13 and wants to get the heck out of house

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I am 13, I home school, and it's a pain with my mom. My mom has no problems but she turns it into a pain. I came to the conclusion I don't need to be educated. A basic understanding of life, my hobby, and business is all I want. I don't want to learn Latin, Latin will just make me not want to learn another language. I was thinking moving from a my parents house located near Chicago to my dad's family in Indiana.

Do you think that is a good idea?

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Re: 13 and wants to get the heck out of house

Hello,

We are so glad you reached out to us today. Feeling that your education situation is not going to help you in the future can be frustrating. It sounds like you are frustrated with your education and how your mom responds when
you raise concerns about the value of what you are learning. There are many options such as looking at other schooling options in your current area with a wider choice of courses that you feel will better meet your future
goals, talking with your dad about what his educational goals for you would be if you were to move in with him, or possibly talking with your school counselor.
In Illinois the compulsory or required school age of attendance is seven to seventeen, so if you are not registered in a school or an accredited home schooling program you and your parents could face legal problems for truancy.
Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us today. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really important. If you would like to talk further about your
situation or need help finding resources, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re here to listen and here to help.

Good luck,
NRS

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Re: 13 and wants to get the heck out of house

I'm homeschooled too. My mom and I fight a ton. I also need help. I talked about suicide and running away. One day mom and I fought and I wailed and wailed and then I put on my coats and boots and went down the street. I couldn't run away. It'd break my heart. I would listen to anyone telling you to ask for help because pushing it off isn't enough and doesn't help. Thanks and good luck!

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RE: 13 and wants to get the heck out of the house

The situation that you’re describing sounds really overwhelming. It’s scary when parents fight, especially the kind of big fights that you’re referring to. But it’s great that you have people in your life that you care about, like your brother, and it’s smart to reach out for help when you are dealing with something difficult.
First of all, if you are dealing with thoughts of suicide, you can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. This website might help too: http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ You should not have to deal with that on your own.
One thing to consider is finding someone to talk to who can support you. It might help to find an adult who can be in your corner, and who you can share your feelings with so you don’t have to face them alone. That could be a therapist, or you could think if there’s anyone in your support network who could do that: people at school, or other relatives. At NRS, we have a database of free or affordable resources, and could help you connect with a therapist.
Another angle to think about is how to communicate with your parents. Based on what you’ve shared, it may be that they don’t know how their actions are affecting you. It might be worth exploring if there’s a way to talk to them about your fears without conflict. That could include family counseling as well. We could offer you resources for that as well.
You can call us 24/7 and we are totally confidential. We can also help talk through what your biggest concerns are, and what next steps you could take. But thank you for reaching out.