My Mom doesn't listen to me

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I'm 16 years old and I feel like I'm experiencing some form of either depression or anxiety. This problem started when I was going through my GCE O levels. Recently, I've been staying in my room minding my own business. My sister complains that I don't spend time with her, but when I do, sometimes she's doing her own thing and doesn't want to spend time with me. So it really isnt my fault. She's 12 but she still gets her way. My mum scolds me saying that I'm not spending time with my sisters and that I'm being an antisocial teen. But the truth is, I enjoy my privacy, I do spend time with them at times and I'm already going through anxiety - something I've been trying so hard to tell my mum but she doesn't listen. Plus, I dont have friends of my age. So I feel lonely. Just half an hour ago, my sister asked me if I wanted to play a game with her, my youngest sister (10) and mum. I said sure. But when my sister called me to play, I wasn't feeling well as I had a stomclach ache. I tried to explain to my sister but ofc, she didnt understand and started complaining. Thats when I overheard my mum say something along the lines of "always backing out" or "always like that" or smth like that. My mum gets angry with me a lot for really small matters and she keeps telling me that I'm a bad older sister or a bad teen. But she doesn't give me a chance to explain myself. When I do explain myself, she always has something back to say as if Im always at wrong. She thinks shes always correct. I'm a person who doesn't cry in front of my parents because I have dignity. But my sister crys all the time, making me look like the mean, heartless sister. The truth? I go into my room and cry all day because no one listens to me. My mum now doesn't even allow me to be in my room with the doors closed. I feel like my privacy is gone. Now I do wonder, am I really a bad sister and daughter? Or is my mum, who doesnt understand my problem, the one who is making me feel this way. I don't know what to do. I'm now constantly sad. I was never like this a few months back. I'm tired. I really am.

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re: My Mom doesn't listen to me

Hey there,

It sounds like you are feeling a little misunderstood at home. From what you shared, your mom doesn’t really understand what you are going through. And she doesn’t listen when you try to tell her what’s wrong. You seem to be someone who enjoys being alone sometimes, and your family doesn’t get that about you. That must be really frustrating and weighing heavily to have to deal with alone. We want to know that is not your fault! Sometimes people really just don’t understand others, and that may not be something you can change about them.

You mentioned you are feeling pretty depressed about all of this. That is understandable you are feeling lonely, since you said you don’t have any friends. You can always reach out to us or the national suicide hotline if you need someone to talk to. Their website is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. Is there anyone at school you feel comfortable talking to, like a teacher or other administration person? Maybe a counselor?

We hope you can reach out to someone to try to get some guidance on how to deal with this. You are really strong for trying to get through on your own. Maybe you need some other points of view to really get some solid suggestions.

For further support, you are welcome to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and look forward to your call. Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.

Best,
NRS

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My mum never believes me or listens to me I am so depressed!!!

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

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