Mom said she wants me to get out of the house.

[Jennifer]

Hello, I'm currently 14 years old and a few days ago, I got into a fight with my mom. She wanted to rest for a while but my brother was being loud, so I told him to be quiet, he turned and glared at me. (He's 7). We were eating at this time, and I got a little upset so I pushed his face forward and his face hit the bowl infront of him. So, he started to cry, and my mom ran down the stairs screaming at me. I told her that he glared at me, and she told me, "Why would he have time to look at you?". I didn't know what to say, so I glared at her, and she told me to get out of the house. When I opened the first door, she slammed the door on me two to three times. (We have two doors) When I opened the last door, she told me, "You really want to get out, do you?". We haven't talked to each other for about 2 days now. Just a few minutes ago, she told me to clean something, so I quietly got up and went to do what she asked me to. She glared at me, "Are you still even human? What is wrong with you?". My brother had to go to prep school and my mom was taking him. She yelled from downstairs after a while, "If you want to leave, you can leave. No one wants you here anyways. Nobody even likes you. You can pack all your things and leave, I don't care."

I don't know what I should do. I have a loving father who works most of the time and I have a friend that I've been friends with for 3-4 years. She has a place for me and she lives with her mother. Her mother doesn't know my situation yet so I don't know if I should go. Please help me.

[ccsmod1]

RE: Mom said she wants me to get out of the house.

Hi Jennifer,
Thanks so much for contacting us. It sounds like things are really uncomfortable in your house with your mom and little brother. Looks like you are considering leaving, but don’t know what to do. It’s really smart of you to find out your options and brave to ask for help. That’s why we’re here.
Sounds like there’s a lot of tension in your home. It must feel hurtful to hear your mom say those negative things to you. Sometimes parents say things they don’t really mean. We’re not legal experts here, but until you’re 18, you can’t legally pack your things and leave without your mom or whoever is your legal guardian getting into trouble. Let’s say you do leave and go stay with your friend. If your mom doesn’t know where you are, she will have to call the police to file a runaway report because she is legally responsible for you. When the police find you, they will bring you home. If your mom does not know your friend and her mom, or if she wants to press charges for them keeping you without her knowing, she can charge them with what’s called “harboring a minor,” which is an offense. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your dad who you said was loving. That’s wonderful. Have you spoken with him about what’s going on at home? Sometimes journaling or talking to someone you trust, like a teacher or counselor, can also help. After school activities or hanging out with friends, with your mom’s permission, can give you an outlet.
We can also talk to you about your situation and help you come up with options. It sounds like you want to be alone. Maybe there are some activities you can do on your own to help you cope with the stress. Please don’t hesitate to call. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

[Guest]

my mom told me she was going to kick me out of her house three or four times and only apologize when someone tells her to. Also, she took my phone and I threaten her that I was going to run away and I'm a minor (12 years old)

[ccsmod15]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS. It sounds like things have been really stressful living with your mom, seeing how she has threatened to kick you out so many times and took your phone. Know that as your parent, and being that you are a minor, if she were to actually kick you out of the home without an adequate person to provide supervision and care for you in her place, this could be reported to the Child Abuse hotline. The number you can call is 1-800-422-4453. You can also text that number or go to Childhelp.org. You can also give us a call at (800) RUNAWAY and we can help you with making the report. Is there another adult relative who your mom might approve of you staying with when things get heated at home? Having a safe plan for where you could go when things get bad at home might be something to consider so that in the moment you’re not finding yourself wandering the streets or in a scary situation. If you ever were to get kicked out, sometimes going to a local police station or hospital can help connect you to services or find a shelter in your area to help ensure your basic needs are met. You are always welcome to give us a call on our 24 hour hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or find us on Chat at 1800runaway.org. You don’t have to go through this alone. We’re here to listen and help you find options. Best of luck, NRS