Can I just call and cps take me away?

[Guest]

can i gwt removed from the home if i dont fell safe?

[ccsmod5]

Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

my school counsler filed a report on my dad after i talked about how he has gotten violent sometimes with his kids when he is angry. the police came to our door yesterday and my dad is so mad at me he wont even talk to me he makes me questions whether or not if hes actually physically/mentally abusive. my mom is out on a trip and im worried she is going to react like my dad because my dad keeps telling me "you dont care about anyone else but urself u ruined my f****** life i hope ur happy." and now i dont wanna go back home

[ccsmod5]

Thank you for reaching out it shows a lot of courage to reach out and get support. Its important to remember that you cannot control the actions of other. You should not have to deal with how your dad treats you and no one should ever make you feel unsafe in your home. Its great you are talking to your school consular and that persons sounds like great person to continue talking to. Childhelp is great resource their goal is s to meet the physical, emotional, educational, and spiritual needs of abused, neglected and at-risk children you can reach them at (800) 422-4453 or www.childhelp.org/. If you feel that you are in immediate danger contacting the police is always an option as well. If you need to find a safe place you can always use national safe place text, the word "safe" to 69866 and provide a location and it will give you the closest safe place in your area. Remember you are not alone, and we are always here to listen and support you in any way. We are 24/7 and we can be reached through chat or at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Stay safe and stay strong.

[Guest]

my mom is threatening to "send me back" to CPS; she ALWAYS tells me I'm a lazy, nasty, fat" etc... when i was self-harming because of her she said "cut deeper and use a sharper knife" she tells me i have nothing to be "depressed" about when i never once in my life had a mental evaluation or anything. I constantly have suicidal thoughts because of her mental, emotional, and physical abuse. When i mention this to anyone it gets back to her and she makes fun of the idea that she just might actually be abusing us. I have told many school staff and administrators that i feel this way and no one has ever done anything about it for me. She always says stuff like "you can't move away because your not 18 and your adopted" but ever since i was 5 years old i been experiencing this I'm now 16. I have been counting the days the days till i move out since i was 5. I have written at least 6 suicide letters ONLY about her and the pain and agony she puts me through on a daily basis.I don't know what to do anymore. BTW she's not my biological mom she is my biological aunt and i would love to leave asap.

[ccsmod1]

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. We recognize that it takes a lot of courage to seek help in a situation where you are feeling helpless. We hope we can help you further with this, as you do not deserve that type of treatment or hurtful words from anyone.

First and foremost, we would like to offer you the number for National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, at 1-800-273-8255. They also offer online chat service, if that may be more convenient for you. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ We would like to kindly remind you that if you find yourself in any immediate danger or crisis, please call 911.

We notice that you mentioned your mom threatening to "send you back" to CPS. While we do not know the story of what happened in the past, we are curious what your previous experience with CPS is like and if the abuse you have experienced at home has been reported to them, or if at least an updated report has been made.

Please remember always that you are worthy of feeling loved and empowered. You deserve to surround yourself around kind words and people who are going to lift you up and make you feel your best. We hope that you are able to find some peace within and engage in any activities that may bring you joy, while you search for ways to get through this and find a solution.

We are more than happy to work together on this with you either by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or our online chat service that can be found at www.1800runaway.org and click on the "chat" button on the top right. This will give us the opportunity to talk more in-depth with you about your situation and try to help the best we can.

Thank you again for trusting us. We look forward to having the opportunity to chat more with you.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

im 14. my dad has been emotionally and physically abusive all my life, ive been in foster care once for2 years when i was 4 to when i was 6. over a dozen cps cases have been started and dropped since then over neighbors hearing him hitting us and us screaming for help me and my sister never said anything and have defended him because we were scared ive came to the point where im tierd he keeps threatining to send me off to millitary school for "bad behavior" when im just doing things as a normal kid.the slightest thing pisses him off and it all escalates from there. i dont have any other family but him and my 17 year old sister. my dad has favorited my sister for as long as i can remember there relationship is fine but its always been me hes had a problem with and i cant tell you why hes given me black eyes and bloody noses but when im removed from his custody i dont want any charges to be filed because my sister is gonna turn 18 and shes gonna need someone to take care of her. however my question is can i myself be removed and only me when my sister turns 18. cps has files over the dozen cases that have been called so i really just want to be removed and no charges to be filed i can heal from the emotional abouse i feel about it all within time.

[ccsmod7]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to NRS!

It sounds like things have been incredibly difficult at home. No one deserves abuse, and the abuse is not your fault. You deserve to feel safe at home. Speaking up takes so much strength and courage. It’s understandable that you want to leave the situation and that you want action to be taken. We are not legal experts, so we do not know what custody of you or your sister may look like. In most states though, the legal age to be considered an adult is 18. If the idea of an abuse report interests you, one can be made anonymously by you or on your behalf. Teachers, neighbors, parents of friends, or any trusted adult can make one if you do not feel comfortable making one yourself. We also can help you make an abuse report if that is something you choose to do. It demonstrates selflessness that you worry about your sister and her situation. However, the situation does not sound safe for either of you. Another helpful resource is the National Child Abuse Hotline, 1-800-422-4453 (https://www.childhelp.org/).

If you feel you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 9-1-1. Please reach out to us anytime via our online chat service or hotline for more resources in your area and more assistance. We are available 24/7.

Stay safe, stay strong, and remember that you matter!

NRS
1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)

https://www.1800runaway.org

[Guest]

How can I get cps to take me away from my father who has mentally and emotionally abused me for years and has strangled me in the past but got away with it. Just being in his presence scares me because I never know when or why he might snap and hurt me again.

[ccsmod3]

Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you do not want to be with your father and understandably so, this is not the way you deserve to be treated. So while we cannot guarantee how cps will respond, you do have the right to make a report with them and there will likely be an investigation into it. Unfortunately, we cannot guarantee what the outcome will be. But we want to support you as much as possible and help in any way we can, so if you would like to talk further about this, please call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Can I call cos on my mom so I can live with my dad bc she’s not cooperating

[ccsmod3]

Hi,

We are glad you reached out to us with your question.

Let’s start with the direct answer to your question, if you are being neglected, abused or living in an unsafe situation you absolutely can call CPS or the police for help. Just so you know, CPS will conduct an investigation to determine where to place you if you need to be removed from your current home. You can request that to be your Dad but CPS will have the final say if they remove you from your current situation.

If your situation does not involve conditions that need to involve CPS, there are still options for you to consider so that you could go live with your Dad. We would like to help you explore those options and put together a plan that works for you to address the problems you are having living with your Mom.

We need to get some more specifics on your situation to help you. You can reach out to us any time 24/7 for a chat through our website www.1800RUNAWAY.ORG or on our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential.

We hope to hear from you soon.

NRS

[Guest]

Little bit of a back story.....


I (17 F) live with my mother (3, and three little sisters (13) and (5 year old twins). My mom drinks alcohol, almost every night, and this past sunday night, she had been drinking, and i came out of my room to ask her if she was still getting me gas money for my friend who had been taking me to school. She proceeds to get in my face and scream and throw profanities at me, she then told me to give her my phone. I told her I wasnt going to do that, because i didnt understand why she even wanted it, and It wasn't hers, as i had earned it from my step dad. She punched and slapped me in the face, sat on me and pulled out chunks of my hair. I called the police, they didnt really do anything but send me to my friends house. I am staying with a friend until friday, i went to school and called cps, but im scared nothing is going to be done again. In the past we had cps cases open, but my mother just told the caseworkers that i was insane and that she didnt want me in the house. I cant deal with feeling like im constantly walking on eggshells and all of her putdowns when shes been drinking has taken a major toll on me, im a senior in high school, and im stressed with a lot of stuff, colleges, getting a job, and i feel like i cant breathe when im at home because my mother is a ticking time bomb, bound to go off at any time. can i request to my caseworker that i be removed from the home? I live in Ohio btw

[ccsmod3]

Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you have been experiencing ongoing abuse from your mom and you never deserve to be treated this way. It sounds like a big part of it is due to your mom’s drinking and that it has taken a major toll on you which absolutely makes sense. We are glad that you are able to stay at a friend’s house for the time being, but it does seem like you need a safer more long-term option as home seems like an unsafe place to be. It seems like there have been CPS cases in the past and nothing has happened due to your mom lying about how she is treating you, so you fear that nothing will be done again. An option definitely is to talk to your caseworker and see if there is a way for you to be removed from the home. Unfortunately, we cannot guarantee the outcome of that, as all of that would be done through CPS, but we are here to support you as much as you need. If you would like to talk about this more with us and other possible options, please call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey i want to know if cps can take me away if i am unhappy where i am. My parents want to but dont want to at the same time. I guess i do bad things but i think i need a change so can they?

[ccsmod3]

Hi, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are feeling unhappy at home and want to be taken away. If you are experiencing abuse in any way, you can absolutely contact cps, but we cannot guarantee that they would take you away. We are here to support as best as we can, so if you would like to talk more about what you are going through, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm thirteen and am currently living with my mother, recently she saw messages of my cursing and she was angry and started hitting me and hitting me with the belt. Is it discipline or is this abuse because i'm confused and this isn't the first time when i was younger I didn't know how to answer a question and she choked me until i answered it (i lied bcs i still didn't understand) Im sos scared i wanna call cps and file a abuse report but i need to be away from her while they handle this what if she hurts me and they think that i'm lying because all i do to her is lie because i am scared of her, but everytime I tell her that she goes "you wouldn't lie if you were scared" Oer what if they believe her over me and I get placed back with her because she's my legal guardian. I want to run away but I could get caught and arrested, I am not of the age to get a job, and how will I enroll myself into highschool? I lie to her alot when I am scared most of the time, and when she finds out she beats me and gets very angry but I don't feel like I can trust her or express why I feel like I have to lie to her. Please help me

[Guest]

Hello. Ever since I was younger, I never really felt truly connected with my family. My family has had me since I was 3. Recently my parents caught me sneaking out, which caused them to find out some other things. They threatened to call DSS on me, if I messed up again. But I will be 18 in september. So I was wondering if I called DSS myself and told them that I have another home to stay at if they will take me there? I mentally cant be in this house anymore because everything just feels fake and forced

[Guest]

Am I able to get CPS to take me away? I live with my sister in a 5 bedroom two bathroom home and there is 9 people living I this house including a baby and a pregnant woman my brother is about to move out but over all this in general is overwhelming my family struggles with bills I feel as if I would be better on my own considering I really don't talk with my family anymore. My sisters husbands is very rude when communicating with me so I avoid contact with him. I've been living with my sister for 4 years now and all it consist of is moving, people losing jobs, people moving in and out, and sometimes I have to starve myself because there is nothing I'm able to eat. I have a sensitive stomach so some thing I can't eat or I'll throw up or my body will hurt for the next few days. I also would like to go back to school but I can't go to this school here because I was sexually assaulted and the school didn't do anything besides move his class even though it was caught on camera and there was a witness so I got my sister to let me drop out because I would see him everywhere in the school I did not feel safe along with the assistant principal searched me and my friend us being female and him being male which was completely inappropriate so I never at all felt safe going to school with ruined my education because of the fact I had to drop out

[ccsmod6]

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been experiencing these emotions that are valid for a bit now. It is so brave of you to reach out and ask for help. When contacting CPS, if you make a report, it does not always end up with being taken away, in fact, very rarely do children get taken out of their homes. We are not experts, but we want you to be aware of this when making your report. If you choose, you can make a report of the abuse anonymously on the phone, online, or file a police report.

There are programs where you could complete your education remotely or homeschooling with materials, as well as food shelters and basic needs we could provide to help in your situation. You are very strong for making it through such situations and times. It sounds like you are looking for supports to improve your life. We encourage you to reach out to 1800RUNAWAY or reach out to the chat on 1800runaway.org to continue to discuss the issues personal to you with more details.

Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

my parents are mainly just really emotionally neglectful and abusive which i know its really hard to take a child away from the home in this situation, like they do use physical force on me sometimes but not a lot (like my dad choked me and my mom usually just resorts to like hitting or punching). my brother also scapegoats me a lot and stuff which hurts a lot. i usually take out all my emotions and anger on my dog so im basically turning into my parents. but my brother is becoming something like an alcoholic just like my dad and biological grandma. i used to overhear lots of fights where my mom would be crying and stuff which i learned was useful to get my point across so i would throw things and break things and scream at people and now its like my parents have just given up cuz its just me (my brother went off to college) and since he was the only they really cared about (cuz they never get mad at him for the little things, just me) i just stay quiet with my feelings and im more passive then ever and have a huge difficulty expressing myself and my feelings and thoughts. im also 14 so im not that young so it would be even harder to get me removed ig:/ but its just that my mom criticizes me a lot and both my mom and dad and probably my brother have lots of mental health issues and i have a lot too which makes our whole family situation worse. and when my mom read a letter i wrote to her (just as self-therapy i never wanted her to read it cuz it was really personal) she had a conversation with me and she said she'd change, but i dont see her changing anything, like right after i showed her my venting notebook i used to vent about the whole situation with my uncle and when i saw her brushing it off i just gave up and didnt let her read the rest cuz the more she read the more she wouldve gotten mad at ME for putting all my problems on him, and he cant "worry about my bs". and the thing is im expected to be the emotional support for everyone in my family, watching what i say to people, not allowed to talk to people unless they know first or else they would get angry and annoyed that im on the phone with them or speaking to them about something i shouldnt be so whenever i try to find someone to be my emotional support they get mad. im going to run away and my best friend is the only one who knows cuz i trust her with everything and her mom is like my real mom and supporter. and the thing that really sucks about the emotional support thing is that when i was a kid and i was expected to do that, i didnt know what was happening half the time, i didnt know the gravity of what i was witnessing and hearing, and i couldnt process anything properly so how in the world was i gonna be able to process other people's emotions when i cant even do it myself cuz no one is helping me out like im expected to help them out.
and like i said before, i know its rare for people who are experiencing this type of abuse and neglect to actually get removed from the home but if they just come here and say here's what i want you to do, i really feel like it wont work cuz my mom has already proven that.
so im running away. hopefully that'll at least help me get removed if i get caught, and if i dont, im just gonna keep running away till im 18... i dont even care about school or anything anymore all i care about is getting out of here and finding people who will actually help me and support me cuz im going through a lot right now.

[ccsmod11]

(If you are in danger for any reason, please call the police or go to your local emergency room.)

Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like there is a lot going on at home that is extremely heavy for anyone to deal with, let alone a young person like you. We are so sorry to hear about how your parents and brother treat you, and we're on your side no matter what you choose as you try to get through this.

First of all, the things you have described to us ABSOLUTELY sound like abuse, and you have the right to report it if and when you feel ready. If you want to learn more about this process, you can call or chat with us 24/7 or you can visit our friends at ChildHelp (https://www.childhelp.org/). Here at NRS we can even file a report on your behalf.

It sounds like talking to your parents has only made things worse. It's especially tough that your mom read a private letter and some other personal things and took it out on you. If you ever feel you need help talking to them, we have a service here at NRS that can help you mediate a conference call with your parents and help you explain your side of things to them. Please call or chat with us to learn more.

It also sounds like you're seriously considering running away. Again, we are with you no matter what you choose, but we want to help you make a plan that will keep you as safe, happy, and comfortable as possible. We would appreciate it if you reached out to us so we can learn more about your situation and help you make the plan that makes sense for you. You can find us 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-786-2929. Our services are completely confidential and no one will know you talked to us. Our staff are trained, compassionate, and happy to help.

We hope to hear from you soon, good luck!
-National Runaway Safeline

[Guest]

I hate my dad he so ugh I don’t know one minute he nice the next minute he is smacking me or telling me to hold out my hands he use a belt to wood me he made lines on me I started bleeding but the sore healed also he bust my lip a couple times and he slam me against the wall and he choke me and when I told the cps lady he told her I was lying and he do hit me he said it’s called discipline and he won’t let me do cheer I wish cps can just take me and I could get adopted by a rich family or a family who loves me and would let me do cheer I have my own room that my dream pls make it come true

[ccsmod3]

Hi thank you for reaching out. It sounds like your dad has been abusing you and that is absolutely not okay. That is frustrating that dad told CPS you were the one lying when really it is him. Calling CPS again is always an option, might be helpful if you were able to speak to them when not around your dad so that you can tell them everything. You deserve to feel safe and loved in your own home. Sadly, we cannot guarantee that CPS would remove you right away. They generally take the report and then do an investigation and determine how to move forward. It could also be helpful to tell an adult that you trust so they can also try and get you the help that you need. If you would like to talk more about this or some other possible options, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS