i make my mother feel unsafe in her own home.

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I feel as though i need to runaway because of what ive done in my past to make my mother not trust me or feel safe around me. multiple times in my childhood i have stolen money from her, purchased things with her money without her knowing, and lied to her. Ive come to grow from stealing from her and im starting to stop lying to her. Just today, however, a trial from a long time ago on itunes had went through for $76. i got a refund, but i made her reach her point of not trusting me at all. so i feel like i should leave cause i love her too much and all she has done was try to help me and all i did was keep things from her, lie to her, and steal from her. she took my phone away so i have no form of communication to call anyone and tell them where i am, or any type of gps to know where im going. i just need advice on what if m doing is right. i plan on leaving sometime tonight or tomorrow.

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Hi there. Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing part of your story with us. It sounds like you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed by your past and its creating challenges in your life currently. It’s understandable that you would want to leave an environment where you don’t feel trusted. It’s great that you’ve grown from your past mistakes and it sounds like you’re ready for change. Although, you may feel like the trust has been broken between the two of you trust is not impossible to rebuild although it may take a lot of time. It might be helpful to consider telling your mother how you’re feeling and expressing that you would like to start earning her trust back. From what you described, it sounds like you’re mom truly cares for you and would like for you two to have an open and honest relationship. There may be other options such as open communication or even counseling if that is something you’d be interested in. However, if you feel that you must runaway there might be a few things to consider while creating a plan for tonight or tomorrow. Although we are not legal experts in most states you must be 18 years old or older in order to leave home without permission. If you do decide to leave without permission your parents have the right to file a runaway report. If a runaway report is filed and you are found you may be required to return back home. In addition, it might be helpful to think about where you’ll sleep if you leave, how you’ll provide for yourself financially and how you’ll keep yourself safe. We hope this information was helpful. If you’d like to discuss your situation further or are in need of any resources please feel free to reach out to us via phone at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Best of luck, take care.