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  • #16
    If i call cps and they take me will i be allowed to bring my dog

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are worried about bringing your dog if CPS removes you from your home.

      Unfortunately, if you report the abuse to CPS and they investigate and find home too unsafe and remove you, they typically would not be able to bring your dog into any placement. It's possible that you could bring your dog if you are placed with an informal caregiver like a family member, however, foster homes do not typically take youth and their dogs.

      We hope this information is helpful. If abuse is your situation and you would like to explore your reporting options please do not hesitate to call or chat us: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

      Best,

      NRS

  • #17
    i really don’t want to live here, my older sisters beats me up whenever she feels like it and i told my parents and they don’t even care. they always blame me whenever she hits me or pulls my hair and i scream for help but they always put the blame on me. they would say something like “why were you even born””we found you in the trash” “where you get your stupidity from”. i started cutting myself years ago because i was depressed about my life, they forced me to work for them and i don’t get paid then they hurt me emotionally and physically i don’t know if i can do this anymore, i just want to be gone and disappear from this.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time. Abuse is never okay and should not be tolerated. You always have the right to report any type of abuse. You can make an abuse report by calling The Child Help Hotline at: 1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help please give us a call at any time. If you ever feel like you’re in immediate danger please call 911, and an officer will be able to help you.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide you with support. We wish you the best of luck in your situation!
      NRS

  • #18
    If I'm not being abused or neglected can I still call CPS? And what will happen to my other siblings? What if my parent isn't being abusive while they are there? Can I call child services if I don't want to live with my family? Does it matter that my parent works all day everyday besides the weekend? If my parents have joint custody does my other parent take me? What if my other parent doesn't have the living conditions for me?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It’s great that you are actively seeking out help for yourself with us. If you think you think or feel like you are being abused it’s important to know that it is never okay. It sounds like you are in a tough living situation in general and that is always a difficult place to be in.

      Unfortunately CPS focuses on cases of abuse or neglect so calling them otherwise might not be too helpful. If you are being abused and want to reach out to CPS or file an abuse report they might be able to help. We are not legal experts so we cannot say for sure how to navigate custody arrangements. We encourage you to reach out to your other parent if you feel comfortable to tell them how you have been feeling at home. Other options to consider are friends and family that you might be able to reach out to for support and possibly a place to stay if you are considering running away. If you have any more questions/concerns or just want to talk we are here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929.

      Best of Luck,
      NRS

  • #19
    so my parents (specifically my dad) are extremely mentally abusive and have yelled at me for the smallest things and acted like i just killed someone when i accidentally spilled something and its gotten so far as too making me want to self harm or kill myself my dad is the scariest person i know and on a couple of occasions has hit me but they didn't leave marks so he said it “didn't count” but even so every time my dad starts yelling at me im always scared that he's going to grab one of his knives and start going at it my mom has yelled at me for either eating too much or eating too little and no matter what its always the same and on top of that i had come out as ftm trans and she yelled at me for being confused called me an ‘it’ and said to grow the ******** up its gotten to the point where i dont even really consider them family anymore and no matter what they’ll never change and even if they did i'd still have the memories of the ******** they did to me they’ve been doing it for so long that since i was about 6 i’ve wished for someone to show up and take me away or to be able to run away and never come back or at least for my parents to split up cause even my mom is scared of my dad most of the time

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi, thanks for posting tonight. We realize it takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out. It sounds like things are very scary and hurtful with your parents, especially your dad. You mentioned your dad has hit you and is very emotionally abusive. It also seems like sometimes your mom says damaging things to you too. You do not deserve to be hit or spoken to that way. You do always have the right to make an abuse report if you wanted to. Child Help (1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org) has crisis counselors on staff 24/7 on the phone to provide more information at abuse and support you through it. They can also be a first step to reporting if you want to report. We know it can be very hard to make that call. If you decide you want to make an abuse report and would like some support, we can conference call with you to make the report. Call us anytime, 24/7, at 1-800-786-2929 and let us know you would like to conference call for an abuse report. We are available to talk confidentially too, so you can always call or chat online without providing your name or any info even if you do not want to report the abuse.

      You also mentioned sometimes wanting to hurt or kill yourself. This is not uncommon for many youth who are having such a hard time at home. Your safety is our first priority! Again, we are 24/7 by phone and live chat here on the website so feel free to reach out if you are having thoughts to harm yourself. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255, suicidepreventionlifeline.org) and National Alliance on Mental Health (Text NAMI to 741-741) are also 24/7 and can help with thoughts of self-harm or suicide. If you are in immediate danger of being hurt by your dad or of hurting yourself, you can always call 911 and have someone come check on you in person. Additionally, the Trevor Project can also offer support, specifically for LGBTQ folks: 1-866-488-7386, thetrevorproject.org.
      There is also the Trans Lifeline (1-877-565-8860, https://www.translifeline.org/.) and LGBT NAtional Youth Talkline (1-888-843-4564, glbthotline.org).

      It certainly sounds like you have been through a lot and living with your parents feels unsafe and harmful. Child Help, mentioned above, may also be able to discuss getting custody transferred to safe adult. If you have any other family members, talking to them about what is going on and asking if you could stay there may be another option. If you do decide to runaway, feel free to reach out to us. We are here to help problem solve, discuss options, and keep you safe.

      You noted that your mom is also often afraid of your dad. A helpful resource for she and you both may be the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, thehotline.org. They can help discuss with your mom an exit strategy for you and her if she wants to leave your dad and can provide some safe places to stay.

      Thank you again for reaching out. It is a had thing to do. We are here 24/7 to talk and support you so call or chat anytime for more options or to find a safe place near you. Best of luck!
      Last edited by ccsmod15; 08-02-2019, 01:24 AM.

  • #20
    I'm going to call cps tomorrow because my mom is seeing and hearing things that aren't there, and she said something really horrible to my only friends family, and I'm not allowed to go there anymore. We've need best friends for 7 years, I'm 15. I really scared to because we don't have a phone. I have to call from my neighbors house. I haven't spoken to her at all, and I live with my mom, my uncle who is a felon and my mental but also cool I guess bipolar grandmother.i spent most of the summer at my friend's house, and only my friend knew about my mom. Mom fliped when we were in the car with my friends mom.they are the ones who want me to call. They want to adopt me, I would love that but it would take a long time to do that. I think, and I'm not in school, but I need to get back in after the 5th, when I am gonna call. My family would probably hate me for calling, but we don't have a vehicle, the floor is falling through, and I can't socialize. There is a lot of arguing to, and I've been kicked out like once a year my whole life, except resently. I don't even have a functional room. I need to call my friend then cps, and I've only used a phone like once. I was about to hyperventilate texting my friend about this. Did I mention that I have been around drugs for the first half of my life. Mom and my uncle did rehab. I'm scared, and tired of life, cuz it hates me. Oof

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Everyone deserves to live somewhere where they are safe and where their needs are being met. Some of what you described sounds like neglect and you definitely have the right to report it. If you do want more information about filing an abuse report you can check out chidhelp.org. It's great to hear that you have friends that are supportive and that will help make the report for you since you don't have access to a phone. If you'd like, we can also make a report on your behalf. Since you don't have a phone you can always do this via our live chat option by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage.

      You mentioned that both your mom and your uncle had previously gone to rehab because of issues with drugs. It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with addiction. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have addiction issues you can check out Narateen by going to https://www.nar-anon.org/narateen.

      Be safe and best of luck,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod1; 08-04-2019, 04:30 AM.

  • #21
    How would you know if your case is closed?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS with your question. If you are asking about a prior case with the child protective services in your state, contacting the caseworker that was assigned to your case would be a good place to start. If you would like help finding your state's contact number for child protective services, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

      Good luck,
      NRS

  • #22
    If cps take me away can I choose to live with a friend and not a family member/foster family?

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are wondering if CPS removes you from your home if you can decide who you want to live with. That is a good question, typically if you have family that you can live with they will give them a chance to take you first, if the environment is safe.If you are trying to stay with a friend they more than likely would have to go through the foster family process like any one else. If you want specific information regarding your case it may be best to contact the CPS caseworker. If you ever wanted to obtain more information regarding CPS and how that process works you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or if you want to do a conference call. Best of luck with everything!
      Last edited by ccsmod3; 09-13-2019, 02:20 AM.

  • #23
    I’m not sure if it’s okay for me to call CPS.
    My parents have always been super mentally abusive but have never really “hit” me though I have been pushed and pinned into a corner before. They treat me like a horrible person by just me acting normally. I have social anxiety so I’m often in my room alone and they keep trying to force me into situations I’ve told them either make me have anxiety or panic. I’ve also been kicked out of the house often sometimes for super small things. They mess with my head so when I get upset my a name they call me and bring it up later they act like they never said it and make me question myself even though they had actually said it. I’ve often been put into stressful situations and situations that give me anxiety but they force me to do them as “preparations for life”. I’d thought about calling CPS and have always been scared. I want to but I’m a minor and also am not sure if texting the number is able to be done as well since I don’t want anyone to hear and try to stop me which my parents have done by turning off power or even getting the phone service to turn it off.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. We are very sorry that you are going through all of this. You have so very much to deal with and have been very brave. The tactics you describe of your parents causing you to question yourself and doubt what really happened is called “gaslighting”. You can google the term and find out a lot of information on this form of emotional abuse. It is not surprising that you suffer from anxiety, likely brought on by the way you are treated. You do not deserve to be treated this way. And being kicked out is not okay either. It is not legal for them to withhold support of you.

      You can call CPS on your own behalf. Some states have an online form that anyone can use. What they are looking for is specific dates, witnesses, doctor visits, etc. But if you don’t have that, try to work things out from your memory of what happened and when. Unfortunately you won’t be able to text the number, but you can file anonymously. You can also reach out to us and we will help you make the call. You can also reach out to Child Help, the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org You can also google your state’s child abuse agency to see if they have an online form.

      We are here for you, 24/7 to talk over the situation, to help you file, to let us file for you. You can reach us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through our website at 1800runaway.org We understand that it may be hard for you to reach out, but we are all very nice and have been helping youth in crisis since 1974. We truly are here to listen and to help.
      Sincerely, NRS

  • #24
    Hi, I’m 17 years old and have a very emotionally and mentally abusive mother. At times living with her almost seems unbearable. I suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder, which is a mental health issue that makes living life very difficult. It affects your anger, your mood, your relationships, your motivation, your self esteem and much more. I have been trying to get better but it’s hard to do so because my mom says stuff like “Are you gonna overdose again? Maybe you can do it right this time”. She is constantly calling me mentally Ill and that she will have me admitted to a state mental hospital as soon as I turn 18. She is always telling me that I am nothing to her. She went as far as saying “ you’re gonna be on the corner when you turn 18 maybe somebody will shoot you with herion haha”. I’m adopted and my real parents are herion addicts and hearing that come out of her mouth was a gut punch. I couldn’t figure out how somebody could say that to another human being. Almost felt like I didn’t have feelings. I have tried many times to mend me and my mothers relationship but I have come to terms that could never be possible. I turn 18 in October but from now until then is a bit of time, I don’t think I can last here until then, my mental health is dropping drastically. All that I’ve worked for is crushed and down the drain. I’ve thought about calling cps but I’m afraid nothing would be done about this considering my mother is extremely manipulative and would deny everything I say. I have a place to go but since I’m still a minor I need permission. She tells me to leave and she says that she doesn’t care if I do but if I dare to step one foot out the door the cops would be called in 2.5 seconds and she would tell them that I’m running away. My question is if I just get up and leave would the cops be obligated to bring me back even back into this abusive environment? I refuse to be treated like this. Should I call cps? Would it be worth it? I’m just confused.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      We are sorry to hear you are being abused by your mother. That's extraordinarily difficult and unfair. You deserve to feel loved and supported and it's such a shame your mom is mistreating you so badly. It sounds like you've already tried to heal the relationship with your mom, but so far without success. It sounds like you want out of the house, an considering what you've shared that's pretty understandable.

      Ultimately, we can't tell you what to do but you certainly have the right to call CPS. If you'd like to file a report with CPS through us, you can do that. All you would do is call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can file a report for you. Now, what that would accomplish is something we cannot say. It's possible CPS would perform an investigation that could separate you from your mom. It's also possible they investigate and you aren't separated. It's not a guarantee. So, whether you file or not mostly depends on what you want to do, what feels right to you. We support you either way.

      We also cannot say for sure how the police would handle your situation if you left home and your mom filed a runaway report. Generally speaking, the police do not actively try to track down runaway youth. They also might factor in your age -- being so close to turning 18 -- into their decision making as to how seriously to follow up any possible report your mother makes. So, while it's always a possibility that the police would take you to live with your mom again, it's by no means certain.

      Hopefully, this information is helpful. We'd like to further help out if you are willing to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7, are confidential and non-judgmental. We have a large database of resources to assist; things like shelters, mental health agencies, legal aid, and the like. You can also chat with us online by clicking on the chat option on our website's main page: www.1800runaway.org.

      Please know that you're not alone. We hope to hear from you soon.

      Good luck,
      NRS

  • #25
    Id like to leave my home, i just don't feel loved and stuff being here,it makes my life so incredibly hard.

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    • ccsmod10
      ccsmod10 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #26
    If my mom is abusing drug and leaving me homless and i have a baby on the way and i want my uncle to take responsibility over me what do i do

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #27
    I am a 17 year old girl being physically and mentally abused by my mom. If i have proof and i go to court do u think i can get emancipated and could they help me get a place and a new job?

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hey there,
      Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are here to help in any way we can.
      You said that you are being physically and mentally abused. No child deserves to be abused. In case you are interested in reporting your abuse, the number for the National Child Abuse Helpline, Child Help, is 1-800-422-4453. Their website is childhelp.org. If you want to call in but would like another line of support, you can call into us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we would be happy to call out with you. If you ever find yourself in immediate danger, please call 911.
      We are not legal experts, and court processes and judgments vary state to state and district to district, but our understanding is that emancipation is a somewhat long and expensive process. Since you are 17, it is possible that you might turn 18 before the process is complete. However, that may not be true for your jurisdiction, so if that is something that you are hoping to look further, you can certainly contact your local courthouse. If you want to talk through some more specific resources, feel free to call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we have some state-by-state resources we are happy to talk through with you!
      In terms of getting a place and a new job, our understanding is that courts ask you to prove your ability to support yourself before granting emancipation. What might be beneficial for you are transitional living programs, which help people with housing and job skills to help people get on their feet during transitional periods. If you are interested in hearing more about transitional living programs in your area, we are happy to help you find some if you call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
      If you would like to talk through these or any other options you may have, give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are a 24/7, toll-free, completely confidential safeline. Here to listen, here to help.
      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • #28
    Hello, I live in a home with a parent who is mentally abusive and manipulative, I left my moms house to live with him because my mom ignored me and I didn't eat enough etc, I want to leave my dads house now but I really don't want to go back to my moms house, both of my parents are horrible and I don't know what my options are, what do I do, I have friends that say I could stay with them and their family until I have made decisions, but i'm still so lost

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    • ccsmod10
      ccsmod10 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #29
    So I am 15. I have always been in fights with my parents for as long as I can remember but now they are calling me at school to threaten me! My principles and teachers have noticed and sat me down to talk about it. They have declared that I am abused but only told me if I ever feel unsafe I can leave and explain my side of the story if my family calls the cops. But the thing is I don't want to wait until it happens I want to leave now. Can I do that?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have dealing with something very difficult at home with your parents, it’s obvious to outsiders and it’s recently escalated. Feeling like you can’t live like this anymore nor wait for it escalate into something dangerous is understandable. You are also the best judge on what you can tolerate or how likely this is to get much worse.

      You are also asking about running away, so let’s share more information about that. We are not legal experts here at NRS, here are some legal “rules of thumb.” In most states in the U.S., you can not LEGALLY leave home and live somewhere else without your parent’s permission. You need to be 18 to have this legal right.

      If your parents choose to do this, they may file a Runaway Report with the police. If the police find you, they will bring you back home. It is not illegal for you to run away -- it’s just a status offense. While “legally,” anyone who lets you stay with them could be charged with the crime harboring a runaway, this isn’t likely.

      So think about if there’s anything you can do to make the conditions at home better or calmer. If not, then it sounds like running is an option to look more into. We hope this information above has been helpful for you to think through these next seps.

      Thank you again for reaching out to us. If you’d like to discuss this anymore or chat more about what’s going on at home,, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

  • #30
    My parents are emotionally abusing me because I came out as ftm and they don’t believe me. Can I call CPS and live with my friend if their family adopts me? Also. My family moved from England to America a few years ago and we don’t have a green card yet. Will I be sent back to England if I call cps? Will I be able to move away from home because of emotional abuse?

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts but we might be able to assist you with locating legal aid services in your area for more specific information pertaining to your situation

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS
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