i wanna leave

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in 6th grade i got a failing grade and got grounded for four weeks. by the time the grounding was almost over another progress report came and i dint bring up the grade. i was grounded again for even longer and my dad made a rule for groundings. 4 weeks for a D and 6 weeks for an E. bieng grounded made me miserable and i couldnt talk to any of my friends exept for in school which kept me from getting better grades. ever since then ive been grounded for basically the whole school year and get summers off. when i was 16 i started experimented with marijuana and ciggarettes. i even started to take cough caplets to get high. i am now 17 and am very miserable. i feel that my parents have ruined my life because i have very few friends becuz i can rarely talk to people. now i am going to court for posession and might get out of it due to police not reading me my rights. i started doing drugs because for the very few moments i could leave the house i felt that i needed to make the most of the time i had. i am overweight and cannot lose the weight due to lack of exercize. the one friend i have known since 2nd grade i am not aloud to talk to anymore becuz my parents think it was his fault i turned out this way when in reality it is theirs. i feel that my parents have ruined my life. when i get older i will have no good memories of good times because ive been locked inside this house. i have 2 brothers one is 18 and one is 16 i am the middle child. my older brother has always been treated better than me and my brother. he was allowed a curfew of 11 at my age and when i get to leave me and my younger brother cannot stay out past 8. i have been talking to my friend on the internet without my parents knowng and i am going to move in with him when i turn 18. his mother said it is ok as long as i cut the grass and clean the house. i think that my early years as an adult will be highly unsuccesful because i will be trying to make up for time lost. i have told my mom that i am going to move out and she doesnt take me seriously i have told her that they ruined my life and im going to move out whether they like it or not. i have twice packed up everything i would need to live in the woods for about four days including food and lighters and a machete. i am currently grounded and will be for the rest of the summer. and i have one year to go till i move out but i want to leave now. what should i do? im sorry for the life story but i felt it would be neccesary for you to understand the situation.

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Re: i wanna leave

Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Switchboard. I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time right now. It sounds like you've been through a lot with your family and it has gotten so bad that you're even thinking of running away. Have you ever run away before? If you run do you think you will ever go back to your parent's house? You also mentioned that when you turn 18 you're going to move out and live with a friend, but you have 1 year left. If you have to stay with your parents do you think there are things that would help to make your stay more bearable? When you get frustrated with your parents are there things you like to do that calm you down? It sounds like you've tried to talk to your parents and they're not very receptive to what you have to say. Would you be able to sit both of them down and tell them how you have been feeling? What do you think they would say/do if you ran away? If you would ever want to talk about this subject more in-depth you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here to talk 24-hours a day. We might be able to look at different options and if you wanted us to look up any resources in your area that might be helpful we could do that as well. Good luck with everything.

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Re: i wanna leave

i havent ever run away before but i am positive i could survive in the woods because i am a avid hunter/ fisher and go camping alot. i dont think there i sanything i can do to make my last year more bearable. i dont have anything i like to do when my parents frustrate me. if i sat down my parents and talked to them they would tell me to stop it and tell me it would be a big mistake to move out. if i ran away i think they would look for me or call the cops and then when i get home i will be grounded again.

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Re: i wanna leave

Thanks again for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. It sounds like you've really thought through some of your options and that you've come up with somewhat of a plan. Do you think you will be able to survive in the woods? How long do you plan on staying there? You mentioned that you thought your parents would look for you or call the cops, what would happen if you were sent back home? Do you think you would run away again? Hopefully weighing all your options and figuring out the best plan will help you decide what action is best for you. Like I mentioned before if you wanted to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY we may be able to talk about this more in-depth and figure out your best plan of action. Again I wish you the best of luck, and don't hesitate to call if you want to discuss this more.