my uncle wants to kick me out

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idk wat to do know i been having problems with my uncle. im living at his house because my mom is out of the country an well i cant ask my dad for help why because the reason why i moved out was because he drinked to much and well most of my family seen that he mostly insulted me many times. my uncle wants to kick me out of his house caz he says i be home real late i be home before 9 he be talking to my mom about me bein late that he dnt want me to be in his house no more so his trying to send me out oof the country so he wont have to deal with me no more but i dnt have no where to go. right now its my senior year im trying to finish school but my dad and my uncle are pressuring me to go away to central america and im really concern about my education. i ranaway once before sometime ago like 2 years ago because my dad drinking habit i didnt want him to be pushing me around like he used to or be screamed at i got tired. i got my best friend trying to helping me out but his mom is scare that my dad would try to put charges on her or my bestfriend. so i dnt know if my bestfriend mom can help because i really dnt know if she could be charged but helping as in moving in with her. im 18 already and my parents think they can treat me as they want. what can i do?

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Re: my uncle wants to kick me out

Thanks so much for writing. It sounds like your dealing with a difficult situation at the moment and trying to figure out what to do. You mentioned that you have been staying with your uncle because your mom is out of the country and you’re unable to stay with your dad. It sounds like living with your dad has never been a good or safe situation because he drinks a lot. How long has that been going on for? Have you ever spoken with anyone about your dad’s drinking and that he has pushed and screamed at you before? Nobody deserves to be treated like that and it’s understandable that you don’t feel comfortable at home with your dad. How long have you been staying with your uncle? When did your uncle start having problems with you and saying he was going to kick you out? You mentioned that they were trying to pressure you to go to Central America? Is that where your mom is currently located? How is your relationship with your mother? Have you been able to talk with her about the situation at all?

One thing you mentioned is that you have a friend who has been very supportive and you may be able to live with him, but his mom is afraid that your dad will press charges. Now you said that you are currently 18, and in most states the age of majority, when you are considered an adult, is 18. So if you decided that you wanted to go stay with a friend, your dad may not be able to do much to stop you. Now we are not lawyers here so we don’t know the specific laws in your area but that may be a possibility. How long do you think you could stay with your friend’s family? Do you think that you could stay there until you finished school? It’s good that you have your friend and his family as support and that they are there for you if you need them. One thing you could possibly do to check on the laws in your area would be to contact your local police and see if you are considered an adult at the age of 18. Perhaps they would be able to tell you if you could leave your uncle’s house and stay with your friend, even if your father doesn’t give you permission. Do you think it would be helpful to talk with someone from school, like a teacher or counselor? Perhaps they could help talk with you and advocate for your situation. Also you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone available 24 hours a day to listen. We are here to discuss options and even find specific resources in your area. In the meantime stay safe and remember that we are here 24 hours a day to help.

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Re: my uncle wants to kick me out

thanks for the advice
and....
well my dad has been like that since years i beraly moved to my uncles in june and well yes my mom is in central america i have a good relationship with her but i wanna finish my schooling. yes, my mom knows whats the situation but she cant do nothing thats why she down there. my friend's mom said she dont have a problem with me staying there she wants me to be safe and for me to finish high school she dont want me to drop out. i only plan to stay at my friend's house at least til im out of school thats til may 2009.

and well heres another thing i ranaway from home like in my sophmore year i was like 16. why did i left bcaz of my dad. but my dad reported me as a run away but i dnt know if that would affect me now.

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Re: my uncle wants to kick me out

Thank you for keeping us updated on your situation. It’s very difficult to try and remain safe while continuing with your education. Your safety is very important and can have an effect on a lot of your decisions.

It’s good that you have a supportive relationship with your mom. How long will she be in Central America?

Have you contacted your local police department and inquired about the age of majority for your area? They would also be able to tell you if a previous runaway report would have an effect on you now. You could also contact legal aid in your area and they would be able to answer your questions. If you felt comfortable telling us where you are, we could give you that number.

You could also give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We can help find you local resources and can do conference calls if you need help calling them. We wish you the best of luck!

~NRS

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Re: my uncle wants to kick me out

im not quiet sure how long shes staying there.
i havent talked to a local police bcaz i been working lating but would be alright a police person in my school ask to?
im in kansas city, mo

thanks

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Re: my uncle wants to kick me out

Thank you for responding back. You are welcome to talk to the police at school if you fee that would convientant for you. You can call us here at 1-800RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can help in making the call to your local police. The police are usually available 24/7, just like us. We look forward in talking to you to discuss your situation.

You can also try these resources below for any legal questions:

CASA at (816) 842-2272 or website http://www.jacksoncountycasa-mo.org
16th Judicial Circuit Court-Family at (816) 474-3606


Good luck!

~NRS