents. Im not really overweight, but I have really large breasts for my age, and my parents sometimes make fun of me for it. I feel so uncomfortable in my body. Even my school bus driver will comment on my body and hit on me. I dont know what to do. My home doesnt feel like home anymore, and i havent felt genuine happiness for quite awhile. What do i do.

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Hello,



Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline today. We’re very sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult situation at home. Please know that you truly deserve to feel safe and supported in your own home and family. It sounds like your stepmom isn’t taking your feelings into consideration when she yells at you. Are you comfortable talking with your dad about how she makes your feel? It might be a start to opening a dialogue within your home.



It must be difficult to deal with undiagnosed anxiety. If you’re interested, you can check out the website for NAMI,the National Alliance for Mental Illness. They have a lot of supportive information as well as help and text lines.

You can also contact us directly, either by phone, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or on a digital chat via our website, www.1800RUNAWAY.org. Both are available 24 hours a day/7 days a week. We are here to listen and to help. We hope to hear from you soon.



Take care,

Hi my parent isn't that great to start off my parents are devoriced. So they make every desition about my life including when I get to see my mom . That isn't the bad part my stepmom is the bad part. She is constantly yelling at me for everything including health issues. Because of this I have anxiety I have never gotten diagnosed but kind of knew from my first panic attack. Everytime she yells at me it makes me feel more and more useless. It doesn't help that I can't tell anyone this for fear of her getting mad at me for it. She has never hurt me besides yelling at me. But as you can see it has taken a toll on my mental state. I don't know what to do anymore because she gets to mad at me and my siblings. Except one my little brother. My stepmom had him with my dad after the devorice so he is the only "real child" in the whole group he gets special treatment in everything. Including snacks see us "big kids " get things like apples and bananas that everyone can have but my little brother gets his own snacks that "no one can have" This sometimes means I have to go hungry because the snacks arent filling enough. We all get fed the same meals but my brother still gets special lunch food too. On top of all of this my little brother barley gets yelled at but he still does because sometimes he doesn't like to do things. In the end it is a toss up because sometimes my stepmom is nice and sometimes really mean . I don't know what to do because it herts me every day .

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing what's going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. You mentioned that you don't feel safe at home; if you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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