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    My name is *******. I am 17 years old, about to turn 18 in February, and have been living with a passive-aggressive ******* of a father for about 5 years now. I live with my younger brother, he's 16, and my mother in a 3-bedroom apartment. Everyone in my family is sick and tired of having to deal with my father. He's always in a bad mood, constantly looking for things to scold me and my brother for, and tirelessly difficult to deal with for any kind of issue.
    He can't be approached or he might flip out and take it as a sign of disrespect when it comes to something as simple as asking for a ride to a friend's house. Today my brother told me that he doesn't like going out with his friend's anymore because the joy of hanging out with his friends just isn't worth the trouble of having to deal with my father with regards to transportation and permission. My father will act like transporting us (very rarely if I might add since we're always looking for ways to avoid it- me and my brother) is a pain that we feel entitled to as selfish little brats. He gets ********** every time we need to get picked up somewhere.
    My mother has been trapped in this sad excuse for a marriage for what seems like an eternity now. My father doesn't seem to show any kind of true love for her and seems to merely tolerate her presence. I can't live like this anymore. I want to leave. About a year ago I lost my head and threatened to kill my father after being depressed and suffering from severe anxiety for about a year. My therapist prescribed me some anti-anxiety medication which I took for a couple weeks before discontinuing it since I felt that it fogged my mind at school. It ****** me off beyond repair to see my mother be stuck in this situation.
    To be clear, I am not a disadvantaged kid. In fact, I attend one of the most expensive private school in the country despite the fact that my father has been unemployed for about 5 years now (with the exception of around a 12 month period where he worked). I have a good computer which my father has resented buying since day one. I have my own room and my brother his. We live comfortably when it comes to food and allowance for going out with friends. However, my father's unemployment has been the misery of my whole family for too long now. He sits around the house all day "studying" for several certifications and diplomas on business that he studies online. He takes over the dinner table/living room area and no one can comfortably be there without feeling smothered by him. Whenever he's not studying he will take the only car available to my family and leave without letting anyone know where or for how long. Sometimes he will go to do groceries, other times he will disappear a whole day and no one can ask where he was or what he did because he will get ****** and just say "Out". I can't live with him anymore.
    My whole family is tied to him because he controls all our financial resources. My mother doesn't work and won't be able to do so for some time (another year at least) and she can't hope to sustain me and my brother anywhere near the level my father does when she finally is able to work. I just got accepted into a prestigious college that is very expensive. Even with financial aid, my mother would very doubtful be able to pay for it. If my parents got divorced and my mom took my brother, it would ruin my brother's life. I would hate to see that happen to him.

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    RE: My miserable, pitiful excuse for a father

    Hello there,

    Thank you for contacting us here at NRS through our online forum. We appreciate you opening up a little about how you feel and what you are currently going through. It sounds like there is a lot of tension at home and you feel like you no longer want to stay there because of your father's passive-aggressive behavior. It seems as if things between you and your family were different it may change the way you feel about living at home. We imagine this is quite aggravating and difficult to deal with. Talking about your situation, and exploring some options regarding what may help or where you may receive some help may bring some insight as well as a solution best fit for you and your family. We are here to listen and help explore those options and resources with you. If you would like to talk more about what is going on, please reach out by phone or chat so that we may better assist you.

    We wish you well and look forward to hearing from you soon.


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