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I'm fifteen years old, and my mother is emotionally abusive and neglectful. Fortunately, I have many things I need due to my father (who is divorced from my mother; I see him half of the time). However, I still lack much needed things - which have included contacts, a phone charger (which seems trivial, but my phone is my alarm for school because I don't have an alarm clock), school shirts, medicine, gym shoes, money for food, and clothes in general. My mother has forced me to be in school when I had a fever (which the nurse wanted to send me home, but she couldn't because my mom refused).
The biggest mark she has made on my life, though, was when she stole money from me. My mother actually does this to me quite frequently, but in this instance it was $220 from a fundraiser so I could attend an educational week in New York. I found out when I checked my bank account to see how much I had left to raise, and I noticed money being transferred to her account and transactions being made near her work. When I confronted her about it, she denied it. Then she claimed it was for food. However, my dad returned to court for full custody, she claimed in the mediation that the money was rightfully hers because she had already made payments towards the trip.
My father never gained full custody. He was forced to come to an agreement with her because he could not afford to continue. In this new custody, he added a section where my mother had to pay me back all of the money by a certain date. My mother claimed to only pay me back because she had to, and did so by putting a check in my birthday card. This was incredibly hurtful for me because the incident had made me very untrustful, which she knew because I had taken her to counseling with me.
Besides stealing, her emotional abuse typically appears in the form of yelling and cursing and name-calling, especially when she's angry (even if it's not at me; she tends to blame me for things that aren't my fault). Likewise, she often blackens my father's name by accusing him of things he has never remotely done - and I know he has never done them after much doubt and questioning of family and friends, specifically those whom were present for the incidents. After experiencing her cold shoulder for much time, I have come to brush her off even when she is a good mood because I still feel hurt. My mother's emotional abuse has even caused my older sister to move out before she was 18.
I'm at a loss for what to do. I have told my father and his wife, as well as my school and personal counselor, teachers, police officers, and family members. No one so far has taken me seriously, and it makes me feel helpless. To make matters worse, I have a Bipolar II with a seasonal pattern, which my mother refuses to take seriously (even though I see a doctor and therapist for it). So far I have been told to wait it out, but in all honesty, the things my mother has done has made me suicidal. And of course, I don't want to die - I want to be helped. But I fear that some day I won't be able to handle it.
The biggest mark she has made on my life, though, was when she stole money from me. My mother actually does this to me quite frequently, but in this instance it was $220 from a fundraiser so I could attend an educational week in New York. I found out when I checked my bank account to see how much I had left to raise, and I noticed money being transferred to her account and transactions being made near her work. When I confronted her about it, she denied it. Then she claimed it was for food. However, my dad returned to court for full custody, she claimed in the mediation that the money was rightfully hers because she had already made payments towards the trip.
My father never gained full custody. He was forced to come to an agreement with her because he could not afford to continue. In this new custody, he added a section where my mother had to pay me back all of the money by a certain date. My mother claimed to only pay me back because she had to, and did so by putting a check in my birthday card. This was incredibly hurtful for me because the incident had made me very untrustful, which she knew because I had taken her to counseling with me.
Besides stealing, her emotional abuse typically appears in the form of yelling and cursing and name-calling, especially when she's angry (even if it's not at me; she tends to blame me for things that aren't my fault). Likewise, she often blackens my father's name by accusing him of things he has never remotely done - and I know he has never done them after much doubt and questioning of family and friends, specifically those whom were present for the incidents. After experiencing her cold shoulder for much time, I have come to brush her off even when she is a good mood because I still feel hurt. My mother's emotional abuse has even caused my older sister to move out before she was 18.
I'm at a loss for what to do. I have told my father and his wife, as well as my school and personal counselor, teachers, police officers, and family members. No one so far has taken me seriously, and it makes me feel helpless. To make matters worse, I have a Bipolar II with a seasonal pattern, which my mother refuses to take seriously (even though I see a doctor and therapist for it). So far I have been told to wait it out, but in all honesty, the things my mother has done has made me suicidal. And of course, I don't want to die - I want to be helped. But I fear that some day I won't be able to handle it.
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