help me

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hi im 12 turning 13 im may and i want to run away i have a boyfriend that is 24 can i go over to his house and he also lives right aroung the block but if i go over there and i get peragent what do i do and if we have sex it would be my frist time should i go over there to get payback at me mother for having me and marring my stepfather please help me

[ccsmod16]

Re: help me

Thanks for reaching out to us! It sounds like you’re dealing with several very difficult issues and we’d love to discuss them with you. We know that it can be hard to ask for help and we appreciate you contacting us.

You’ve mentioned that you’re thinking about running away, which is one option. It’s important to think about the consequences of each option and whether or not you would be able to meet your needs. Running away is not a crime, but since you are a minor, your mother could file a runaway report with the police and they could bring you back home. While you would not be arrested for running away, there would probably be serious consequences for your boyfriend. He could be charged and arrested for a number of crimes, so that is a possible consequence to consider.

Having sex for the first time is a big decision and we are glad that you are thinking ahead about the consequences of that decision as well. Pregnancy is one possible consequence for your health, along with the possibility of STIs. Because you are a minor and your boyfriend is an adult, there could also be serious legal repercussions for him and he could face a police arrest and jail time for statutory rape; which is a serious crime. If you decide to go through with your plan, you may want to think about how you would deal with these situations. Some things to consider are how you would provide for yourself, what you would want to do if you did become pregnant, and where you could seek medical attention if necessary. We’re sorry to hear that your relationship with your mother is not going well. Is talking to her about how you feel an option? Are there any other family members, friends, or teachers that you would feel comfortable talking to about this? It’s important to have support from the people in your life and we are happy to support you as well.

It sounds like you have a lot of different things to think about and we’re really glad that you reached out to us. We’d love to discuss this with you more and we are available 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). You’re being responsible by thinking about the consequences of your decisions and we are here to support you in any way that you can. We are looking forward to hearing from you!

[Unregistered]

Re: help me

so if i go over there i cant get into trouble only he can but also my parnets cant meet him becasue he is mexican and they are like i cant date any thing but white guys but i dont know how to tell them that i dont like white guys only black and mexican but mostly mexican how do i tell them

[ccsmod3]

Re: help me

Hello again,

We're glad you feel comfortable reaching out to us for help. We imagine it's difficult not having your parents agree with the race/ethnicity of guys you're attracted to. We talked about it a little in our first response; however, there may be serious risks and consequences if a 24 year old man becomes sexually involved with you. You might find the website Love is Respect helpful since they go over what healthy relationships look like. You can check them out here if you're interested: http://www.loveisrespect.org/healthy-relationships/. Also, our Live Chat is currently open if you'd like to give that a try to continue talking. Good luck!

[Unregistered]

Re: help me

so im the person that started the chat me and my parnets just got into a big fight and i old them that i dont want there last names and i want to runaway RIGHT NOW what should i do help me it is runaway or kill my self so help ASAP and if i runaway i cant get into troule

[ccsmod1]

RE: help me

Hello,

Thank you for writing back to us. It sounds like your situation has gotten very serious, and you are considering killing yourself. If you are thinking about suicide, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource. Please check them out at www.youmatter.nationalsuicidelifeline.org or call them directly at 1-800-273-8255. If you are in danger of hurting yourself, another option could be to call 911. We are also here to support you and help however we can. Please call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our live chat. You said you are hoping to run away right now and not get in trouble. Our main priority is your safety, and we can help you make a plan to stay safe. We are looking forward to your call, and wish you the best of luck.