Im 13 and i need to get out of here.

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Im 13 years old and i live in Nebraska. My dad has abused me with a belt and has grabbed my arm. I have thought of running away many times but im to scared to talk to an adult about any of my problems. Im a scared. I have burnt myself many times and i have only traced my arms with scissors. My dad wants my brother to move out but he is the only person i can really connect with at my house. I dont want to live here anymore and i just want help on how i can get out of here. I have been wishing often if my parents would get a divorce. Im pretty much just giving up now. I have nothing else to do. I have a bag packed and ready to leave whenever. The only person that is making me stay is my best friend. I have talked to her about everything. She tells me i shouldnt but i have to get out of here. Im to nerves to talk to anyone else about my issues. Please help me. I have ran out of ideas. This is my last resort. I just want to get out of my house i dont want to move out of state or anything maybe just with a friend or something. Contact me please.
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Re: Im 13 and i need to get out of here.

Thank you for sharing with us about your difficult situation. We are so sorry to hear that you have been abused by your dad. No one deserves to be hit or grabbed. It is good that you have a best friend that you can trust, and it sounds like your brother is also a support. Have you talked to anyone else about this (teacher, counselor, neighbor or other family members)? Do you think you would want to make a report to Child Protective Services (CPS)? With making a report, it will let CPS know if they need to do an investigation. It can also be helpful to document all the abuse by writing it down and taking pictures.

It sounds like home is not safe and understandable that running away is your only option. Do you know where you would go? Do you think your parents would file a runaway report? You had mention that you wish your parents would get a divorce. Would this change your situation? If so, do you would help or make things worst or stay the same?

If you want to make a report to CPS or ask questions, you can contact the Nebraska Child Abuse Reporting hotline at 1800-652-1999. They are available 24 hours a day. If you do decide to leave, you can also contact Covenant House at 1800-999-9999 (http://www.covenanthouse.org/). They are a 24 crisis line that can help with shelter resources or if you just want to talk.

You can also contact the National Suicide Hotline at 1800-273-TALK (8255) if you are feeling sad or depressed or harming yourself.

We are a confidential 24/7 crisis line and here to help. You are welcome to call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) whenever you feel comfortable. We can help to discuss options, look up resources, and help make a report to CPS or just someone to listen. We wish you the best!


~NRS

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Re: Im 13 and i need to get out of here.

I know this is an older post. I am not sure if you will even be checking back. Still just in case I wanted you to know I am listening. If you believe your father to be abusive and you are worried about him hurting you please tell your counselor at school. Just tell the teacher you need to talk to them. Be as honest with them as possible don't leave anything out. Holding back stuff just makes it worse. You sound scared. If you chose not to do this you just have to get through it to adulthood. Try writing your Dad a letter. If you are afraid to give it to him accidentally leave it somewhere he might find it. When he questions you tell him you were sad and were just writing stuff down and didn't mean for him to find it. Tell him you were afraid to talk to him. That you love him and when he hits you with the belt it is driving you two a part. Tell him you try hard and you want to make him happy but with him hitting you it is destroying your trust and understanding. Ask him if grounding you from tv and computer can be instead of hitting with belt. Maybe if he already grounds from those things you could suggest he just lengthen the grounding. I will be praying for you. I wish you all the luck in the world.

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Thanks for offering your words of encouragement and suggestions for the poster to make things better.