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**Guest** · 01-02-2021, 12:22 PM

I'm a 15 year old guy, and my parents are in their early forties. for about four years now my parents have treated me much worse than my siblings and I just want out, but I also feel like I'm overreacting about this and If I tell anyone about this then my parents are gonna hear and things are gonna get worse. for about three years until about a year ago my mom would hit me over the dumbest things and call me a baby when crying cause she's hitting me for reasons such as not eating all of dinner because I'm full and locking me In the garage because of it. things just as drastic as this have happened until about a year ago when we recently moved and my mom was joking about my bad Spanish (she's fluent) based on my bad grades. when I leave the room to escape her laughing with my dad at me she pulls my ear pretty hard so I lightly brush It off and say that It hurt. She screams at me saying I hit her and just starts slapping me and yelling and saying how disrespectful I am and other things I can't remember. after about an hour of screaming at me for "hitting" her I finally start yelling back and after about an hour or two she, for the first time ever, was reluctantly convinced that hitting me wasn't okay, but was Insistent that I had hit her, which I'd never do since that's what happens If I do. after that night, I don't think she's hit me since but she's found other ways of making me feel awful such as random comments of belittlement and random sparks of bad attitude that lead to the whole family having a trashy day. I In the past year have turned to online friends since I rarely get to see IRL friends anymore since I'm constantly grounded. and I've gotten Into the habit of waking up late doing everything I'm told to do, even If It's never enough, and wait until everyone Is asleep so I can hang out with people I enjoy being with. Anytime they catch me staying up even If it's Christmas break or a Saturday and I wake up on time they only care about the fact that I'm choosing to talk to people when no one else Is around. The reason being that I can't be myself around my parents, my feelings are denied and I don't believe In a lot of wat they do which Is fine but It turns to judgmental belittling about topics that apply to me and when I try to talk about It I get screamed at and told that It isn't how I feel or whatever the case may be. I've had a panic attack at school before and when I told my mom on the drive home she without question laughed and said that I didn't, didn't even ask me anything. most of the tension between me and my parents stems from me being up and my trash grades which aren't getting better and I've resorted to just not doing It properly because I realized I'm wasting my time. My mom Is generally the worse parent but as soon as I mess up or forget something or anything my dad Is the one to make my head hurt by screaming. I genuinely care about them and have tried to connect with them through things I enjoy doing such as card games but ultimately end up having them yell at me cause of a rule and leave the table. My siblings are pretty great In general tbh and I'm super glad that I have them. I don't know If calling CPS Is the right thing plus I don't wanna ruin the family or cause them to be unable to keep a job and make life for my five siblings as bad as how they treated me or worse. I want a peaceful way out but I doubt that's even possible.

**Guest** · 01-17-2021, 07:31 PM

im a 13 year old transgender boy from Atlanta, my parents are awful to me. they're unsupportive and refuse to listen to my psychiatrist and therapist. they constantly nit pick at me for every little thing whether its my appearance, something i say, the way i act, etc. they've prompted my self harm, suicidal thoughts, and thoughts of running away. my dad put a hole in the wall behind my door from slamming it open and he's gone thru my room and thrown everything away. my mom threw all my clothes away and bought girls clothes that she keeps in her bedroom. they made me take out my lip ring, and change my appearance to how they want it to be. i have little contact with any of my friends. they wont even let me shower on my own, because they dont trust me. CPS has been called on them before and i want them to take me away so badly. i hate it here, i just want an escape. at this point i feel my only options are the get CPS called on them again, run away, or commit suicide. i feel unsafe and extremely unhappy here, i have no privacy at all even online and im not allowed to have a social life. i want help, im scared.

**Guest** · 01-21-2021, 07:00 PM

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl.
I have a split family. I go between my mom’s house and my dad’s house. Things are not so good at home right now and I’m trying to find a way to help resolve some of these problems. At my dads house, 3 of my cousins live there because my grandma has custody of them and she lives with my dad. I have a sister, who also goes between my mom and dads house. My dads house is a 3 bedroom house, with 5+ kids... leaving me and my sister with no bedroom and no bed to sleep in when we are there. My grandma is an alcoholic, she drinks nearly every night and yells and takes her anger out on the kids and I.
At my mom’s house, my mom is severely abusive to myself and my 3 siblings in a verbal way. She expects us to do 7+ hours of online school everyday, AND have the entire house cleaned up before she gets home from work. When she gets home, she sits down and watches television with my step dad for the rest of the night, and does nothing to help us kids. She plays victim when one of us call her out on her wrong doing, and yells and screams at us. She has even told me to go live with my dad because she “couldn’t handle” me anymore. She has told my 11 year old sister that she is a scum bag, and has said so many more terrible things to my sister leaving my sister severely depressed. My sister posted something on her Snapchat story saying “Kill me, I just want to ********ing die” because of the way my mom and step dad were treating her at the time, and when i showed my mom she just brushed it off and went about her day like it didn’t matter. My 16 year old brother had a very bad mental breakdown today, and was crying when my mom came home from work... And instead of comforting him, my mom told him to “stop looking for sympathy”. There was a situation about a year ago, where my mom and I had gotten into a disagreement, leading me to threaten leaving the house, and my mom said to me “Bye felica!”, leaving me very hurt and i felt very uncared for and unwanted. My 13 year old sister has a dog that is not even a year old yet. When the dog uses the bathroom in the house, my mom and step dad yell at my sister for it and hit the dog so hard that he yelps.
I am debating on turning my mother in to CPS, but I would want it to be anonymously and I’m not sure how that would work.
Also, if I turn her in and CPS decides that we should not be on her care, I do NOT want to go to my dads, and I will NOT go to my dads where my alcoholic grandmother lives, and where I have no bedroom or no bed. So I am worried about where I would be placed.

please. give me advice. there is so much more that is going on but i do not want to get into it right now.

**Guest** · 02-01-2021, 05:49 PM

Hi, my name is ****
mom not sure what to do. My moms boyfriend is verbally abusive he smokes weed which is illegal in my state. he is an alcoholic. He calls me a skank and stuff like that. He has 2 sons and one of them I fell in love with and now my mom doesn’t trust me. His other son snitches on me and tells his dad that I do nasty stuff when I don’t. My dad is disabled and blind so he can’t take care of us. Should I call cps or will they not let me see my mom anymore. Would they let me live with my disabled dad. I’m 15. Please help.

**Guest** · 02-23-2021, 09:17 PM

I am 17 and the oldest of 5 kids. My mom is a covert narcissist so she is very controlling and needs people to be dependent on her.
My mom has neglected me medically, emotionally, and sometimes physically.
However, my main concern at this moment is educational neglect. My home is not a healthy place for me and college is the only way out of it, so I plan to go next year. Here is the educational situation:
She homeschooled me my whole life, but apparently starting in kindergarten, I was too "rebellious" for her to teach me, and I would cry when she taught me school. So she gave up on me and left me to learn my own material at 6 years old. She would provide me with curriculum, but I was fully teaching myself K-7th grade and was two years behind. I had gone years of my childhood without even picking up a school book. I wasn't able to teach myself anymore and was behind, so when I turned 14 I begged her to put me in public high school. I told my parents my concerns about how I am not being socialized, and how I barley have a real education. Both her and my dad screamed at me and yelled for me even asking the question. They wouldn't let me go. They said in one year they will consider it. One more year with no education came around, and they finally agreed to put me in high school, but the school said they would have to start me a year behind as a freshmen. My parents thought it would be a better idea to put me, a 15 year old, in community college instead. They put me in community college and I struggled because I barely had a prior education. I had never wrote an essay before and only knew basic math. I also got raped twice in college.

During quarantine home was very hard because my parents are emotionally and verbally abusive. My dad used to be physically abusive, but he has changed and hasn't done that in years, but I am still traumatized by it, and when they yell I have dissociative episodes. It got really bad, so I decided to run away a month ago. I ran away from Maryland to Texas on a plane to one of my best friend's house. When my mom found out, she called his mom and told her to "beat," "slap," "hit," and "punch" me.
Obviously his mom did none of those things and thinks my mom is crazy.
The police brought me back in 12 hours. When I got back home, my parents also found out I was raped. My mom was furious at me and screamed at me for it. She said it was my decision to be around boys so that's why I got raped. Basically blamed me for getting raped by two, much older, boys, in the college her and my dad put me in. She also asked another friend of mine's parents to punish her (my friend) because she knew about the rapes, and did not tell my mom.

In a rage of anger, she called the cops in the middle of the night without telling me, and I had to give a report. She didn't do that because she cared, it was a punishment. She also takes my phone regularly as punishment for getting raped, and took me out of community college because, by getting raped, I "lost my privilege"--not because it would keep me safe from rapists or anything-- it was only a punishment. She pulled me out of community college the two days before my online classes started--If i had finished that semester I would have had my associates and high school diploma by the end of it. She then put me back in homeschool, but is withholding my transcripts from me because she found out my plan to move out next year. She doesn't want me to leave the house so she refuses to write my transcripts. I don't know what classes I need to take to graduate high school if I have no transcript. She also threatened to, as my teacher, not sign me into any college if i move out.
I will pay for my own 10 year college (i need a phd for my degree), but my dad won't let me get a job.

Don't worry, she treats my siblings very differently and has enrolled some of them in public school, and an actual homeschool education with real online teachers. My siblings are very safe, and treated very well. It is just me that she treats this way because I am her first child. She is very controlling and if she doesn't give me my transcripts soon, I cannot graduate high school and go to a real college.
I don't know what to do. My situation would be so so much worse if I call cps because I would be in a ton of trouble, so i am scared to call them, but I feel like I have to.

**Guest** · 03-16-2021, 05:33 PM

Hi I am a 11 year old boy and I live with my mom and step dad. Yesterday I got in trouble at school because we had an essay due and I finished it but when I turned it in my teacher emailed my mom saying that I copied my essay off of a website and that was half true because I only copied 2 paragraphs off of the internet but then after my step dad started spanking me then he called me outside(it was like 9:30 and I was freezing in my underwear) he told me to do 10 push-ups then when I was done he told me to do 50 squats and he told me to do that 10 times when I was done with everything he gave me a brick and told me to do 100 squats and when I was at 81 I messed up the count and he told me to start over. I probably did like 700 squats that night and when he said I could go back inside he told me to carry two bricks in the house everywhere i go and it’s already starting to make my arms ache and they took away all of my devices except my school computer which is what I’m typing this on and said I won’t get it back until June and they said if I keep this up their going to send me to military school

**Guest** · 03-30-2021, 02:23 PM

Hey my mom is calling me a lying and stuff and I don’t feel safe with her and my mom adopted me so can I move there

**Guest** · 07-07-2021, 11:32 AM

Hi my parent isn't that great to start off my parents are devoriced. So they make every desition about my life including when I get to see my mom . That isn't the bad part my stepmom is the bad part. She is constantly yelling at me for everything including health issues. Because of this I have anxiety I have never gotten diagnosed but kind of knew from my first panic attack. Everytime she yells at me it makes me feel more and more useless. It doesn't help that I can't tell anyone this for fear of her getting mad at me for it. She has never hurt me besides yelling at me. But as you can see it has taken a toll on my mental state. I don't know what to do anymore because she gets to mad at me and my siblings. Except one my little brother. My stepmom had him with my dad after the devorice so he is the only "real child" in the whole group he gets special treatment in everything. Including snacks see us "big kids " get things like apples and bananas that everyone can have but my little brother gets his own snacks that "no one can have" This sometimes means I have to go hungry because the snacks arent filling enough. We all get fed the same meals but my brother still gets special lunch food too. On top of all of this my little brother barley gets yelled at but he still does because sometimes he doesn't like to do things. In the end it is a toss up because sometimes my stepmom is nice and sometimes really mean . I don't know what to do because it herts me every day .

**Guest** · 10-20-2021, 01:55 PM

Hi, I'm a 13 yo girl and I've been really confused lately. I'm unaware of what to do. My parents are verbally abusive, on school days, they will yell at me to get up, and if i dont get up quickly enough, theyll start yelling at me more. about two weeks ago, i got grounded for having bad grades. I wanted to text my friends, telling them I wouldnt be able to talk for awhile, considering id be grounded, so i took my phone from my parents room and started texting some people. My dad came into my room and saw me with my phone. He started yelling, telling me I dont listen. He graddes my phone and ran outside with it, then smashed it on the concrete and stomped on it multiple times. I now have no way of ever contacting my online friends again. My parents told me that I can get another phone when Im 18. My friends were like my therapists. My life at home has never been great, and i would always talk to them about it. I used to slit my wrists because my parents are so horrible to me. My dad had even ripped my door off in a fit of rage, screaming, "you dont get to have privacy anymore". My life has been really hard lately and ive strongly considered ending it. Im only in 8th grade, I shouldnt have to deal with this stuff at my age. I constantly get comments about my body from my parents. Im not really overweight, but I have really large breasts for my age, and my parents sometimes make fun of me for it. I feel so uncomfortable in my body. Even my school bus driver will comment on my body and hit on me. I dont know what to do. My home doesnt feel like home anymore, and i havent felt genuine happiness for quite awhile. What do i do.

**Guest** · 04-10-2022, 05:29 PM

I am a 13-year-old teenager, about a month or so ago. I called CPS on my parents since they physically abused me. So CPS came and for the most part helped with the physical abuse part. But then, my dad started becoming extremely cold and passive-aggressive towards me. By taking away my privileges. The reason I believe he did this is that he thought I didn't "appreciate" him for parenting me because I called CPS. So now he is trying to give me the silent treatment so I can "appreciate" him more. Before I called, he would cook a simple dish for me for breakfast and take us to school in his car. Then he stopped by making us use the school bus and instead just microwaving bread/leftovers. He also locks himself in his room all day long.

Basically long story short. My dad is trying to do less for me and my sister because he thinks we do not appreciate him because I called CPS on him. I don't know what to do.

**ccsmod9** · 04-11-2022, 12:18 PM

Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It takes great courage to reach out for help, and we are glad that you have decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

Since you have already contacted CPS, if possible, you can contact the social worker that came to the home and let him/her know how your father is acting towards you and your sister. What you have described seems like neglect and we are sorry that you are having to go through that. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you do have the right to file another report. One option would be to contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453, and they can help you file a report. Also, if you’re able to, you can also talk to a teacher or school counselor about what is going on at home and they would be able to help with a report or discuss the options you have in regards to your home situation. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be able to help you make a report.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to provide support through this challenging time.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Best of luck!

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**Guest** · 09-12-2022, 01:26 PM

Hi, am a 13-year-old from North Carolina, but I now live in Florida. I am looking for advice about what to do about my stepmom. She has been doing these horrible things to me for 5 years now. Below I am putting an excerpt of what has happened recently. She told me that if I were going to disrespect her then I could get out of the house. Meanwhile she was screaming at me. She was also bad-mouthing my family. If I were an adult she would be on the ground. Nobody and I mean nobody bad-mouth my family and gets away with it. She was also bullying me too, she was laughing at me and calling me a 5-year-old for stomping my foot because was mad. She tells me to stop singing when she is watching tv, meanwhile I must practice for chorus. This next sentence is the threats that she has made and what she has done to me. What she has done to me: pushed me into a wall, locked me outside (twice), picked me up and “tossed” me onto my bed, taken my stuffed animals and blankets off my bed, yanked me off the toilet just to scream and get in my face while screaming, slapped me to where I wanted to punch her in the face, and last but sadly not least, dumped me out of a chair to try and make me go to my room. Threats she had made. “I’ll smash Ur electronics” bc I was playing my ds at night bc I couldn’t sleep “if u put a hole in the wall ill put a hole in Ur head” bc I stomped my foot bc I was mad at her “if u knock that tv over ill break Ur head” and the last threat she said bc I was trying to get to my baby cousin and my uncles house. She said it around my cousin, his mom and my uncle and they did not do anything. My stepmom is evil. And my mom does not do anything about any of this. I need advice on what I should do.

**Guest** · 11-28-2022, 11:55 AM

Alright, I don't know if this is the place where I need to post things, but hopefully this is it. I'm a 13 year old girl, and my mom is the worst. She hits me, (four scars on my right leg by fingernails, bruise on my head from a phone, marks on my legs from hitting my with a clothes hanger, etc. Most of them healed, however since I have been trying my best not to push her buttons), literally threatened me with a knife THIS MORNING (along with multiple other threats of smashing my head open, cutting my hair off, telling me to go and kill myself, etc), and my dad does nothing about this, since my mom could kick him out anytime she wants to. She gets mad at me for the littlest things, like: refusing to put on more clothes, spending more time in the bathroom because apparently I can't enjoy myself before school, and she thought I mocked her JUST BECAUSE I PRONOUNCED A WORD WRONG! I don't know what to do, as most of my relatives are in Korea, and I can't speak Korean that well as it is, and my dad is a lazy couch potato that doesn't even have a job and is waist-deep in government school debt. My mom has also threatened to take my phone before school, so now I'm scared that there's a chance that she's going to look through my texts and see the video that I recorded of her yelling at me. She already isn't afraid to leave scars on me and threaten to kill me, I'm afraid that this might push her over the edge and cause her to do terrible, terrible things to me.

What do I do?

**Guest** · 01-10-2023, 02:59 PM

Hi, I’m 13 and live in Florida and I need to know if I should call CPS on my stepmom, she is constantly yelling, getting in my face, taking my electronics away for small things, and threating to take my stuff out of my room, she has threatened me before, multiple times, and CPS has already come to our house twice, but they did nothing. I’ve been going thru this for almost 6 years now, and I can't handle it mentally and emotionally anymore. I feel like running away from home to my friend’s house, but it’s illegal but I really can’t handle it anymore.

**Guest** · 02-15-2023, 10:04 PM

Please tell me what i should do

So, I'm young, please don't mind my grammar at the moment I am not in the correct state. I am getting into arguments with my mom often more then usual and she is making me suicidal, she makes everything about her whenever I need to vent, she doesn't understand that she's making my depression worse. when she yelled at me for not bringing in a stick for a project I didn't do It because i would be made fun of. Then the day after my mom says "look ___ brought a stick" but she doesn't understand that every likes that person, they think shes nice but for me i would have rumors spread around and my mom doesn't understand that was only today and i already tried to commit because of my mom and I don't know what to do anymore so any advice?/

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