Looking to move out, and moving with my brother.

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Last option is to run away. Both of my sisters moved out months ago, one is of age and the other 16, my mom let's her live with her boyfriend and refuses me to leave. Tired of nagging on her about her gambling problem. Always pulling my mom and her boyfriend apart when they are fighting. There's a lot more that adds onto this, I don't want to be put in West Hills again. I'm really at my breaking point and need to get out of here before something really does happen.

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RE: Looking to move out, and moving with my brother.

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are having a really difficult time at home. It sounds like being around constant fighting would be very stressful, and it is hard to live with a parent with gambling issues. We are here to listen and support you in any way we can. If you are under the age of 18, if you leave home you could be considered a runaway. It sounds like your mom has give permission for your sister to move out, but not for you, which sounds very frustrating. If your mom filed a runaway report the police might force you to return home. Running away is not a crime, however anyone who allows you to stay with them could risk criminal charges for harboring a runaway.
We are not legal experts. Laws are different from state to state, county to county, city to city. In some areas, police might not take a runaway report for youth who are close to turning 18, or they might take a report but not force a youth to return home. How a local police department responds to the situation can vary drastically. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are. If you need to talk, we are here to help go through all your options and come up with a plan. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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I want to move in with my brother as well. My parents are damaging me emotionally and my younger brother has horrible anger issues. My dad works all the time and is never home. I'm terribly depressed and the only thing that makes me truly happy, is basketball, which ends in 2 weeks. I'm 15. I don't want to live with my brother till I'm 18, but maybe till summer ends. I don't know what to do and I'm at my breaking point.

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Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us. We know it takes courage to realize that you need help and to reach out to find it. It sounds like you are really struggling right now. It sounds like basketball may have been helping you get through this for a while, but the fact it is ending soon is a huge discouragement to you. It is awful that you are going through this, but good that you realize that this is not healthy and that you need to try to make some changes. Talking through this stuff is exactly why were are here.

You mentioned that your parents are damaging you emotionally and that your brother has major anger issues. These are serious realizations. It is very difficult for anyone to deal with this alone. If you are in school, there may be a teacher or counselor that can talk with you and show you some local resources. Also, if you have any friends’ parents available, they may also be able to talk to you. Another option would be a school nurse or doctor that you have been to in the past. Sometimes there are also local agencies that can provide free or low-cost counseling to teens or families; this isn’t always available, but sometimes it is. Having a safety plan, of what items to take and where to go to, if you brother’s anger gets out of control may also be a good idea. Because there are a couple of different things going on in your situation, giving us a call here at 1-800-786-2929 may help us all to talk about everything more deeply. Our number is 24/7 and anyone who answers is able to talk with you.

Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options: which is good. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We are here to listen and help.