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    Hi, im 17 ill be 18 in august. I am homeless with my foster family and they make it all worst. Currently where staying at my foster parents boyfriends moms house. its a big cycle we've been at motels, to sleeping in my guardians van , to her boyfriends moms house. note that my guardian has a 11 year old biological son. Ok so the truth is that my guardian is a very negative , irresponsible, lazy , mean, person most of the time. She is so lazy that were homeless because she refuses to work, she rathers play fight and be childis with her boyfriend all day. Her son is always calling me out my name, cursing, hitting me, etc,, i try to tell her she does nothing about it, she always ignore the situation untill i take it upon myself to handle the situation. She yells at me and curses at me all the time about things i do what she tells me but she still curses at me, she threatens to give me back to my mom or the system (foster home she says). Before and now she never helps me with legal situations, she neglects me in many ways and her son in many ways, she doesnt send her son to school, i dropped out of school because i wanted to do online school which didnt work out so she found me a program i can do , but she never finished the proccess with me , she wasnt willing to give them her check stubs in oder for the schooling and job proccess to continue. she never makes her son take baths he smells really foul most of the time, hes very disrespectful to me and her and everyone else hes around, she doesnt wash her own body, she doesnt take hygiene seriuosly as me so i have to buy my own personal hygiene stuff most of the time. she uses up my menostration pads and then never buys me any back. theres so much more, she gets upset about my positivity. if im happy about something she gets upset that im not upset. i feel like shes more of a bully then a parent guardian. all she cares about is food,drama,guys,and being to be honest im thinking about saving up enough money to leave and go live with someone out of town. I dont know what else to do. i mean im homeless with them. theyre abusing me mentally and if i dont leave ill think more suicidal thoughts. PLEASE HELP ME AND TELL ME WHAT I CAN DO TO GET AWAY FROM THIS! im almost 18 there has to be some way out of this. i just want to be happy , and i know i wont be happy if i continue to be around this environment with them.

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    Re: Im almost 18 i want to leave my foster family

    Thank you for reaching out to us. You have been very brave to do so. It sounds like you are experiencing a lot with your foster family and feel it will be better to leave. You have summarized how your mother has not given you the attention that you need and she has different priorities instead of finding work to provide a home. Her biological son has been causing you stress as well. You are having negative and suicidal thoughts because of all that you are going through.
    The first thing we can address is you safety and your well-being. You mentioned having suicidal thoughts and would like you to have resources for when those thoughts start to come back. If you are needing to talk through your thoughts you can call the National Suicide Hotline at 800-273-TALK (8255). You can also chat from 2pm to 2am at to receive so support via online. We are also here to support you through at dark point and we are available to speak with you 24 hours every day.
    Secondly, we can address the neglect from you guardian. If there is a caseworker that worked with you before you were placed with your foster family then that will be a great person to contact about the care or lack of care you are receiving with you foster family. If you are unsure of who your case worker is another option can be to file a report about neglect. You can find the child abuse line of your state with an online search or you can call Child Help USA for more information at 800-422-4453.
    Lastly, since you are in a homeless situation we can certainly provide you for youth homeless shelters for your safety. We can also search for transitional living programs that help youth become independent from their guardians. They can help with job training or educational programs which sounds like some of your goals. However, transitional living programs may have a start age at 18 years old so you’d wait until august.
    We understand that we have provided a lot of information. We hope that it is all helpful to you. If you wanted to know more or talk through some options we are here to support you. We hope everything gets better.
    Best of luck,
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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