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I am 14 years old, turning 15 in three months. My living situation is a bit complicated. My mother has full custody of me but I do not live with her -- in fact, I barely see her. I live with my grandmother, although legally, I am homeless (as is my mother). My grandmother has four sons living under her roof, only one of which who supports himself (and only to a point).
My grandmother is just barely scraping by, financially, and leeching off of her is one of the worst feelings in the world. She works so hard and yet reaps none of the benefits given all of her money goes to bills and supporting the rest of us. She probably doesn't mind but I can see she is withering away, though she may not see it. She's so exhausted and adding to that stress is ruining me.
My mother may as well not be a part of my life. She does not support me, does not live with me, I only see her sometimes on holidays. She usually visits every one or two months but there has been a recent development in our relationship that I believe will result in her not coming around again. By this, I mean that I may never see her again. She's showed suicidal tendencies and there's always the possibility that she'll kill herself before I'm able to even see her again. I try not to think about this because it won't do me well. I cannot reach her at all and there would be nothing I could do to prevent it. I've come to terms with the possibility that I will never see her again, no matter how much it hurts.
I've begun to consider the option of emancipation very seriously. I don't think I can be emancipated at my age but I think there may be a way to gain some sort of freedom. I'm already living illegally with someone so I figure it wouldn't be that big if a deal if I moved out to live with someone else. There are more work options with the person I'm considering. Note that this person is a family member I've known my entire life and loves me dearly. I'm thinking that maybe I could move in with this person for a year and a half until I'm 16. By that time, I could be completely financially independent. Then, I could file for emancipation.
If my guardian cannot support me and has not been for two years straight, I'm financialy independent and mature, and the only thing I need to be considered an adult by society is my own home (of course, I could get a roommate), would a judge not find me a perfect teen for emancipation? Also, would my being homeschooled have any affect on the judge's decision? I homeschool myself but technically, my aunt would be my teacher as she is the one who supplies me with textbooks and stationary, as well as keeps records.
Know that I refuse to consider the following options: contacting my birth father; contacting child protective services; continuing to leech off of my grandmother.
I am in desperate need of help because the stress of knowing that I'm running my grandmother into her grave is overly taxing and I am CONSTANTLY stressing over the fact that I have no concrete plans for school, work, LIFE. I need to work and support myself. This need is constantly looming like a bright red cloud over my head. I feel helpless and I KNOW that I am not, I simply need to prove to myself and the world of that.
My grandmother is just barely scraping by, financially, and leeching off of her is one of the worst feelings in the world. She works so hard and yet reaps none of the benefits given all of her money goes to bills and supporting the rest of us. She probably doesn't mind but I can see she is withering away, though she may not see it. She's so exhausted and adding to that stress is ruining me.
My mother may as well not be a part of my life. She does not support me, does not live with me, I only see her sometimes on holidays. She usually visits every one or two months but there has been a recent development in our relationship that I believe will result in her not coming around again. By this, I mean that I may never see her again. She's showed suicidal tendencies and there's always the possibility that she'll kill herself before I'm able to even see her again. I try not to think about this because it won't do me well. I cannot reach her at all and there would be nothing I could do to prevent it. I've come to terms with the possibility that I will never see her again, no matter how much it hurts.
I've begun to consider the option of emancipation very seriously. I don't think I can be emancipated at my age but I think there may be a way to gain some sort of freedom. I'm already living illegally with someone so I figure it wouldn't be that big if a deal if I moved out to live with someone else. There are more work options with the person I'm considering. Note that this person is a family member I've known my entire life and loves me dearly. I'm thinking that maybe I could move in with this person for a year and a half until I'm 16. By that time, I could be completely financially independent. Then, I could file for emancipation.
If my guardian cannot support me and has not been for two years straight, I'm financialy independent and mature, and the only thing I need to be considered an adult by society is my own home (of course, I could get a roommate), would a judge not find me a perfect teen for emancipation? Also, would my being homeschooled have any affect on the judge's decision? I homeschool myself but technically, my aunt would be my teacher as she is the one who supplies me with textbooks and stationary, as well as keeps records.
Know that I refuse to consider the following options: contacting my birth father; contacting child protective services; continuing to leech off of my grandmother.
I am in desperate need of help because the stress of knowing that I'm running my grandmother into her grave is overly taxing and I am CONSTANTLY stressing over the fact that I have no concrete plans for school, work, LIFE. I need to work and support myself. This need is constantly looming like a bright red cloud over my head. I feel helpless and I KNOW that I am not, I simply need to prove to myself and the world of that.
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