Being Forced To Move

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Im being forced to move in with my mom. She recently started dating a close friend and, without telling me or my siblings, got engaged to him. They moved about an hour away from me and i currently live with my brother and his family, and i am perfectly happy there. I have gone to the school in my area for almost 5 years now, and it's the happiest i've been in a really long time. i finally have friends and a healthy home life and i wouldn't trade it for anything. However, i recently started speaking to my mother again and have begun trying to fix our rocky relationship, although i still despise my stepdad. She is forcing me to move out to her, in the woods, away from most city areas. I'm 13 and recently started Middle School, and she expects me to move at the end of the year. My brother plans to move him and his family even farther away from us, and i have no other options. I have spoken to my mother and used the 'but my friends' excuse and other things. She will not listen and it's like she doesn't even care about how any of this is troubling me. She claims she wants to move me out with her because 'she misses me' but even as i clearly have a phone, has made no effort to contact me prior to this situation. She fears that if she moves me out i will hit another depressive state and start self harming again, and i think shes right. I dont know what else to do.

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Hi,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation between a rock and a hard place. It was very honorable of you to reach out to your mom to mend your relationship. That shows your maturity and compassion for others. Moving to a new school can be really overwhelming and it’s understandable that you would want to stay at a school that you’ve felt safe and happy in. You wrote that both you and your mom are concerned about your mental health. Your safety is our top concern. If you ever feel like you might be in danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. It could also be a great option to look into family counseling for you and your mom. Another resource available to you is our conflict mediation service; we are here 24/7 if you ever need help having a fair conversation with your mom. If you have any questions, need additional resources, or just need someone to talk to, we are always here at 1-800-786-2929. We wish you the very best.
Sincerely,
NRS