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    My mother has been married to my father since the year I was born (2004). My father had three kids and a different wife before my mother. My mother had an abusive husband before my current dad and she had a kid and then divorced him. My dad got my mom pregnant and then married me and adopted my brother. When I was around three or four my father would choke my mom, and slap her. Sometimes dragging her up the wall by her throat. This went on until I was around six. My brother would always be there for me, try to take my mind off of it while it was happening. My mom and dad would be screaming and fighting and my brother and I would be sitting in his room watching a movie or something. My dad stopped abusing my mom when I threatened to call the cops. Even though he stopped physically abusing my mom, he would still verbally abuse not only her but me and my brother. I vaguely remember my brother coming home for a while after school and getting ready for work, my father asked my brother to fold the laundry and my brother didn't have time to do this so he said he would do it when he gets home. So my father grabbed my brother by the throat and pushed him on the couch. When I was 12 my father moved out and my parents got separated, not divorced. Although they were separated my father would still somehow find a way to weasel his way back into our lives or find a way to make me more stressed. When my father moved out my mom, who was already bad enough while they were still married, became essentially sociopathic. She treated my brother and I like ********, she would yell at me and my brother, she would smack me and choke me. My brother would go to school and then go to work to avoid having to deal with my mom. One day my brother had finally had enough of it. After all the abuse and all of the stuff, my mom threatened to take his car and this was his breaking point. While my mom was out hanging with her friends my brother left. He didn't take the car, his phone or anything that she had bought. He moved in with his girlfriend and he is still living with her (he moved out in April. it's currently November.)
    She says that he was spoiled and takes her for granted but he didn't. Ever since he moved out, she has taken all of her anger out on me. Shes smacked me, choked me, she constantly calls me names and makes fun of things I do. I feel like I can't do this anymore and I need to get out of the house but I don't know where to go because I´m only fourteen.
    Occasionally I will take some small stuff, like change I find in the washer or on the floor. Or I will take some shampoo and lotion that I need. I´ll put this plain and simple, my brother had a car that I wanted, and my abusive father wants to take it and sell it for a truck that in my opinion he doesn't deserve, so I took the key and put it in my room.
    -- I forgot to mention that my grandma and brother are the only ones that have ever been there for me. My grandmother lives about 30 minutes away and will always get me what I need. She's extremely generous and cares so much more for me then anyone else has ever.

    Can someone please tell me how to get out of this situation, where do I go? I wanna get out of this situation without having to deal with any big legal things.

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    Hi there, Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what it has been like for you at home and with the people in your life. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 even though you mentioned that you don’t want to get legal issues involved. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.
    Also another way you can seek help is reaching out to a friend, teacher, or counselor at school that can help you look for resources. Your mental health is important. You can also look at SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at (call them directly at 1-877-726-4727) or NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness 1-800-950-NAMI to help you find the support that you need. If you do ever feel in direct danger, to yourself, or some else makes you feel that way, please call out to 911 or reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).
    We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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