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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Can my parents force me to move....

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are having an issue at home with your parents involving you moving to a different country.
    We are not legal experts so we can only answer in general. As a minor your parents have the legal right to make decisions when it comes to something like where you live.
    Again we are not legal experts and we don’t know much about your situation.
    Sometimes talking things through might help to come up with some options not previously thought of.
    If you would like to speak more about your situation, please give NRS a call or try our live chat.

    You can contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org

    We look forward to hearing from you.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Can my parents force me to move to a different country or do I have to since i'm under 18?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-08-2018, 12:33 AM.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going on. Its really great that you have created a friendship with them and are concerned about what they are wanting. Unfortunately, we directly don’t offer any services that particular prevent youth from moving to a different country. In making an assumption that the youth is under 18, their parents are responsible for the youth until 18 and would need to ensure their safety and would have influence over where they might move.

    One legal option is emancipation. Emancipation is becoming a legal adult before the age of 18 (depending on the state). In general, to become emancipation, you would need to go before and judge. The judge would look to make sure that the youth can be independent by financially supporting themselves, still be in school, and can live on their own/ separate from their parents. This does take some time, so depending on when the parents are leaving, this may/may not be an choice to move forward with.

    That’s hard that she has a bad relationship with her parents. It isn’t illegal to runaway but in most states is a status offense so if your friend left with out permission, the parents have the right to file a police report. If the police come across her they most likely would return her home. If your friend would have a relative/friend that she could get permission from her parents to stay with, it may be a hard conversation to have , but a way for her to stay here.

    Again, thanks for reaching out, and if your friend is comfortable we can best help them through our direct line at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are confidential and we will do our best to support the youth in any way we can.

    -NRS

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    Hi my friend parents are moving to get better jobs but she wants to stay how can I help her stay here. She is also has bad a relationship with her parents.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi,

    Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us tonight. We appreciate you reaching out to the other youth who post onto our forums posts in an attempt to give some advice and share your own thoughts and feelings. Though everyone's experiences are different, it can be helpful to hear that other people are feeling the same way. If you personally ever need anything from our organization please feel free to reach out to us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you the best of luck with everything!

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    Hi. I just wanted to let you know I know how you feel. My parents forced me to move feom Russia to the U.S. and they never acknowledged that that was a sacrifice on my part. It's like my feelings never mattered. It always felt like they didn't consider me important and that their needs were always first. What makes it worse is that there's 2 of them. Don't kill yourself. There's plenty of ways out of the situation. Sometimes you just eed to express to them how it is you're feeling. The film career and your culture is important to you, but to them it isn't. They need your help to be able to sympathize with you, so if you can help them understand how you feel as precisely as possible that would be great. That's hard to do when you don't always even know how you feel. They think you're angry, but really you're devastated. They're having trouble putting themselves in your shoes because they don't see the depth of your feelings. Try to be patient with them, as with children. And in the meantime, know you're not alone. Your feelings do matter, and even if they do move and make this bug mistake, try to forgive them. All parents make mistakes, but you still love them, and they love you, despite their limitations. If they understood everything I'm sure they wouldn't hurt you on purpose. They're not cruel, just shortsighted and selfish.

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  • ccsmod9
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    RE: My parents are forcing me to move out of the country.

    Hello,

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We’re really sorry to hear how your parent’s dropped such a life changing event on you so suddenly and that they don’t seem to be concerned with how that makes you feel. It sounds like a really tough thing to process all at once. It also sounds like a lot of things might be changing in your life very soon and it’s ok if you feel like things are a little out of control.

    We’re also really sorry to hear that this has made you feel like worthless and that no one cares. Have you thought about expressing yourself to a trusted friend or someone who works at your school? It may be helpful to just get all this off your chest. You mentioned your parents wouldn’t listen to you when you tried to talk to them. Do you think it would be helpful to write a letter to your parent’s about how this all has made you feel? Even if you never gave it to them, the act of writing all your feelings down might help.

    You mentioned you wanted to run away and are having some scary thoughts. Do you want to go into more detail about these thoughts? We want to make sure you’re safe and have a plan if this is something you decide to do. We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally about legal issues surrounding running away. It is generally not illegal to run, but since you are under 18 your parents can file a Runaway Report with the local police. That means they would search for you, and if they found you, they’d have to bring you home. If you want to know for sure, you could call your local police department to see exactly what they would do if someone filed a runaway report.

    If you want to talk about this in more detail or you just need to vent about the whole situation, please feel free to call us here at 1-800-Runaway. We can come up with a plan with you if you decided to leave your home that would keep you safe. Or we can talk about strategies for getting through to your parents about how you’re feeling.

    Best of luck,

    NRS

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    Guest started a topic My parents are forcing me to move out of the country.

    My parents are forcing me to move out of the country.

    Help! When I came home from school, my parents told me we were moving back to their home country in the summer. The country is Romania, which is in Europe. The have already enlisted me and my sister in private schools there and are putting the house on the market next month. They didn't tell me anything about it until now and I am freaking out. I am 14 so that means I will have to start high school there. I don't know the language completely, I don't have any friends there, and the culture and everyday life is much different from the US. Also I hope to have a career in the film business, and moving to such a small unknown country will diminish my chances and opportunities. I tried to talk to my parents about this, but they said the decision was final and they didn't care how I felt. I don't want to spend the most exciting years of my life as a outcast and stranger in a much different country. Since I am not 18, I'm not sure if I can do anything about it. I don't know if it is llegal to run away at my age in the state I live in(VA). I just need some answers as to how to avoid moving or how to make my parents see that they are ruining my life and crushing my hopes and dreams. I also think its especially awful of them since I have just applied to tons of specialty centers and have been bombarbed with exams and interviews. And I was really looking forward to attending the school of my dreams which has a great drama program. Anyways I tried to talk to my parents about this, but all they did was took away my phone and my computer- since they said that they didn't want me researching ways out of this awful situation. I literally feel like I am worth nothing and no one cares about my life, I have even begun to have some scary thoughts. Anyways, I'm wondering if you can provide me with some more info on running way.
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