I'm 18 and my dad makes me want to move out

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I'm and 18 yr old from CA and like I said, my father literally is making me wanna get out of home. I have a plan to meet a friend online and then flee to Canada after things get settled, where life is much better than in CA, with my father. My mother is very supportive, but my father takes the most control and treats me like an animal. I have planned to run away from home since last year, and now I'm at my breaking point. I have even tried to commit suicide to show my sour relationship between me and my father. As a result, I plan to run out of home as I am 18 and not a minor. I do not want to see my father ever again. However I want to ask: Will police come after me in California? What can my parents do to try and get me back?

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Reply: I'm 18 and my dad makes me want to move out

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. The police will not force you to go back.
You do not deserve to be mistreated by your dad. It’s not your fault that he behaves this way.
You are not responsible for his actions. We do understand how disturbing his behavior has been for you.
Since your suicide attempt It sounds like you have been trying to keep it together by coming up with a plan to leave. Good for you.

We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget.
Sometimes things become stressful and frustrating. It is important to practice self-care.

If you are in need of supportive services you may be able to locate something by using the link or number provided.
www.samhsa.gov 1-877-7264727
If you would like to speak more about your situation or go over your plan, please reach out by phone or chat. Contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

Take care,
NRS

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