i need to figure some things out..but CANT

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okay, just the other night my dad took my phone for NO REASON...second, im treated different from my other 5 siblings(3sisters, 2brothers)..they get what they want..i dont..they wanna go somewhere..they can go..but me??no..if i ask to go somewhere..im told that "we are doing something"..my sisters ask to go somewhere..."oh yeah you can go"...i dont understand..i cant do anything at all..i cant even go over to my cousins house who lives 5 minutes down the road...UUUGGGHHH..it makes me so mad please help

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Re: i need to figure some things out..but CANT

Thanks for writing on our bulletin boards. It sounds like there’s a lot going on at home that you’re unhappy with. We’re so sorry to hear that your dad treats you differently than your siblings. That has to be frustrating. Do you have any idea why this might be? Have you ever asked your dad why he allows your siblings to do things that he doesn't allow you to? If so, what has he said?

Being treated unfairly is never a fun situation to be in. How have you been coping with all this? Is there anything that would help this situation within your power to change? It sounds like you’re being affected by your dad’s actions. Obviously it would be nice if you could just change the way he treats you, but that might not be realistic. If you’re not able to change how he treats you, how do you think you’ll continue to deal with it?

You wrote that you wanted help. What kind of help are you looking for? If there’s anything specific you’d like our help with, please let us know.

We’d love to talk to you further about how you’re feeling and different options. Someone is available at our hotline 24 hours a day. We’re 100% confidential and anonymous. If you get a chance to call, we’ll be here. Best of luck.

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Re: i need to figure some things out..but CANT

well you see i have always been treated different..my parents have been married/together for 15 years...im happy that i have a family to live with..but i just dont understand..my mom borrowed my $50 that i got for my b-day...and said she would give it back...well guess what??she didnt...and like i feel like im in a cage...i cant go anywhere..if they go somewhere i have to stay home..i just dont get it...they go have fun...but im stuck at home doing NOTHIN..i've tried talking to my parents but they just say whatever or it doesnt matter...well it does cuz i feel like they dont love me..i have thought bout running away..more than once...like i think that if i do and im gone just long enough for them to figure out how im feeling it might work..but then again idk...the help is just someone i can talk to and be able to let them know how i feel...its just so hard on me..i feel like im lost in a world to where there is no life but my feelings that wont go away...i mean really wats the point of life at 14???

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Re: i need to figure some things out..but CANT

Thanks for writing back to us. We’re so sorry to hear that all this has been going on for a long time. It sounds like you’ve tried to figure out ways to change how your parents treat you, but it hasn’t worked so far. You’re obviously incredibly strong to make it this far. It’s imaginable why you wouldn’t want to be at your house, when you’re treated differently than everyone else.

You wrote that you’ve thought about running away in the past, but you’re unsure about it. It’s great that you’re really thinking through what would happen if you ran away, including the pros and cons of returning home. It’s definitely not a decision to make lightly. If you ever start feeling like leaving again, just remember we’re always here to talk to you about it. There’s a great list of questions from our website to ask yourself before running away too:

• What else can I do to improve my home situation before I leave?
• What would make me stay at home?
• How will I survive?
• Is running away safe?
• Who can I count on to help me?
• Am I being realistic?
• Have I given this enough thought?
• What are my other options?
• If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
• When I return home, what will happen?

You also mentioned that the help you’re looking for is someone to talk to. Do you have anyone in your life that you can turn to when you need support? What about a school counselor or teacher? Of course, we’d be happy to talk to you if you were ever able to call us. We could talk about what’s going on and try to find options that you’d be comfortable with. We may even be able to find a counselor or someone in your area that you could talk to on a more regular basis. Maybe someone that could help you talk to your parents about how you’re feeling.
Our hotline is available 24/7. You’re welcome to call anytime. We’d love to try to help you further. Remember you’re not alone through all this.

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Re: i need to figure some things out..but CANT

i dont want to go to my skool conselor cuz they will tell my parents even though they say they wont...its happened before..and if i do runaway i will be in austin at a friends house...and then i will go from there....im just scared that if i do that i will get seriously hurt(mentally)and i dont want that to happen.....

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Re: i need to figure some things out..but CANT

It's good that you're continuing to look at both sides of all your options. It's understandable that you wouldn't want to go to a school counselor for fear that they'd tell your parents. If you're willing and able to call, we're always here. It might make the process of sharing easier for both of us. As stated before, we'd be happy to talk to you about what's going on, your possible options and help you come up with a plan of action that you're comfortable with. Someone is available here 24 hours a day. You can call anytime, day or night.