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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to NRS!

    It sounds like things have been incredibly difficult at home. No one deserves abuse, and the abuse is not your fault. You deserve to feel safe at home. Speaking up takes so much strength and courage. It’s understandable that you want to leave the situation and that you want action to be taken. We are not legal experts, so we do not know what custody of you or your sister may look like. In most states though, the legal age to be considered an adult is 18. If the idea of an abuse report interests you, one can be made anonymously by you or on your behalf. Teachers, neighbors, parents of friends, or any trusted adult can make one if you do not feel comfortable making one yourself. We also can help you make an abuse report if that is something you choose to do. It demonstrates selflessness that you worry about your sister and her situation. However, the situation does not sound safe for either of you. Another helpful resource is the National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453 (https://www.childhelp.org/).

    If you feel you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 9-1-1. Please reach out to us anytime via our online chat service or hotline for more resources in your area and more assistance. We are available 24/7.

    Stay safe, stay strong, and remember that you matter!

    NRS
    1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)
    www.1800runaway.org

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    im 14. my dad has been emotionally and physically abusive all my life, ive been in foster care once for2 years when i was 4 to when i was 6. over a dozen cps cases have been started and dropped since then over neighbors hearing him hitting us and us screaming for help me and my sister never said anything and have defended him because we were scared ive came to the point where im tierd he keeps threatining to send me off to millitary school for "bad behavior" when im just doing things as a normal kid.the slightest thing pisses him off and it all escalates from there. i dont have any other family but him and my 17 year old sister. my dad has favorited my sister for as long as i can remember there relationship is fine but its always been me hes had a problem with and i cant tell you why hes given me black eyes and bloody noses but when im removed from his custody i dont want any charges to be filed because my sister is gonna turn 18 and shes gonna need someone to take care of her. however my question is can i myself be removed and only me when my sister turns 18. cps has files over the dozen cases that have been called so i really just want to be removed and no charges to be filed i can heal from the emotional abouse i feel about it all within time.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. We recognize that it takes a lot of courage to seek help in a situation where you are feeling helpless. We hope we can help you further with this, as you do not deserve that type of treatment or hurtful words from anyone.

    First and foremost, we would like to offer you the number for National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, at 1-800-273-8255. They also offer online chat service, if that may be more convenient for you. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ We would like to kindly remind you that if you find yourself in any immediate danger or crisis, please call 911.

    We notice that you mentioned your mom threatening to "send you back" to CPS. While we do not know the story of what happened in the past, we are curious what your previous experience with CPS is like and if the abuse you have experienced at home has been reported to them, or if at least an updated report has been made.

    Please remember always that you are worthy of feeling loved and empowered. You deserve to surround yourself around kind words and people who are going to lift you up and make you feel your best. We hope that you are able to find some peace within and engage in any activities that may bring you joy, while you search for ways to get through this and find a solution.

    We are more than happy to work together on this with you either by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or our online chat service that can be found at www.1800runaway.org and click on the "chat" button on the top right. This will give us the opportunity to talk more in-depth with you about your situation and try to help the best we can.

    Thank you again for trusting us. We look forward to having the opportunity to chat more with you.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    my mom is threatening to "send me back" to CPS; she ALWAYS tells me I'm a lazy, nasty, fat" etc... when i was self-harming because of her she said "cut deeper and use a sharper knife" she tells me i have nothing to be "depressed" about when i never once in my life had a mental evaluation or anything. I constantly have suicidal thoughts because of her mental, emotional, and physical abuse. When i mention this to anyone it gets back to her and she makes fun of the idea that she just might actually be abusing us. I have told many school staff and administrators that i feel this way and no one has ever done anything about it for me. She always says stuff like "you can't move away because your not 18 and your adopted" but ever since i was 5 years old i been experiencing this I'm now 16. I have been counting the days the days till i move out since i was 5. I have written at least 6 suicide letters ONLY about her and the pain and agony she puts me through on a daily basis.I don't know what to do anymore. BTW she's not my biological mom she is my biological aunt and i would love to leave asap.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Thank you for reaching out it shows a lot of courage to reach out and get support. Its important to remember that you cannot control the actions of other. You should not have to deal with how your dad treats you and no one should ever make you feel unsafe in your home. Its great you are talking to your school consular and that persons sounds like great person to continue talking to. Childhelp is great resource their goal is s to meet the physical, emotional, educational, and spiritual needs of abused, neglected and at-risk children you can reach them at (800) 422-4453 or www.childhelp.org/. If you feel that you are in immediate danger contacting the police is always an option as well. If you need to find a safe place you can always use national safe place text, the word "safe" to 69866 and provide a location and it will give you the closest safe place in your area. Remember you are not alone, and we are always here to listen and support you in any way. We are 24/7 and we can be reached through chat or at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Stay safe and stay strong.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    my school counsler filed a report on my dad after i talked about how he has gotten violent sometimes with his kids when he is angry. the police came to our door yesterday and my dad is so mad at me he wont even talk to me he makes me questions whether or not if hes actually physically/mentally abusive. my mom is out on a trip and im worried she is going to react like my dad because my dad keeps telling me "you dont care about anyone else but urself u ruined my f****** life i hope ur happy." and now i dont wanna go back home

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    can i gwt removed from the home if i dont fell safe?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way, nor should you be expected to parent your siblings; especially for how long you have done so. It may require some lengthy questioning but CPS should be able to help you, they will likely try to explore options such as other family members as guardians if they are willing and able.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. This agency can really help in advocating for you.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 17 years old and I’ve been raising my little brothers since I was 12. My mom has never been a parent to any of us and she’s very manipulative and has caused me and my brothers so much emotional abuse. I’ve been suicidal for the past 4 years begging for help and she won’t do anything. I’m so mentally screwed up I can’t take care of myself and I can no longer parent my brothers. They need to be with their dad or sister someone who can take care of them properly. I don’t wanna say she’s abusive but theirs been several times she’s physically hurt me. I home school my brothers and it’s been hard to keep up with because of everything going on in my life and they are so far behind the state has been contacting us and she’s gonna get in trouble. My brothers and I no longer want to be here in this house hold and we have family members willing to take us in. My mother also will not allow me to get a job and I have to take my brothers everywhere bc she doesn’t want to watch them nor take care of them. She’s very bad on drinking and is hardly ever sober. She says the most hurtful things to us. Would their be anyway cps can work with me on this?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 07-22-2021, 12:02 AM.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi…. I really want to get out of the environment I’m in. My mom is physically (hits me and my sister with anything and everything, I have pics of when she left marks) psychologically (she threatens to hurt me and kill me or my sister, I have text messages of begging my dad to help after she’s threatened us) and verbally/emotionally (she swears at me and sister and degrades both of us until we feel like nothing, I’m working on getting audio of her yelling). I’m 14 my sister is 12. We both have tried telling cps in the past but they closed the case (it was abt 2 years ago) since then my mom always brings it up and threatens us, I thought I could manage until I’m 18 so I can legally leave… however I can’t do this anymore. Every day I want to kill myself and I’m in an equal amount of danger of myself as well as my mom. If there’s anything I can do please help since I desperately want to leave… also could someone let me know if my evidence is enough… I only want to do smtg if their is a certain chance I’ll get removed. Thanks..
    I use my phone and internet and books and talking to friends as A coping method, but my dad doesn’t let me use them much anymore and my parents monitor everything I do. They want me to always study and if I’m not their monitoring everything so I can’t rly cope… which is why I want to kill myslef.. hope someone can help me

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  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline we are really sorry to hear about what is going on with you and your grandmother. It seems as though your grandma has been really mean to you and wants to kick you out. Please know that if you are fearing being kicked out we can try and do our best to help get you the resources you would need. It might be a good idea to see if you are able to chat in with us or call as well (www.1800runaway.org or 800-786-2929) We can try to find shelters or transitional living programs that help youth on their feet. We can also help report any abuse that might be happening at home. That way a caseworker can be notified and can come assess your situation. You mentioned wanting to run away as well. Some information that might be good to keep in mind is that if you are younger than 18 typically you cannot leave home without your guardian's permission. So if you were to leave your grandma can call the police and file a runaway report with them. From there they would look for you and if they find you bring you back home.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Well me and my grandmother got in a fight (not physically) but she always puts me down and makes me feel like I'm a nobody and after that fight she had told me she wants me out and I'm only 11 about to turn 12 and I dont have anywhere else to leave and I been wanted to run away from here but I dont wanna be dramatic and call them if my situation isnt serious to call them.

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your family and sister. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Another resource you might find helpful is To Write Love on Her Arms. They specialize in mental health awareness and self-harm. You can reach them at twloha.com.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS
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