I can't take my mom anymore

[Brooke]

Hi, I'm 17 I'll be 18 in May. My mom treats me like I'm 5 and cats like I can't do anything. And I want to leave the house and go to my boyfriends house were his mom would let me stay. Would I be able to with out her calling the cops on me as a runway?

[ccsmod7]

Re: I can't take my mom anymore

Hello,

Thanks for contacting us. That sounds like it would be really frustrating to be going through that with your mom. That's great that you feel like you have support from your boyfriend and his mom and that they are open to you staying with them.

If you leave home without permission, your mom could report you as a runaway and the police would be authorized to return you home. If you*are reported as a runaway it’s typically just a status offense; however, sometimes people helping runaways are at risk for charges such as harboring a runaway.* This charge is often considered a misdemeanor, but might be something to explore if you or whoever*you would be*staying with are concerned. In some areas the police handle runaway cases for people age 17 a little differently. They may not actively search for you or they might just check if you are safe but not force you to return home. The way police handle runaway cases can vary for county to county and even among police districts. It you want to know for sure how the police in your area handle runaway cases at your age, you could call your police non-emergency line and ask them hypothetically how they handle such cases. If this is something you’re not comfortable with, we can help by calling out to the police for you or by looking up the appropriate number for where you live.

There's definitely a lot to think about when running, like who you would stay with, how you would get there, how you would enroll in school, and how you would pay for things. We are happy to discuss with you some safe options specific to your situation if you decide to call or chat with us.

We hope this information is helppful and hope that you reach out to us if you want to discuss your situation in more detail.
Best,
NRS

[Guest]

I can't take my mom anymore she just doesn't listen to me even when I try to tell her something she constantly interrupts me and then with her job when I try to get her up for work she doesn't get up she waits till the last minute and she's always late I tried to tell her that she'll get fired she keeps doing that but she won't listen what do I do

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us. We’re sorry that things with your mom have been so frustrating. It sounds like you’re not feeling heard by your mom, especially when you’re trying to help her stay on top of her job and getting there on time. We think it’s great that you try so hard to keep your mom on task by helping her keep up with her responsibilities.

Regarding the moments you’ve felt your mom doesn’t listen, perhaps it may help to find out if there are moments when she might be more receptive to talking. If you feel like it’s something that constantly happens with you, perhaps it may help to look for someone that can act as a mediator, like a trusted friend or relative, to help make sure both you and your mom feel heard. If you don’t know of anyone that might be able to do at, you’re welcome to reach out to us. We do offer conference calling with parents and we try our best to set some basic rules so that both you and your mom feels heard. Even if you decide not to use our conference call service, you’re always welcome to reach out to us. We won’t tell you what to do, and we’ll do our best to listen and help you figure out the best way to approach your situation. We’re available 24/7 at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or every day via chat from 4:30pm – 11:30pm CST. We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!
-NRS

[Guest]

I hope things got better. Did they?

[ccsmod4]

Reply: I hope things got better. did they?

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,
NRS

[Guest]

i am 17 and have had to deal will a lot and i want to runaway because i and getting to sick of dealing with my mum and dad if i do can they call the police on me

[ccsmod11]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us so candidly about your situation. It definitely sounds like you're dealing with a lot and so it's understandable why you would want to leave. Unfortunately, your parents would be able to report you as a runaway to the police if you leave home without their permission. Some police departments choose not to take reports or investigate them for 17 year olds, but we have no way of confirming if this is true of your police department.

Best,
NRS