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    So, just to get right to the point, my parents aren't the best. My mom gets verbally abusive to the point to where I want to hurt myself. My dad thinks that I'm faking being depressed and having anxiety even though I take medication for it and I was in a behavioral hospital for suicidal thoughts twice. My step mom is just a horrible person. She critizes my dad's parenting and also thinks that I'm faking being depressed and having anxiety. She gets mad at the stupidest things and throws a literal fit over it and gets violent and starts yelling. She says nasty things to me too. I almost slit my throat today because she said that if she was parenting my little sister and I , she would whoop us and stuff like that . She says that my sister and I basically runs the house. That's not true.
    When I tried to go visit my mom, I got yelled at. I want to fix my mom's and I's relationship, but they thought I only wanted to go see my boyfriend. We were driving to Walmart with my siblings and my dad and step mom were yelling at me the whole time. It was frustrating. It proves they haven't been listening to me.
    I talked to a lady on the suicide help line and she said I could possibly live with my friends or cousin because I am 16, and that a foster home is a last resort option for me.
    But, I'm terrified. I can't talk about anything to my parents anymore without them getting mad. If I call CPS and they don't take the case, things will get even worse! I'm tired of bring treated wrong. I'm strongly considering suicide.

  • #2
    RE: Calling CPS on my parents..?

    Hello there,

    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    We’re really sorry to hear about how you’ve been feeling. We’re also sorry about all the verbal abuse happening too. Remember, abuse of any kind is NOT ok and is NEVER your fault. Thank you for deciding to share your story with us today, we’re really happy you did. It takes a lot of courage to reach out like you did today.

    It sounds like things are really tough right now. It looks like you’ve already called a suicide hotline, but please, continue to do so ANY time you feel like life is getting to be too much. You’re worth saving. Your life is worth living. Don’t let these problems with your father and stepmom steal your future from you.

    The lady on the hotline might be right. You could try and stay with a friend or relative, however we should warn you that sometimes the police could still return you home if your father filed a runaway report with the police. It’s hard to say what the police would do for someone who is close to being 18, but you could call your local police non-emergency number to ask them about their runaway policy. If you’re uncomfortable making that call on your own, you could try calling in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) and we’d be happy to make that call on your behalf.

    You seem to be interested in reporting the abuse, but are worried about the outcome. There are a lot of fears and misconceptions that go along with abuse reporting, so we want to make sure you have the facts. If you take a look at www.childhelp.org, you might be able to learn more about abuse reporting and possible outcomes. If you wanted help filing a report (and you can do so without your parent’s being told it was you), you could try calling in here to us and we’d be able to help.

    We really hope this information help you. Your safety is very important to us. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us if you need any more help.


    Best of luck,
    NRS
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    • #3
      I'm a 14 year old guy and I live with my grandparents who adopted and raised me with an almost perfect life. It's just this pat year has gone to hell and I'm reaching a breaking point. I have a problem with focus and responsibility, and an addiction to video games, though I guess that's normal hearing from friends and peers. The problem is my parents (mainly my mom) take that badly and respond abusively towards me. Just yesterday my dad and I were planning on going to airsoft but I ended up waisting time on my Xbox, which upset my dad and I apologized and took responsibility for. Though my mom decided to yell at me for it after it was discussed already, and that was unnecessary. Later on that evening we were about to eat dinner, and my parents worked very hard on it. I go to ask if I could eat dinner in my room and that's when everything went down. My mom and dad (both drunk) began to yell at me and call me names (spoiled brat, passive aggressive, video game addict, psychotic, immature child, etc.). As if this didn't bother me enough they took it a step further and demanded i give up my phone and and laptops for punishment. Then after me walking around a bit frustrated with this I gave them up. Then they started asking me for my old iPhone 4S (no service but I can text on wifi), which I had lost a while back and don't know where it is. I told them this and of course they accuse me of lying and start to interrogate me. Then they yell louder, team up on me, and start searching my room. This is when my mom stars pushing me, grabbing my arm, and hitting me. I get away from her and don't even try defend myself because I don't want to hurt anyone sine I'm larger than them. Then my mom begins to yell things like (you're such an embarrassment, go live with your birth dad who made you and abandoned you, leave our family, you're a lying little brat child, etc.) and this honestly made me tear up hearing these things. So my mom pushes me on my bed, an my dad throws an open water bottle at me, then grabs pepper spray and threatens me. This whole time they're interrogating me were my iPhone 4S is, which I still have no idea. This is when I try to get out if my room, and my mom pushes me back and hits me. "Get out of my face!" She says. I finally get passed her and run outside and sit on our grass for a while trying to calm down, come to find out my mom locked me out. I find our extra hidden key and let myself in. I tell her I wanna move out and live with my birth dad because I can't deal with this. She says that she'll send me to military school. I try to call family to break up this mess, but my mom grabs me and scratches my arm to take our landline phone away too. I tell her I ought to call the police, and she threatens to take away my phone and delete it forever. So I decide against it not risking that. I go to my room an lock my door, then she yells to unlock it. I say no, because I just want to be left alone and her to stay away. Her and my dad take my door off the hinges and I am left to sleep on my stripped bed (my jeers are wet from the bottle) with an open doorway. My mom checks on me (tries to be sneaky but makes noise and runs off). I am currently sending this through my secret iPod, so this is my last resort. My mom has attacked me for things like this for the past year, and has never owned up to it, blaming me or everything. Please help me.

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      • #4
        Hi there,
        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You deserve to feel loved and respected at home, and know that the treatment that you are enduring is never ok.

        Though we are not legal experts, we are here to help you explore your options moving forward. One option is to report the physical abuse. Resources like ours (1-800-RUNAWAY) and Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453) can help you decide if that is a step you would feel safe taking. Know, however, that many resources, including ours, have mandated reporting policies: they are legally bound to report the abuse if given your name and location. You can always ask if the number you are reaching out to has a mandating reporting policy if you do not feel comfortable abuse reporting. Additionally, contacting the non-emergency police number with hypothetical and anonymous questions is another option to have to gauge the rights of someone in your situation.

        Another option you have is to reach out to a trusted adult, though some adults, including school personnel, may also be mandated reporters. They could support you and help you figure out a plan to find an alternative living arrangement. We offer conference calls

        Finally, you can always reach out to us at the National Runaway Safeline (1-800-RUNAWAY) as we are 24/7, toll-free, and confidential.
        Good luck and stay safe,
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          Im a 14 year old from san antonio and I stay with my dad and stepmom. Im constantly watching my lil sisters. I watch them atleast 5 days out of the week. Im also constantly inside i go out about 1 day out of the week. I hate it and just wanna leave.

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          • ccsmod1
            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hey there,

            Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It makes sense that you'd want the same independence and freedom that others your age have. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

            It sounds like there are some issues in communication between you, your dad, and your stepmom. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your dad and stepmom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

            If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

            Stay safe,
            NRS
            Last edited by ccsmod1; 07-21-2019, 11:54 PM.

        • #6
          Hey so I don't know if this is where i post my questions or my story. I need help. I hate living with my parents. I'm 15 with an 18 year old sister. For a period of time I cried almost everyday whether I got into an argument with a family member or i was just so frustrated. I was diagnosed with anxiety and a mood disorder with depression. I take zoloft and I used to go to therapy, but I hate therapy. Like I tried to talk but i guess im not a talker. I work for my dad and my sister is my manager. My mom works in the school district i go to school in. I don't trust my sister anymore because I snuck out once and I told her and she told my parents. I look down on myself cause my parents always make comments like are you sure you wn that, or that has a lot of sugar in it. I swim and im pretty much in shape. My parents have also hit me but always use the excuse "Its legal in texas". Also when i was little maybe 7-12 i would get angry and so frustrated that i would just explode. and how they delt with that was holding me down and sitting on me to the point i cant breathe. they also treat me very differently than my sister. I know different kid different situation but, she can go drink smoke weed and party, but if i do anything remotely bad they flip out. After I snuck out they took everything away from me for 3 months,even my school issued laptop. now i have a lot dont get me wrong and i still love my parents but i cant live like this anymore. theres a lot more to my whole story but i just dont know if i should call cps or something cause i dont know if i'm being abused or just overreacting. I'm conflicted cause they both have reputations, but my physical and mental health should matter right? I mean I used to self harm and want to commit suicide. I still think about self harming but i dont do it. Ive started smoking weed and vaping as a way to numb myself cause i dont know how to deal with this stuff.

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          • ccsmod10
            ccsmod10 commented
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            Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you. It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. What you described is abuse and you should not have to go through that. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

            We’re also sorry to hear that you’ve thought about suicide in the past. Your life is very important. If you begin having those thoughts again and want to talk with someone anonymously, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. One resource that might work for you is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. They also have an internet chat function through their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

            If you’re not currently getting mental health resources, it can be really helpful to get treatment. As your mental health suffers, you have -limited ability to handle the other stressors in your life. Smoking may help but those are only temporary fixes. You can contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to connect you to mental health resources at 1-800-950-6264 or NAMI.org You may also want to talk to your school because they should have a counselor for you.

            We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for having you stay there if your parents didn’t give you permission to do so. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

            Having support during difficult times can also be helpful. Reaching out to your sister could be one way to build support at home. One service we can offer is to conference call with your sister. This way you could have a conversation with your sister but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your sister how you feel you have been unfairly treated and how things are effecting you at home. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

        • #7
          I have a mother with multiple sclerosis who is now permanently in a wheelchair. I love her so much but the demands of her care are starting to be too much for me to handle. My Dad is not at all helpful with housework to the point where every minute of my day i am working. If I want dinner, I have to make it myself. I have to do everything and find myself taking care of my parents much more than they take care of me. I can’t live my life like this anymore but don’t know what to do.

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          • ccsmod13
            ccsmod13 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are dealing with something very difficult at home with your parents. It sounds like your mom is very limited in what she can do at home, but you don’t deserve to be doing all the housework and cooking at home. Feeling like you can’t do this anymore is normal and completely understandable. You are also the best judge on what you need as a living situation.

            We wanted to share a couple of options with you. First, you can consider talking this situation through with an adult -- ideally someone who not only knows you but also perhaps your family. A school guidance counselor could be a good person for this. Support is important in difficult situations -- you must feel like everything is on your shoulders.

            The other thing you can do is formally report what’s happening at home by filing an abuse report. Basically, what you are describing sounds like neglect. You can do this by calling the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-422-4453). This can be a big step, so if you want to just talk through how the abuse reporting process works and what may happen when you make this report, we suggest you do not provide your name to the hotline until you are sure you want to file an abuse report.

            Thank you again for reaching out to us and we hope this has been helpful. If you’d like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-786-2929. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

            Take care,
            NRS

        • #8
          My mother yells at me EVER SINGLE DAY it's over the smallest things aswell. My God mom said I could live with her if anything is wrong but my mom took my phone so I i have no cell service because im typing this on my iPhone 4S that she thinks is sold to apple. She threatened to not feed me and she told me this morning that I had to stay in my room so since I had to stay in there, I couldn't eat. I sat in there hungry for about 2-3 hours. I just don't know what to do.

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          • ccsmod1
            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hey there,

            Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It seems like your mom isn’t fully understanding how her daily yelling and threats of not feeding you is making you feel. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

            If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

            Stay safe,
            NRS

        • #9
          My grandma threw a computer at me because I forgot to take the dogs out at midnight

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          • ccsmod13
            ccsmod13 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out to NRS. From what yo shared, it sounds like things have been escalating physically at home. It is not okay that your grandma threw something at you. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe.

            If you feel like what is happening at home is abuse, the national child abuse hotline may be helpful in providing support and options for you. You can contact them at 800-422-4453 or go to www.childhelphotline.org if you would like to talk more about what has been happening at home.

            We want to be a support for you while you go through this challenging time. We can best help you by phone or chat, so that we can talk more in detail about your situation and help you discover your options. We are here 24/7 to help.

            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #10
          I am a 16 year old girl. My parents are divorced. I live with them equally. I want to run from my dads house and stay with my mom permanently. My dad will turn my phone service off for weeks at a time. He has so many rules that I have to follow and he will scream at me for the littlest things. For example today I had a mandatory play practice for my high school, I had an SAT prep class and he wanted me to go to the victory parade for the Washington Nationals. The play practice was mandatory and he expected me to leave early and go to the parade. He got mad at me because I didn’t go to the parade with him. Whenever I do something that takes time away from him he gets mad at me. I have tech week this week and he doesn’t like it because I’m staying with my mom all week. He always wants the schedule equal but I try and make it more for my mom and less for him because he gets mad at the littlest things. A few weeks ago he made me ride his motorcycle without a helmet.

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out, we appreciate you seeking help.

            It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now with your dad, and you find yourself spending most of your time wanting to go to your mom’s house. It’s really great that you have a big support system there to help you, and we want you to know we are here as well to assist in any way that we can. You may want to consider talking to your mom about not wanting to be with your dad anymore, and see if you all can sit down and talk further about this situation. We’re so glad that you tech week motivating you to push forward in school, and are looking forward to it!

            Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to run away without your guardian’s approval, your guardian can contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences. This may be tricky since both your guardians have parental rights. An option to maybe explore would be to contact your local non-emergency phone number, and let them know what the consequences of running away are.

            Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We know you’re in a very hard situation, and we’re so proud that you are wanting to seek help. Please feel to reach out to us anytime on chat, or by phone at 1800) 786-2929, and we can call out anywhere on your behalf as well. Best of luck!

        • #11
          I deal with issues because of my weight I’m 16 I was put on diet pills at 13 I deal with anxiety and depression I had a in hospice stay. My dad is always Im overweight I’m constantly being yelled and screamed at I can make one slight mistake and to him it’s the end of the world. My dad believes depression is stupid and that I should be able turn my feelings off like the switch of a light. I have many panic attacks I feel like nobody gets me my own grandma kicked me out of her house. I deal with verbal and emotional abuse. I don’t know if I can deal with it anymore. I fight myself not to start cutting again or swallowing pills. What should I do. Please help.

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          • ccsmod3
            ccsmod3 commented
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            Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are struggling with a lot at home. It’s unfortunate that your dad doesn’t acknowledge your mental health issues. Depression or Anxiety isn’t something you can just get over. It takes time to learn coping mechanisms to combat depression or anxiety. If you ever want to talk to someone about what you are experiencing, call NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI. Sometimes it helps to talk to a guidance counselor, friend or family member who you trust about what is going on and explore options or just vent.
            It must be incredibly lonely to feel like no one understands you. If you ever want to speak with a professional about your mental health issues or about your family contact SAMHSA at 1800-662-HELP and they could help you locate a therapist in your area. You stated that you also deal with emotional and verbal abuse as well. If you want to talk to someone about reporting the abuse happening in your home you can contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453. It’s not having any support at home and you don’t deserve the way that you have been treated. You deserve to be in an environment you were you feel safe and loved. You can’t really control how your family is but you can control how you respond. It seems like you want to continue responding in a healthy way and you are aware of some of the ways you have been coping that are not as safe. If you ever get the urge to cut or harm yourself in anyway please contact To Write Love on Her Arms at www.twloha.com or Suicide Prevention Line at 1800-273-8255. Remember we are here 24/7 if you want to talk or explore your options. You can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY. Thanks for being brave and honest about your experiences. Best of luck!
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